It's Official, I Have Now Seen Everything

[Bookworm]

In my center, we have a group of about 6 parents that we call "Klingons" because they just can't let their child at drop off especially if their child wants to go play. They spend at least 10 min trying to get their child to say bye a billion times or just one more hug.

Well, one of the Klingons did drop off and started her act. DCK was ignoring her so shwent to the center DCK was playing in. After 5 attempts to make her child cry and several attempts by us to get mom to leave, mom walked over to DCK and told her that if she didn't tell Mommy bye mommy was going to cry until she told her bye. So do you know what Mommy did, she made herself cry. It wasn't just a few tears. Oh no, it was full blown hysterics complete with hitching breaths. This freaked DCK out so she started crying along with 4 other kids who were just as scared.

Our jaws hit the floor. I'm glad another parent was in the room because no one would have believe us. It took the three of us (coworker and other parent) to calm the kids down. My coworker carried DCK to mom for a final kiss and walked mom to the door. I don't think I've ever been this p***** off with a parent. The other parent in the room was so mad she was shaking and many coworker had to go stand on the porch go calm down.

WHO DOES THIS TO THEIR OWN CHILD! What kind of parent are you if you think this was ok to do to your child? I'm getting mad all over again.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Do you have the ability to tell a parent like this, "Sue, it is time for you to go NOW. Thank you." and basically shove her out the door? That is unacceptable.

[melilley]

I like your term for parents who do this. ::

When I worked in a center, we had a set of twin boys that would cry at drop off and on. On the days they were fine dcm would stand at the door yelling bye to them until at least one would run up to them or cry then when mom left sometimes dad would come in right after and do the same thing! We also had another child who was shy and it took a while for him to warm up to us and when he finally did, dcd would do the same thing, stand at the door and say bye until dcb cried. I don't get it either.

[KSDC]

I don't know how it works in a center, but I would not put up with this in my home. I would be meeting this parent at the door. The good bye would be made short and sweet. If she wants to do an extended crying good bye, she can do it before the child gets in the door.

[NeedaVaca]

I seriously gasped when I read this! Will anything be said to her?? I realize you work in a center so things are handled differently but if this were to take place in my house she would get an earful...Those poor kids!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I think I would have gently taken her by the arm, pointed to a chair, and said, "Here is the crying chair. When you are done throwing a tantrum you may get up." ::

In all reality, though, she does need to be told that if her child tells her no or has moved on their merry little way then she is TEACHING her child disrespect, and other parent's children, and the crap needs to stop.

[Leigh]

Do you have the ability to tell a parent like this, "Sue, it is time for you to go NOW. Thank you." and basically shove her out the door? That is unacceptable.

I don't know how it works in a center, but I would not put up with this in my home. I would be meeting this parent at the door. The good bye would be made short and sweet. If she wants to do an extended crying good bye, she can do it before the child gets in the door.

Do you have this recorded? If possible, I'd schedule a sit-down with Mom and have her watch the video. Let her see what she did to her child and the rest of the group. Tell her flat out "this is unacceptable and will not happen here again. From now on, one of us will meet you at the door for drop-off, and we need to keep goodbyes to 5 seconds or less". Suggest that she do her goodbyes in the car before coming in, and let her know that if it happens again, that she will need to take her child back home with her for that day.

[SignMeUp]

I have a parent almost like this. Works herself in a frizzle when her toddler won't cry and cling to her. Holds an almost two-year-old like a three-month-old, cradling the head and telling me how toddler really prefers warmed bottles. (Bottles?! :
I have set limits on her daily. After close to a year of this, she has "just discovered" that if she sets toddler down, toddler runs happily to play. Go figure :: She must be a genius

[e.j.]

Do you have this recorded? If possible, I'd schedule a sit-down with Mom and have her watch the video. Let her see what she did to her child and the rest of the group. Tell her flat out "this is unacceptable and will not happen here again. From now on, one of us will meet you at the door for drop-off, and we need to keep goodbyes to 5 seconds or less". Suggest that she do her goodbyes in the car before coming in, and let her know that if it happens again, that she will need to take her child back home with her for that day.

Was thinking the same thing.

[e.j.]

I have a parent almost like this. Works herself in a frizzle when her toddler won't cry and cling to her. Holds an almost two-year-old like a three-month-old, cradling the head and telling me how toddler really prefers warmed bottles. (Bottles?! :
I have set limits on her daily. After close to a year of this, she has "just discovered" that if she sets toddler down, toddler runs happily to play. Go figure :: She must be a genius

Wow! That's crazy, too!

[Play Care]

I think I would have gently taken her by the arm, pointed to a chair, and said, "Here is the crying chair. When you are done throwing a tantrum you may get up." ::

In all reality, though, she does need to be told that if her child tells her no or has moved on their merry little way then she is TEACHING her child disrespect, and other parent's children, and the crap needs to stop.

LMBO!!! I just died!!::::::

[BumbleBee]

Do you have this recorded? If possible, I'd schedule a sit-down with Mom and have her watch the video. Let her see what she did to her child and the rest of the group. Tell her flat out "this is unacceptable and will not happen here again. From now on, one of us will meet you at the door for drop-off, and we need to keep goodbyes to 5 seconds or less". Suggest that she do her goodbyes in the car before coming in, and let her know that if it happens again, that she will need to take her child back home with her for that day.

This is the route I would go. Even if you don't have it recorded, I'd still schedule a meeting and tell her it's NOT ok and enough is enough.

[TwinKristi]

Do you have this recorded? If possible, I'd schedule a sit-down with Mom and have her watch the video. Let her see what she did to her child and the rest of the group. Tell her flat out "this is unacceptable and will not happen here again. From now on, one of us will meet you at the door for drop-off, and we need to keep goodbyes to 5 seconds or less". Suggest that she do her goodbyes in the car before coming in, and let her know that if it happens again, that she will need to take her child back home with her for that day.

I agree!! What she did borders emotional abuse.

[Leigh]

I think I would have gently taken her by the arm, pointed to a chair, and said, "Here is the crying chair. When you are done throwing a tantrum you may get up." ::

In all reality, though, she does need to be told that if her child tells her no or has moved on their merry little way then she is TEACHING her child disrespect, and other parent's children, and the crap needs to stop.

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I laughed out loud. I would LOVE to see a recording of this!

[Bookworm]

We do have video so i told my Director to watch. She did get a call and they will be meeting tonight. My Director also called the other parent or thank her and apologize for this morning. We have done door dropoffs before for other parents but it's been a while. We've also had to ask parents to leave because they were a distraction. We only have to do for the Kingons. The few kids that cry at drop off, their parents get them settled in or hands them off to one'll us and leaves. The sad part is that DCK really looks forward to coming to DC and Mom is doing everything to sabotage this. Now I don't know if she did this at their former center, but seems to me that she is too comfortable using psychological abuse on her own child. And then to freely act like that in front of anybody? My mind is officially blown. BTW, feel free to steal "Klingons".