Sorry, its a little long....
This weekend I got to spend some time with my husbands family. While I was there, we got on the topic of how my niece is doing in her new home daycare. She started there full time back in August.
A little history, back in July, she was in my daycare for a few days, her parents are divorcing and she has some special needs. I cared for her until my MIL found her a place that sounded like a "great provider" that works with special needs children.
The DC also runs a learning/preschool type program. My SIL and MIL were showing me some of her work she has done at DC. Oh btw she just turned 4 two weeks ago. She can not communicate well and is no where near potty trained.
One of the items was a piece of colored paper sectioned off into four squares with the numbers 1-4 written on it out of order. She was made to glue the proper amount of pumpkin seeds into the corresponding number square.
I was really taken back that someone who claims to know how to teach to think that this would be an age appropriate project for a child of her age.
My SIL goes on to tell me that because she did it wrong, the DCP put her in time out. Conversation goes on and I am told that every time she gets an answer wrong or does not do her work she goes to time out. Free play is not often and that most of the time its all about academics.
My MIL pulls out this huge 2.5inch 3 ring note book and it is full of a million worksheets. All of them are graded. Like you would see in first grade or higher. One example she got 22/30 correct. All of the ones that were wrong the DCP drew sad faces on them and then NO in bright red on a lot of them as well. She also has to do homework nightly.....And it's once again worksheets.
I tried to give them my two cents about it, but just to get ignored. I told them how important play is at this age, how important it is to focus on her verbal skills and learning to cope with her feelings, and so on and so on..
Also going on, the DCP has been texting my SIL daily that her child is getting into trouble, not doing her classwork and is refusing to listen, this is all new behavior from her. She is also getting bitten at least 2x or more a week. The DCP has a large license and I believe 2 other helps. There are 4 to 5 infants in attendance almost daily.
Again I tried to explain all of the negative affects that this brings on my niece, that the DCP is hurting and not helping. I want them to pull her out of there.
I know that If I can find the right things to stay to my SIL and MIL they will listen. I just can't believe how horrible this place sounds. Sounds like to me this DCP has no idea how to teach children and sounds like she has spread herself way too thin..
How can I help? What should I say or do? I am so upset about this. I just want to really get my Niece out of there. I don't know if there is anything that can be done about the provider punishing the kids for not doing classwork, which frustrates me even more. No child should be punished for this.
This weekend I got to spend some time with my husbands family. While I was there, we got on the topic of how my niece is doing in her new home daycare. She started there full time back in August.
A little history, back in July, she was in my daycare for a few days, her parents are divorcing and she has some special needs. I cared for her until my MIL found her a place that sounded like a "great provider" that works with special needs children.
The DC also runs a learning/preschool type program. My SIL and MIL were showing me some of her work she has done at DC. Oh btw she just turned 4 two weeks ago. She can not communicate well and is no where near potty trained.
One of the items was a piece of colored paper sectioned off into four squares with the numbers 1-4 written on it out of order. She was made to glue the proper amount of pumpkin seeds into the corresponding number square.
I was really taken back that someone who claims to know how to teach to think that this would be an age appropriate project for a child of her age.
My SIL goes on to tell me that because she did it wrong, the DCP put her in time out. Conversation goes on and I am told that every time she gets an answer wrong or does not do her work she goes to time out. Free play is not often and that most of the time its all about academics.
My MIL pulls out this huge 2.5inch 3 ring note book and it is full of a million worksheets. All of them are graded. Like you would see in first grade or higher. One example she got 22/30 correct. All of the ones that were wrong the DCP drew sad faces on them and then NO in bright red on a lot of them as well. She also has to do homework nightly.....And it's once again worksheets.
I tried to give them my two cents about it, but just to get ignored. I told them how important play is at this age, how important it is to focus on her verbal skills and learning to cope with her feelings, and so on and so on..
Also going on, the DCP has been texting my SIL daily that her child is getting into trouble, not doing her classwork and is refusing to listen, this is all new behavior from her. She is also getting bitten at least 2x or more a week. The DCP has a large license and I believe 2 other helps. There are 4 to 5 infants in attendance almost daily.
Again I tried to explain all of the negative affects that this brings on my niece, that the DCP is hurting and not helping. I want them to pull her out of there.
I know that If I can find the right things to stay to my SIL and MIL they will listen. I just can't believe how horrible this place sounds. Sounds like to me this DCP has no idea how to teach children and sounds like she has spread herself way too thin..
How can I help? What should I say or do? I am so upset about this. I just want to really get my Niece out of there. I don't know if there is anything that can be done about the provider punishing the kids for not doing classwork, which frustrates me even more. No child should be punished for this.
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