Grr...Parents

[Core12]

I had a parent not bring pull-ups for her 22 month old, said I didn’t text for them...only wipes. Which I’m sure I did. Anyway, I asked her to plz bring them tomorrow. She agreed. It’s not like this parent to forget anything. So, I began thinking that she thinks I should use less or no pull-ups if I’m asking her son to go potty every hour.
Months ago I sent a Very detailed letter to everyone outlining our potty training policy. This parent didn’t say anything about it. The policy indicated that a child will come in pull-ups until they can say regularly “I have to go potty”. I already change everyone at 1030, 1230, and 330.
I explained that part of potty training is learning to hold it bc I don’t have time to take a kid on call or every hour to the potty. I watch 10 kids with my mom under 3 yrs old.
Yesterday, out of nervousness and trying to understand the reasoning the parent didn’t bring the diapers when asked...I said “I’m trying to use less pull-ups but this kid had already went before 930, then we played in the sprinkler and then he soaked one through his pants at nap time.
The parent said, “ you have to make a game out of it...a contest and ask every hour”. Also, dcb didn’t need a pull-up for 2 weeks and the night on vacation. (He was only gone on vacation for 5 days not 2 weeks)
Um, I need advice on what to say.

[Cat Herder]

• I had a parent not bring pull-ups for her 22 month old, said I didn’t text for them.
  
• I asked her to plz bring them tomorrow. She agreed.
  
• It’s not like this parent to forget anything.
  
• This parent didn’t say anything about it.

Um, I need advice on what to say.

I'd say nothing. You may be overthinking this one. :hug:

[rosieteddy]

I would hand them another copy of your potty plan.I would ask for enough pullups for two weeks.Then every week take stock and ask for what you need.If pushed I always told parents my business my rules.Kids are different at home.

[Core12]

Thanks!

She brought 2 diapers today!

[WBee]

I had a parent not bring pull-ups for her 22 month old, said I didn’t text for them...only wipes. Which I’m sure I did. Anyway, I asked her to plz bring them tomorrow. She agreed. It’s not like this parent to forget anything. So, I began thinking that she thinks I should use less or no pull-ups if I’m asking her son to go potty every hour.
Months ago I sent a Very detailed letter to everyone outlining our potty training policy. This parent didn’t say anything about it. The policy indicated that a child will come in pull-ups until they can say regularly “I have to go potty”. I already change everyone at 1030, 1230, and 330.
I explained that part of potty training is learning to hold it bc I don’t have time to take a kid on call or every hour to the potty. I watch 10 kids with my mom under 3 yrs old.
Yesterday, out of nervousness and trying to understand the reasoning the parent didn’t bring the diapers when asked...I said “I’m trying to use less pull-ups but this kid had already went before 930, then we played in the sprinkler and then he soaked one through his pants at nap time.
The parent said, “ you have to make a game out of it...a contest and ask every hour”. Also, dcb didn’t need a pull-up for 2 weeks and the night on vacation. (He was only gone on vacation for 5 days not 2 weeks)
Um, I need advice on what to say.

I would let the parent(s) know that it is not possible to ask the child to go every hour as your schedule is very busy and the child needs to learn to ask as part of his/her training per your policy. Also, he/she needs pullups at your daycare, even during nap, due to health reasons. You cannot have a child urinating on your floor/cots, etc. and have 10 children walking through it upon waking. "Sometimes children tend to be very busy here and it's not the same as training at home Mom." ;-) Also, "I can supply diapers/pullups but I have to charge you $....per. Good luck!

[Josiegirl]

She brought 2 diapers today!

Uh just no. I'd request a good supply, things happen. And if I was expected to make 2 diapers last a whole day, that poor kid would either go home soaked/dirty or I'd be using spare diapers I had at a premium cost to the parents. There are lots of ways to save money and sparing diapers is NOT one of them. Tell them to cut their cable bill instead.

And another thought, even if you could bring snowflake to the bathroom every single hour, how many kids have you known to sit there and try for 10 minutes, only to walk into the other room and poop??

[Cat Herder]

2?

That is ridiculous.

Ok, so passive aggressive? Sorry you are having to deal with that. Any interviews set up?

[Unregistered]

Call for pick up when a third is needed.

[ColorfulSunburst]

so, when the second diaper gets wet you can call his parents and ask to pick-up the kid or send home a lot of his wet clothes when they come to pick-up.

I know I can forget to inform parents that their kid needs more diapers. Because of that, I send "an SMS" on the last diaper a kid has on. I just write on it by a permanent marker: "Mom, I need more diapers." It works pretty well and parents always smile and say to me: OK, we got your SMS.

[Hunni Bee]

Call for pick up when a third is needed.

I agree. She is trying to force you to potty train the child on her timetable.

[springv]

At our center we take our children every 30 minutes-1 hour during the day and before and after nap. Two of our teachers have had parents bring enough supplies for the day when they were potty training and their kids were not ready. Or bring supplies and no extra clothing

[Josiegirl]

Call for pick up when a third is needed.

Yes definitely. You can play the game too.

At our center we take our children every 30 minutes-1 hour during the day and before and after nap. Two of our teachers have had parents bring enough supplies for the day when they were potty training and their kids were not ready. Or bring supplies and no extra clothing

How do you get anything else done during the day? Unless your ratio is 1-1 or maybe 2-1. Even then you're missing more outside time, rushing through lunch. Plus how do kids learn to read their body signals or hold it for a few minutes?

[sahm1225]

At our center we take our children every 30 minutes-1 hour during the day and before and after nap. Two of our teachers have had parents bring enough supplies for the day when they were potty training and their kids were not ready. Or bring supplies and no extra clothing

In my home daycare, That would mean being in the bathroom ALL day. Figure 10 kids x 3 minutes to get them in the bathroom, wash their hands, etc. -it would mean by the time I got to the last one, I’d be starting over.
Plus wouldn’t it be really NOT potty training since they wouldn’t even get the feeling of having to go pee since they go so much?

[sahm1225]

She brought 2 diapers today!

Time for a heart to heart with mom. And explain she either abides by your potty training policy, or this isn’t going to work.

[knoxmomof2]

She brought 2 diapers today!

If my DCPs send diapers after they've asked to start potty training and been informed that they need to send PullUps, I just "assume we're not potty training" and change them like a baby. Easier day for me.... You don't want to provide me with the supplies for potty training, we're not potty training today. Simple.