Can I Ask Parents This?

[Lil_Diddle]

I’m just curious, why reduce the number of days you offer?

[Valerie928]

I’m just curious, why reduce the number of days you offer?

I reduced my days back in March when the pandemic started.

[Sunshine69]

I’m glad you got an answer OP. It’s too bad your client didn’t follow your guidelines and tell you the truth to begin with.

I swear sometimes parents think we make rules just to give them a hard time and make more money. They have no clue the hoops we’re asked to jump through to stay in compliance with the existing and now new covid regulations and that following the regulations usually cost us money instead.

Keeping the same group of kids in care all week and not intermingling a daycare child with another daycare environment made sense. Now with the kids going back to school part-time and still coming to daycare part-time, it doesn’t seem to make that much sense.

[CountryRoads]

I termed them.

Good for you! Just curious how they reacted?

[Ariana]

I termed them.

Good for you! Such disrespect to deliberately put everyone at risk and try to hide it.

[Valerie928]

Good for you! Just curious how they reacted?

The reaction came from dad. Mom is too ...what's the word? She cares about herself. I don't expect anything from mom. Dad tried to tell me how honest they are with me?? Huh? Really? They lied to me. No other way around it. He just carried on and on. I simply said our arrangement is over. It felt good. I am very timid by nature so this was kind of a breakthrough for me.

[Unregistered]

Glad you termed! I can't stand when parents keep secrets from me that affect care. I had a mom hide moderate autism. Lied thru her teeth. I only figured it out when kid had a fit because he had a change in routine during a field trip that I was unprepared for. I termed for misrepresentation of a child's condition. She said she did it because when interviewing child care centers, she was always turned down due to the autism. I said to her that I would not turn down the autism, because I could at least prepare myself if I knew that you had it, but I do turn down people when they're not honest. I had to turn her because she needed to understand that that was not okay. It's not cool to have things like that sprung on both me and that child. That was not okay. Parents always think they can get around rules, and the reasons are always self-serving. I just don't have time for that

[rosieteddy]

You did the right thing.

[Mariposa]

Glad you termed! I can't stand when parents keep secrets from me that affect care. I had a mom hide moderate autism. Lied thru her teeth. I only figured it out when kid had a fit because he had a change in routine during a field trip that I was unprepared for. I termed for misrepresentation of a child's condition. She said she did it because when interviewing child care centers, she was always turned down due to the autism. I said to her that I would not turn down the autism, because I could at least prepare myself if I knew that you had it, but I do turn down people when they're not honest. I had to turn her because she needed to understand that that was not okay. It's not cool to have things like that sprung on both me and that child. That was not okay. Parents always think they can get around rules, and the reasons are always self-serving. I just don't have time for that

I had a mom who is otherwise great, and probably did it to protect him-age 5- not knowing my intentions, but she openly told me in the 1st meeting he had behavioral issues. 2nd neet I provided the form from DCYF and asked how I can accommodate. She backtracked.
Day one kid was on my outdoor toy house! Seriously! Within seconds! Kids ran outside and I was at the door putting on my sons shoes. He mellowed mostly but still. They were temp 2 x a week 1.5 months so I wasn't too worried, but he broke loads of toys. (Cheap toys, out of careless cluelessness, vs anger, so I did not ask for reimbursement.)
I only wanted it as a plan to help him succeed and know what I need to do. Not use it against him.
Claimed it was a food color allergy causing it so they eliminated it from his diet. Ha, that was half of it. He was off the walls without it.

[Valerie928]

It's a bit disheartening that I will probably never hear from the mom again. I cared for her child from 3 months old to 2.8 years.

[lovemykidstoo]

It's a bit disheartening that I will probably never hear from the mom again. I cared for her child from 3 months old to 2.8 years.

Good for you for standing up for you, your family and your daycare rules. I am curious though if you knew they had to work 5 days a week, where you thought dcg would go? Were you just nervous about her being in a large center versus a smaller in home like yours? It feels so good when you stand up to people trying to take advantage of you so awesome for you!!!! happyface

[Valerie928]

Good for you for standing up for you, your family and your daycare rules. I am curious though if you knew they had to work 5 days a week, where you thought dcg would go? Were you just nervous about her being in a large center versus a smaller in home like yours? It feels so good when you stand up to people trying to take advantage of you so awesome for you!!!! happyface

Mom works from home like a lot of folks now do. So, I knew she could be staying with mom on the days she wasn't here. I was worried about her going to a center because I worked in one for 7 years and no the germs are absolutely ridiculous. Been there done that. Didn't want dcg bringing that stuff into my home and made that clear to her parents who went and put her into a center anyway and didn't tell me. So, it was only right to terminate them. I already have a new kiddo on deck to start here🙂

[lovemykidstoo]

Mom works from home like a lot of folks now do. So, I knew she could be staying with mom on the days she wasn't here. I was worried about her going to a center because I worked in one for 7 years and no the germs are absolutely ridiculous. Been there done that. Didn't want dcg bringing that stuff into my home and made that clear to her parents who went and put her into a center anyway and didn't tell me. So, it was only right to terminate them. I already have a new kiddo on deck to start here🙂

Don't blame you at all. Good for you for sticking up for yourself!!! That isn't always easy to do.

[Valerie928]

Don't blame you at all. Good for you for sticking up for yourself!!! That isn't always easy to do.

It was really hard for me to terminate. But, I know I did the right thing and it feels great. The only thing that I am struggling with now is the mom. I CAN'T BELIEVE that I loved and cared for this kiddo for well over 2 years and mom has said NOTHING....nada ... I really want to say something to her because I can't believe I got no response from her, not even a goodbye. All the termination stuff has been dealt with by dad. Part of me wants to throw eggs at her house. So, just curious? Would you guys say something to mom or just let it be?

[Blackcat31]

It was really hard for me to terminate. But, I know I did the right thing and it feels great. The only thing that I am struggling with now is the mom. I CAN'T BELIEVE that I loved and cared for this kiddo for well over 2 years and mom has said NOTHING....nada ... I really want to say something to her because I can't believe I got no response from her, not even a goodbye. All the termination stuff has been dealt with by dad. Part of me wants to throw eggs at her house. So, just curious? Would you guys say something to mom or just let it be?

I would let it go. On our end kids (and sometimes parents) become “family” because we spend so much time with them.

From the family’s side we aren’t always viewed that way. Most times we really are just the lady that provides a service.

This isn’t true in all cases but a good majority.

The venting threads and Christmas gift threads highlight this difference in feelings.