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Originally posted by Play Care View PostOh it could work, I'm just thinking more about the "my child doesn't like that so he shouldn't have to do it" mentality. I have dcp's who were mortified when their child went to K screening and refused to do the tasks because "he didn't feel like it" when I had tried to let them know all along that this was what he did here. But it wasn't a big deal until it carried over to school.
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Originally posted by Play Care View PostOh it could work, I'm just thinking more about the "my child doesn't like that so he shouldn't have to do it" mentality. I have dcp's who were mortified when their child went to K screening and refused to do the tasks because "he didn't feel like it" when I had tried to let them know all along that this was what he did here. But it wasn't a big deal until it carried over to school.
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Originally posted by mnemom View PostI am a total wimp. I have learned it is easier to text or email the parents when I have an issue then to say it to their face. I also state that I am texting or emailing then because it is not a subject I want to talk about in front if their child but blah blah blah how I feel about whatever it is. I suck at saying something in the moment.
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Originally posted by Play Care View PostOh it could work, I'm just thinking more about the "my child doesn't like that so he shouldn't have to do it" mentality.
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Originally posted by Familycare71 View PostMy fav is replying to dad- well we have rest time every day here at xxx. If you want him to miss it you could have him picked up at xxx. Let me know!
When dcb says daddy says I don't have to nap- respond- hmmm... He didnt tell me he was picking you up so he must have changed his mind-
Put it back on dad-
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Originally posted by nothingwithoutjoy View PostPlease help me figure out what to say to one of the parents in my program.
His 3-year-old comes twice a week, and at home, nap is pretty much optional, so of course, he's not in the habit and won't nap for me. He's clearly tired. Naturally he's bored during the 2-hour nap time. And I'm frustrated, because inevitably, no matter how quiet he tries to be, the other kids wake up earlier when he's here and I get less work done.
To me, nap time is not optional. It is an essential part of our day, both for the kids (who need the rest and the alone time) and for me (who needs the rest and the alone time, and who does a lot of documentation/communicating with parents/planning/etc. during that time). I've been teaching for 20 years, and back then, it was assumed that all 3-year-olds nap. Nowadays, it feels like I'm constantly arguing with parents about nap. No one can bother slowing down enough to set aside nap time in their day. I can be firm about this in writing (and it's in my handbook, and in an absurd number of email discussions with parents).
What I find incredibly difficult is the little comments at pick-up time. "We talk about it every day. He doesn't want to come in the mornings because he doesn't want to have to take a nap." I just don't know what to say to that--again and again and again, because whatever I've said in the past clearly hasn't gotten through.
I need a friendly, not-sarcastic, quick and firm response. Ideas?
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Originally posted by littlemissmuffet View PostYou need to just tell them exactly that - not napping is NOT an option.
When parents start discussing that their child no longer needs a nap I let them know that I don't care for non nappers... NannyD always says "If a child has outgrown nap, they have outgrown my program"... and that is true of me as well.
In my case, the parents never mention it again and the child always stays (and naps) ::
I truly believe their are kids out there that don't need naps, fight it and can manage with out it. Those kids are not right for my program. They need nanny care or relative care that is willing to go that distance with the child. Group care is not in a non nappers best interest.
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Originally posted by mrsnj View PostTo me allowing to stay up to assist is rewarding bad behavior for not following rules. How do you explain to the others little John can stay up but you have to nap? Rules are rules. You break for one you allow for others to follow. It's a rule. Be done with it. I do the " they don't have to nap but they do have to rest". In the end most times they fall asleep. And if not that's ok too. But they must lay down and they must be quiet
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Originally posted by nothingwithoutjoy View PostOh, I wish!
He used to do all sorts of quietly problematic stuff--pushing an ottoman until it went slid over another sleeping child, for example. But I quickly got him understanding that he is to be quiet on his mat. He lies there and is quiet, but is clearly fighting sleep (you know how they start to fidget or something the minute they start to nod off). Just to be safe (sure the other kids won't be disturbed), once I get the others to sleep, I move him to a pack-n-play in another room. (I do it that way rather than start him there because I really don't want to have to set up a pack-n-play all the time, and I hate putting a 3-year-old in one, and I have guilt about isolating him, and my real goal is to have him napping on a mat.)
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Originally posted by JoseyJo View PostYep! I see that here a lot too. Out of our 3 that just left for K one of them is of that mentality (or actually I should say his mom is, and it has affected him!!). He is off to K now and I can't help but wonder what his teacher thinks of him thinking every learning activity is optional (and I wonder if his mom still does!!)
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Originally posted by nothingwithoutjoy View PostYeah. I like the put-it-back-on-dad thing. Wish I could be this bold in person. Maybe my handbook should say that about picking up! Cut it off before it happens! :-)
If you can't verbally spell it out to the parent, put something in writing, a note home-
Dear Parents,
Naps/rest/quiet time at XY and Z's daycare are non-negotiable please make sure your child understand this is what we do here. Thank you for your cooperation. Ms Joy
if they need to discuss this further with you just explain again and ask if they need to give you a notice. I would then call the parent if it the child would not be quiet during this time. Not fair to your group care-
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Originally posted by My3cents View PostThree year old would be on a mat not a pack and play. I don't think they are made for that age. Every time the kid got off the mat I would put him back on and give him a firm NO, rinse and repeat. I would also put the child in a place that the child is going to stay once he does fall asleep. Maybe next to a child that will sleep through anything. If after two weeks its a no go, then I would tell the parent its not working out or give them the option to pick him up at nap time for the rest of the day.
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We only take ages 18 months and up...
State says all walkers must be on a mat, not a crib or PNP.
My nap policy is simple, you do not have to sleep. However, you do have to lay on your mat, be still, be quiet, and close your eyes. Sleeping is optional
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Originally posted by littlemissmuffet View PostYou need to just tell them exactly that - not napping is NOT an option.
When parents start discussing that their child no longer needs a nap I let them know that I don't care for non nappers... NannyD always says "If a child has outgrown nap, they have outgrown my program"... and that is true of me as well.
In my case, the parents never mention it again and the child always stays (and naps) ::
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