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In a wait and see mode right now, and looking for other opinions:
Yesterday I arrive to pick up my Peanut from after Pre-K care. His ear is bright flaming red and slightly swollen. I ask very casually what happened. The Director overheard me, as she was at the counter prepping paperwork, and says, "Apparently he came in that way." However, at the same time my Peanut says, "a teacher hit me". I don't freak out yet, as I realize that my wee one is not always the most articulate story teller, and it is chaos at the front counter with parents signing children out. (I am initially off put by the Directors quick comment though, as I rarely see her- she is always hiding in her office- so how does she know he came in that way? I KNOW he did not.)
I pull peanut to the side to get more information and he says:
He was in the "Baby Room" with other kids and they weren't supposed to be playing with toys. Another boy picked up a dog toy, and he took it to put it back when the "teacher" saw him with it and slapped him in the face and ear. He then says he told her he was just putting the toy back and she said she was sorry.
I then walk back up to the Director and mention that my Peanut says a teacher hit him. She doesn't not even look at either of us and says, "A teacher hit you, who was it?" My little one says "I don't know her name." (She is an afternoon employee, and he is rarely with her, so why would he KNOW her name?" the Director says- in the most condescending tone I can covey through text, "Uh huh, you don't know her name."
It was just very dismissive of her.
I told her I wasn't going to be so dismissive about it and I would get the whole story from him that night. (I said it as nicely as I could. )
So last night he tells my husband and I, independently on four different recaps of the story, the exact same story every time. The "teacher" hit him, open handed, on the ear when she thought he was playing with the toy. He told her he was putting it back and she apologized. He then said everyone else was being bad in class, but not him and he got to watch a movie. (I can't help but wonder if a teacher was trying to make up to him for it).
This morning my husband goes in to talk to the Director, because he knows her attitude incenses me and I will probably over react.
She asks if Peanut can point out the teacher than did it, and he says that yes he can. She says she will figure out what happened.
I just got a call from the owner (because I called his old DayCare- I am actually really close with them, and it is owned by the same people. She prompted the call from the owner on my behalf.)
The owner tried to reassure me that she would help figure out what happened. I was very calm on the phone and explained that I was not trying to blow something out of proportion, but I would like a serious inquiry into what happened. I explained that the Director's dismissive attitude left me concerned that it would be investigated appropriately. I also asked if there was any form of documentation on which room and which teacher my child was with on a daily basis (as I know they can get shuffled around). She could not tell me if there was, but promised she would get involved. However, she did ask, "But the teacher apologized?" Does that make it ok? His ear is fine now- so there is no lasting evidence that this took place, only his story. He did describe her very well though, her skin color, her hair color, that she was skinny.
If this woman did slap my child...it's not like she is going to admit it! What do I do if the resolution is..."Oh, she bumped into him?"
Even Peanut thinks it was an accident- but from his conversation it seems like he thinks it was more of an accident because she slapped the WRONG child...he was putting the toy back where it went. (And at this age....nearly anything that is forgivable is an accident. i.e Mom, I threw the whole roll of TP in the toilet. It was an accident. ect)
We had a discussion last night that it is not ok to hit, or be hit, and anyone that hits him he should tell Mom and Dad. Ugggh. What to do?
Yesterday I arrive to pick up my Peanut from after Pre-K care. His ear is bright flaming red and slightly swollen. I ask very casually what happened. The Director overheard me, as she was at the counter prepping paperwork, and says, "Apparently he came in that way." However, at the same time my Peanut says, "a teacher hit me". I don't freak out yet, as I realize that my wee one is not always the most articulate story teller, and it is chaos at the front counter with parents signing children out. (I am initially off put by the Directors quick comment though, as I rarely see her- she is always hiding in her office- so how does she know he came in that way? I KNOW he did not.)
I pull peanut to the side to get more information and he says:
He was in the "Baby Room" with other kids and they weren't supposed to be playing with toys. Another boy picked up a dog toy, and he took it to put it back when the "teacher" saw him with it and slapped him in the face and ear. He then says he told her he was just putting the toy back and she said she was sorry.
I then walk back up to the Director and mention that my Peanut says a teacher hit him. She doesn't not even look at either of us and says, "A teacher hit you, who was it?" My little one says "I don't know her name." (She is an afternoon employee, and he is rarely with her, so why would he KNOW her name?" the Director says- in the most condescending tone I can covey through text, "Uh huh, you don't know her name."
It was just very dismissive of her.
I told her I wasn't going to be so dismissive about it and I would get the whole story from him that night. (I said it as nicely as I could. )
So last night he tells my husband and I, independently on four different recaps of the story, the exact same story every time. The "teacher" hit him, open handed, on the ear when she thought he was playing with the toy. He told her he was putting it back and she apologized. He then said everyone else was being bad in class, but not him and he got to watch a movie. (I can't help but wonder if a teacher was trying to make up to him for it).
This morning my husband goes in to talk to the Director, because he knows her attitude incenses me and I will probably over react.
She asks if Peanut can point out the teacher than did it, and he says that yes he can. She says she will figure out what happened.
I just got a call from the owner (because I called his old DayCare- I am actually really close with them, and it is owned by the same people. She prompted the call from the owner on my behalf.)
The owner tried to reassure me that she would help figure out what happened. I was very calm on the phone and explained that I was not trying to blow something out of proportion, but I would like a serious inquiry into what happened. I explained that the Director's dismissive attitude left me concerned that it would be investigated appropriately. I also asked if there was any form of documentation on which room and which teacher my child was with on a daily basis (as I know they can get shuffled around). She could not tell me if there was, but promised she would get involved. However, she did ask, "But the teacher apologized?" Does that make it ok? His ear is fine now- so there is no lasting evidence that this took place, only his story. He did describe her very well though, her skin color, her hair color, that she was skinny.
If this woman did slap my child...it's not like she is going to admit it! What do I do if the resolution is..."Oh, she bumped into him?"
Even Peanut thinks it was an accident- but from his conversation it seems like he thinks it was more of an accident because she slapped the WRONG child...he was putting the toy back where it went. (And at this age....nearly anything that is forgivable is an accident. i.e Mom, I threw the whole roll of TP in the toilet. It was an accident. ect)
We had a discussion last night that it is not ok to hit, or be hit, and anyone that hits him he should tell Mom and Dad. Ugggh. What to do?
: will wait
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