Originally posted by Cradle2crayons
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4 mo who is not a "good" sleeper (hasn't learned any self-soothing), is a good example. Over the past few days, I have been helping her (gently) learn to go to sleep without rocking and singing a specific song (not sharing name in order to stay anonymous).
Yesterday before nap, I changed her diaper, and began singing the song. She looked me straight in the eye and CRIED. She KNEW what was comming next just because at home, they sing her that song, walk around, and hold her paci in her mouth for her until she falls asleep. Then, they "sneak" her into bed.
I say: Think it about it from her perspective for a second. First of all, it's disrespectful, IMO, to "fool" her like that. Also, she falls asleep cuddles and sung to, and then wakes up alone. Confusing and maybe a little scary.
I put her to bed, talked to her soothingly, gave her the top of her blanket to hold (she likes to hold a finger, and this is as close as I could give her), put her paci in. Then I said 'Night night" and left. She fussed, so I went in again (2 minutes), replaced paci, smiled, and left. Rinse and repeat 2x, once after 4 minutes, once after 6 or so (estimate). Then it was quiet, and she slept for 3 hours without a peep. When she woke up she was smiling at me like "FINALLY!". ::
So, that was 12 minutes of work, vs. the "5 minutes" I was supposed to walk and sing to her, all the while leaving any other children in the group unattended.
That is NOT CIO, yet she was supported and given the message that she is a capable little human being.
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