I am a relatively new family child care provider. That being said, I am also a homeschooling mother of 3 kids ages 4, 7, and 9; I have been through many trials by fire raising my kids, including parenting a newborn, 3-year-old, and 5-year-old alone for a year while my husband was deployed to Afghanistan. So I know just a little bit about raising kids & keeping a good attitude under stress.
I say all that to give some background for this situation:
I have a 4-month-old infant in my care. He has been here for 2 months. His parents are first-time parents, and naturally they are worried about everything. I can understand that, I've been there myself. However, I'm starting to feel a bit trampled on, and I'm not sure just how accommodating I am supposed to be in this situation.
Mom insists that I follow a strict feeding schedule, and she gets very upset if I am not able to stick to it 100%. For example: Baby is supposed to eat every 3 hours. On one particular morning, baby's scheduled feeding fell right when I needed to prepare breakfast for the other kids. Baby was asleep and content; 1-year-old was screaming because he was hungry. So I let baby sleep for an extra 20 mins while I got the other kids their breakfast. Mom has me tracking baby's feedings with an app that is synced to her phone, so she can see exactly when and how much baby is being fed. When she arrived to pick baby up, she was upset and asking why I let him go almost 4 hours in between feedings (it was actually 3-1/2 hours, but I chose not to split hairs). I explained the situation to her, but she was still upset and mentioned it again the next morning, asking me to please make sure he doesn't go past 3 hours. I'm sorry, but I have 6 other kids to care for; I have to constantly prioritize all their needs, and her child is not always going to come out on top.
I feel like she wants her child to get all my attention no matter what, just because he is an infant. Of course I make sure that he is fed and happy, changed when he needs to be, I rock him and play with him, etc -- just as I did with my own children when they were babies. This isn't my first rodeo, and it feels insulting being told what to do by a new parent. Yes it's her child, but it's my daycare, and I am not always going to be able to do things exactly the way she would like. The other kids' parents are also paying me to care for their children, and they need attention too.
I feel like it's an issue of trust more than anything -- do you trust me to care for your child? Do you really trust that I know what I'm doing and that I have your child's best interests in mind?
Has anyone else dealt with an issue like this? If so, how did you approach it? I hope I'm not overreacting. Thanks in advance.
I say all that to give some background for this situation:
I have a 4-month-old infant in my care. He has been here for 2 months. His parents are first-time parents, and naturally they are worried about everything. I can understand that, I've been there myself. However, I'm starting to feel a bit trampled on, and I'm not sure just how accommodating I am supposed to be in this situation.
Mom insists that I follow a strict feeding schedule, and she gets very upset if I am not able to stick to it 100%. For example: Baby is supposed to eat every 3 hours. On one particular morning, baby's scheduled feeding fell right when I needed to prepare breakfast for the other kids. Baby was asleep and content; 1-year-old was screaming because he was hungry. So I let baby sleep for an extra 20 mins while I got the other kids their breakfast. Mom has me tracking baby's feedings with an app that is synced to her phone, so she can see exactly when and how much baby is being fed. When she arrived to pick baby up, she was upset and asking why I let him go almost 4 hours in between feedings (it was actually 3-1/2 hours, but I chose not to split hairs). I explained the situation to her, but she was still upset and mentioned it again the next morning, asking me to please make sure he doesn't go past 3 hours. I'm sorry, but I have 6 other kids to care for; I have to constantly prioritize all their needs, and her child is not always going to come out on top.
I feel like she wants her child to get all my attention no matter what, just because he is an infant. Of course I make sure that he is fed and happy, changed when he needs to be, I rock him and play with him, etc -- just as I did with my own children when they were babies. This isn't my first rodeo, and it feels insulting being told what to do by a new parent. Yes it's her child, but it's my daycare, and I am not always going to be able to do things exactly the way she would like. The other kids' parents are also paying me to care for their children, and they need attention too.
I feel like it's an issue of trust more than anything -- do you trust me to care for your child? Do you really trust that I know what I'm doing and that I have your child's best interests in mind?
Has anyone else dealt with an issue like this? If so, how did you approach it? I hope I'm not overreacting. Thanks in advance.
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