Just for the summer I have a boy who gets very violent when he is corrected. He was originally diagnosed with opposition defiance disorder and now its aspergers. I am trying to learn as much about this as I can by meanwhile the other dck's are in danger whenever I need to correct him.
For example, no child is allowed to play with the computer keyboard (its wireless so it can be carried around easily). All kids obey this rule very well. However, this boy grabbed it, I walked up to him and said "Remember the rule that only an adult can grab the keyboard, please give it to me" He refused. I put my hand on the keyboard. He then screamed and began hitting me, kicking me, throwing the table bench, anything on the counter, and the garbage can.
I attempted to guide him upstairs where he could be alone and away from the kids. I did NOT grab him to try and do this. I guided his back. He still was punching and kicking me and screaming. After upstairs, he tried to throw the furniture upstairs and went at me again where I almost fell down the stairs.
This whole time I am calmly telling him "I'm bringing you upstairs because you are hurting me and throwing things, you can be mad and calm down up here."
After about 10 minutes, he is absolutely fine. Its just during these times that its a danger and I end up with bruises.
I tell the parents about this and asked what they do to calm him down that may help here because otherwise I call them and have him picked up.
I physically start to shake when he does this because my adrenaline gets going so bad.
Does anyone have experience with this? Am I doing something seriously wrong with him?
Note: I do talk to him about his reaction afterwards and guide him to telling me what was done wrong on his end and what he should do next time he gets mad and wants to hurt someone or throw things. Don't know if it help ANY but I do it.
For example, no child is allowed to play with the computer keyboard (its wireless so it can be carried around easily). All kids obey this rule very well. However, this boy grabbed it, I walked up to him and said "Remember the rule that only an adult can grab the keyboard, please give it to me" He refused. I put my hand on the keyboard. He then screamed and began hitting me, kicking me, throwing the table bench, anything on the counter, and the garbage can.
I attempted to guide him upstairs where he could be alone and away from the kids. I did NOT grab him to try and do this. I guided his back. He still was punching and kicking me and screaming. After upstairs, he tried to throw the furniture upstairs and went at me again where I almost fell down the stairs.
This whole time I am calmly telling him "I'm bringing you upstairs because you are hurting me and throwing things, you can be mad and calm down up here."
After about 10 minutes, he is absolutely fine. Its just during these times that its a danger and I end up with bruises.
I tell the parents about this and asked what they do to calm him down that may help here because otherwise I call them and have him picked up.
I physically start to shake when he does this because my adrenaline gets going so bad.
Does anyone have experience with this? Am I doing something seriously wrong with him?
Note: I do talk to him about his reaction afterwards and guide him to telling me what was done wrong on his end and what he should do next time he gets mad and wants to hurt someone or throw things. Don't know if it help ANY but I do it.
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