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Originally posted by Blackcat31 View Post
My child has/had special needs (I say 'had' only because they aren't a child any longer) and I couldn't imagine my child being cared for in an environment not aware of, not trained or not wanting to deal with my child's unique need.
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Originally posted by littlefriends View PostOkay so what if this mom is also consistently late picking up? Several times a week she will be 5-15, 20 min after my closing time and give no explanation or even say she’s sorry and a few times has gotten stuck at work and “forgotten” to let me know. Those nights were 30-40 min after I closed. What if I terminated on those grounds, never even mentioning anything to do with disability?
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Originally posted by TomCopeland View PostIf you are consistently enforcing your late pick up, by terminating other families who are constantly late, then by terminating a family whose child has a disability for being consistently late is not illegal discrimination because it has nothing to do with the disability. If you don't terminate other families who are consistently late, then to do so only for a family with a disability would be illegal discrimination.
And this is a great reason to enforce our all of our policies from the get-go. So often, the triggering reason we want to terminate a family is just part of a whole host of other issues that we should already have terminated for. If this were a parent who had her act together, she wouldn't have brought her child, who needs more specialized care, to you in the first place.
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Originally posted by Pestle View Postlovethis
If this were a parent who had her act together, she wouldn't have brought her child, who needs more specialized care, to you in the first place.
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Originally posted by MarinaVanessa View PostSometimes, but not always true. I had no choice but to keep my DD in "regular" childcare because I could not afford specialized childcare. I couldn't even get her in for a proper evaluation because I made too much to qualify for government medical services but I also didn't make enough money to afford everything she needed. Having a child with special needs is difficult on everyone all around.
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Originally posted by MarinaVanessa View PostSometimes, but not always true. I had no choice but to keep my DD in "regular" childcare because I could not afford specialized childcare. I couldn't even get her in for a proper evaluation because I made too much to qualify for government medical services but I also didn't make enough money to afford everything she needed. Having a child with special needs is difficult on everyone all around.
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Originally posted by hwichlaz View PostIf they are under 3 they qualify for an evaluation with early intervention regardless of financial status. Some therapy organizations base their services on income, others do not. Easter Seals and the Elks give free early intervention and occupational therapy to any child that needs it. The problem....the resources aren’t generally known.
ADHD isn't taken as seriously as someone who has a physical or other disability so it has been an uphill battle for us. There are lots of options and services available to kids with disabilities/special needs, if you have the right diagnosis.
In any case we've struggled but grew and she's 13 now, still in therapies but at least not on medication anymore. And she hasn't tried to kill me in 3 years so that's a plus ::
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Originally posted by MarinaVanessa View PostThey wouldn't do an evaluation on her that young because she had ADHD and they said it could just be behavioral and to wait it out. When she was 4 I got her into Head Start where they referred her to the school phsycologist (it was on public school grounds so I was able to take advantage of the school district's resources) and was told the same thing ... that it was behavior. With the help of the teacher, we were able to at least get a behavioral therapist assigned to her during class. When she turned 5 I got another assessment done (independent) and that's when she got her diagnosis (ADHD, anxiety, depression, OCD, ODD).
ADHD isn't taken as seriously as someone who has a physical or other disability so it has been an uphill battle for us. There are lots of options and services available to kids with disabilities/special needs, if you have the right diagnosis.
In any case we've struggled but grew and she's 13 now, still in therapies but at least not on medication anymore. And she hasn't tried to kill me in 3 years so that's a plus ::
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Originally posted by hwichlaz View PostUnfortunately, once they are 3 and the school district has to take over, you have to practically have a law degree to wade through the BS. I lucked out. I had a daycare dad who was a school psychologist at another district. He taught me the rules, and wrote the first letter for me. I still had an uphill fight.
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Originally posted by Ariana View PostI would absolutely terminate for being late. It is in your contract, hopefully you have some sort of proof and boom she is gone!
I would not trust anyone who did not bring their child for an interview. She came during her lunch break so she could avoid you seeing her child. What kind of mother does that or puts their child where they are not wanted or able to be taken care of effectively. If she has issues finding care she needs to go to the government for assistance. My nephew was diagnosed with cerebral palsy and my brother gets money to pay for a live out nanny. His needs are too great for a home daycare with one person.
I had a woman show up to an interview without her children and I never contacted her after that. Huge red flag and she mentioned in passing her child was a preemie with a breathing issue...it all made sense why she came without her kids.
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Originally posted by hwichlaz View PostIf they are under 3 they qualify for an evaluation with early intervention regardless of financial status. Some therapy organizations base their services on income, others do not. Easter Seals and the Elks give free early intervention and occupational therapy to any child that needs it. The problem....the resources aren’t generally known.
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Originally posted by TomCopeland View PostIf you are consistently enforcing your late pick up, by terminating other families who are constantly late, then by terminating a family whose child has a disability for being consistently late is not illegal discrimination because it has nothing to do with the disability. If you don't terminate other families who are consistently late, then to do so only for a family with a disability would be illegal discrimination.
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Originally posted by littlefriends View PostI haven’t been doing this long enough to have had to terminate anyone yet. I’ve had wonderful families so far, luckily. I have been giving her late pick up fee notices and I’ve been writing down times on my calendar. She tries to be sneaky and write what she wants on my sign in/out sheets.
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Tom, would the OP be in the clear if they tried to get this client to drop out by charging every family by the minute for late pick ups? And refusing to accept drop offs if there are outstanding late fees?
If they have had no other families with consistently late pick ups, would they be in the clear to terminate care on the spot with the next late pick up? Or just send a notice of termination right now?
When I make policy changes based on lessons learned from one challenging family, I apply them to all the families . . . none of whom really mind, since they were more or less in line all along.
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