I usually post unregistered for these kinds of issues but I am just fed up and done with neglectful parents! I don't care if they see this and start making connections. So I am posting as is.
I have stated before that I have some very unclean children in care and I keep them because I feel bad for them I refuse to just push them away to someone else who may not care that they are dirty. What if they grow up thinking this is normal? Not only are they usually un bathed and in smelly dirty clothing but they are lacking so much basic knowledge I decided to kind of take them under my wing and prepare them so that they won't be behind when starting school. They can barely talk and 1 will be 4 yrs old come summer! There's enough kids tormented for issues these days so I try to help any way I can.
I am starting with the cleanliness issue. I have already bought them each a few outfits for here and thier coats I wash once a week. It's the long fingernails filled with black crud and poopy diapers upon arrival have just put me over the edge today! I drop hints everytime 1 arrives with a poopy diaper and the DCM just ignores it and rushes out the door. In a way I am glad because it stops the lingering issues I have with her. But now I am just sick of it! It's just rude and neglectful and she needs to take reponsibility for her children! I took advise from here before on the nail issue and started filling a tub with warm soapy water and toys every morning to soak and clean these nails. We play find the letter, number, color, animal etc. Even after soaking for 15 minutes of play sometimes they still don't come clean! I have to sit there and dig out the black dirt and they don't like it. It also took me 10 minutes to brush this poor little girls long hair this morning because it was so matted! It is NEVER brushed unless I brush it! When she arrives in the morning I just want to cry and yell at the Mom! How can she allow her sweet children to leave the house like this? I have decided I need to put a stronger entry in my handbook regarding cleanliness. Maybe if it is in black and white the parents will step up. If not then it was worth a try at least. I think I should keep it in there in case of future clients who may have the same neglectful issues.
So here is my old handbook entry vs my new one for the cleanliness part of Arrival and departure section. Is it too much, not enough, should I change wording? Any and all opinions are welcome! Thank u so much!
This is what I currently have in my handbook:
Please send your child clean and dressed for the day. ......and it goes on to explain the arrival / departure policy.
This is what I have changed it to:
Please send your child clean bathed and dressed for the day in clean clothing, including a fresh diaper (if applicable). I send children home in a clean diaper, I expect them to arrive in a clean diaper. If a child arrives in a soiled diaper you will be asked to change it before you leave. Please make sure their hair is combed/brushed and their fingernails are trimmed and clean. .......then the rest of the policy.
I have stated before that I have some very unclean children in care and I keep them because I feel bad for them I refuse to just push them away to someone else who may not care that they are dirty. What if they grow up thinking this is normal? Not only are they usually un bathed and in smelly dirty clothing but they are lacking so much basic knowledge I decided to kind of take them under my wing and prepare them so that they won't be behind when starting school. They can barely talk and 1 will be 4 yrs old come summer! There's enough kids tormented for issues these days so I try to help any way I can.
I am starting with the cleanliness issue. I have already bought them each a few outfits for here and thier coats I wash once a week. It's the long fingernails filled with black crud and poopy diapers upon arrival have just put me over the edge today! I drop hints everytime 1 arrives with a poopy diaper and the DCM just ignores it and rushes out the door. In a way I am glad because it stops the lingering issues I have with her. But now I am just sick of it! It's just rude and neglectful and she needs to take reponsibility for her children! I took advise from here before on the nail issue and started filling a tub with warm soapy water and toys every morning to soak and clean these nails. We play find the letter, number, color, animal etc. Even after soaking for 15 minutes of play sometimes they still don't come clean! I have to sit there and dig out the black dirt and they don't like it. It also took me 10 minutes to brush this poor little girls long hair this morning because it was so matted! It is NEVER brushed unless I brush it! When she arrives in the morning I just want to cry and yell at the Mom! How can she allow her sweet children to leave the house like this? I have decided I need to put a stronger entry in my handbook regarding cleanliness. Maybe if it is in black and white the parents will step up. If not then it was worth a try at least. I think I should keep it in there in case of future clients who may have the same neglectful issues.
So here is my old handbook entry vs my new one for the cleanliness part of Arrival and departure section. Is it too much, not enough, should I change wording? Any and all opinions are welcome! Thank u so much!
This is what I currently have in my handbook:
Please send your child clean and dressed for the day. ......and it goes on to explain the arrival / departure policy.
This is what I have changed it to:
Please send your child clean bathed and dressed for the day in clean clothing, including a fresh diaper (if applicable). I send children home in a clean diaper, I expect them to arrive in a clean diaper. If a child arrives in a soiled diaper you will be asked to change it before you leave. Please make sure their hair is combed/brushed and their fingernails are trimmed and clean. .......then the rest of the policy.
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