Originally posted by Heidi
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Funny choice of words...I'm not American.
Your side bar says Wisconsin..so I assumed. Apologies
Honestly, though, I DO get what you're saying. I realize that in a lot of cultures it IS common practice. But, I believe in those cultures, in born of necessity, and even if no longer necessary for the baby's safety, it's part of their culture. In our culture, it's a fad. We actually have the luxury of making it a choice (and even arguing about it). THAT"S American Ethnocentrism...:: I believe in all sincerity that it is not (or if we must argue that point, that it should not be a fad.) As a first world society, I think we might be raising children that have some serious issues with their own self worth.
You can carry your babies and I can roll my eyes at you about it (maybe a little), and we can act like it really matters in the long run of their development. In reality, it's probably a minor blip on their developmental radar, KWIM? Your kids and my kids are well-adjusted because we loved them, nurtured them, encouraged them, and made sure their bellies were full and they got enough rest. This is probably true, in the same way that breastfeeding is unarguably the best way for babies to eat, but formula will satisfy their need to eat and survive.
There are people in THIS country who can't or won't do those things, much less debate baby wearing. THIS is absolutely true!!
I really wasn't attacking your decision to carry you babies, and we clearly got side-tracked on this thread (as we often do). I apologize if I offended you. Oh, and sorry, OP! As far as daycare goes, yeah, don't bring me your worn, co-slept baby and expect them to be very happy with me! I haven't actually had that happen yet, though. No offense. I am ok with agreeing to disagree. It is more the ones that claim I am doing some kind of irreparable damage to myself or the children that I find offensive. Doing things differently is how the world operates. We value different things. And that is ok.
Your side bar says Wisconsin..so I assumed. Apologies
Honestly, though, I DO get what you're saying. I realize that in a lot of cultures it IS common practice. But, I believe in those cultures, in born of necessity, and even if no longer necessary for the baby's safety, it's part of their culture. In our culture, it's a fad. We actually have the luxury of making it a choice (and even arguing about it). THAT"S American Ethnocentrism...:: I believe in all sincerity that it is not (or if we must argue that point, that it should not be a fad.) As a first world society, I think we might be raising children that have some serious issues with their own self worth.
You can carry your babies and I can roll my eyes at you about it (maybe a little), and we can act like it really matters in the long run of their development. In reality, it's probably a minor blip on their developmental radar, KWIM? Your kids and my kids are well-adjusted because we loved them, nurtured them, encouraged them, and made sure their bellies were full and they got enough rest. This is probably true, in the same way that breastfeeding is unarguably the best way for babies to eat, but formula will satisfy their need to eat and survive.
There are people in THIS country who can't or won't do those things, much less debate baby wearing. THIS is absolutely true!!
I really wasn't attacking your decision to carry you babies, and we clearly got side-tracked on this thread (as we often do). I apologize if I offended you. Oh, and sorry, OP! As far as daycare goes, yeah, don't bring me your worn, co-slept baby and expect them to be very happy with me! I haven't actually had that happen yet, though. No offense. I am ok with agreeing to disagree. It is more the ones that claim I am doing some kind of irreparable damage to myself or the children that I find offensive. Doing things differently is how the world operates. We value different things. And that is ok.
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