I teach 4 yr olds in a small preschool and I am having some challenges with "childhood curiosity". I involves a boy and girl. For the past 6-7 weeks there have been incidents of pulling down pants, tongue touching and kissing. We (Director and I) have reported these incidents to both sets of parents and received different responses from the parents. Girl parents were upset because they don't know where this behavior is coming from and Boy's mom was upset because we told her about her child's actions.
It was decided that would closely monitor both of them to see when and where the incidents happen. It was quickly discovered that they happen when I get off work and the afternoon teacher takes over. Now before you ask, the afternoon had been completely informed of the situation and was ask to try to keep an eye on both of them as best she could. Well, needless to say, afternoon teacher didn't try to keep an eye out which led to an incident of genital touching (with fingers).
The next day, I was called into the office with the Director and Girl parents to tell me of the previous days incident. Girl's parents were understandably pissed. The Director stated she would talk to Boy's mom and I said that I will keep them separated. I then told the afternoon teacher what happened and asked her again to be vigilant.
Everything was fine for a few weeks, when I personally witnessed the two of them sneaking off together while we were on the playground. I immediatly followed them with another teacher and caught them trying to kiss. I pulled both children aside and called the Director and had a talk with both children about inappropriate touching and that they should only kiss mommy/daddy. Both parents were told about the incident and it was decided that they should no longer play together.
Did I handle this correctly? Is there anything that I should or shouldn't have done? What would you have done? I understand that children will be curious about such things but I think this maybe beyond natural curiosity.
It was decided that would closely monitor both of them to see when and where the incidents happen. It was quickly discovered that they happen when I get off work and the afternoon teacher takes over. Now before you ask, the afternoon had been completely informed of the situation and was ask to try to keep an eye on both of them as best she could. Well, needless to say, afternoon teacher didn't try to keep an eye out which led to an incident of genital touching (with fingers).
The next day, I was called into the office with the Director and Girl parents to tell me of the previous days incident. Girl's parents were understandably pissed. The Director stated she would talk to Boy's mom and I said that I will keep them separated. I then told the afternoon teacher what happened and asked her again to be vigilant.
Everything was fine for a few weeks, when I personally witnessed the two of them sneaking off together while we were on the playground. I immediatly followed them with another teacher and caught them trying to kiss. I pulled both children aside and called the Director and had a talk with both children about inappropriate touching and that they should only kiss mommy/daddy. Both parents were told about the incident and it was decided that they should no longer play together.
Did I handle this correctly? Is there anything that I should or shouldn't have done? What would you have done? I understand that children will be curious about such things but I think this maybe beyond natural curiosity.
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