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I've only termed one family. My ratios changed and made me include my own kid. So I had to give notice to a parent so I would not be over. I actually gave birth to my seconed two days before the change, but had one parent who chose to leave themselves cause my husband (who's backup in my contract) was going to be helping full time for a couple weeks while I recovered. So it was only the one family I had to let go myself.
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So far, I have termed for EXTREME bad behavior (violence, destroying my house), non-payment after several warnings, inconsistent payment/having to ask constantly to be paid and then Mom's attitude made it a termination on the spot, consistent late payment, and on Friday, bad behavior with the parents making excuses instead of trying to help fix it. Working through my 2 week notice right now, ugh!Comment
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Okay here's my list. I have never really termed, rather I've pushed back on policies that were violated or I have had to say "no" a lot and some parents have been offended enough to leave. But here it is.
Family #1. First family in care, before I was licensed. Lots of oppositional behavior from mom. Used to bring dcb2 in dirty clothing so bad it was like 1/4 thick of breakfast on the front of clothing. We made him bibs for his birthday to use at home. Not used. Wouldn't bring vaccinations when I was getting licensed, even though I told dcm that there would be a civil money penalty. Pitched a fit when I told her that her kids needed to be excluded from care due to open cold sores (my family doesn't have that virus and voted for exclusion). Dcm texted me to say that she would have to look for other care. I didn't blink and texted back how much we'd miss them. Buh bye! Left owning me money.
* Changed my policies to prepayment.
Family #2
Dcm told me point blank at enrollment that she wanted dcg to be my favorite.
Dcm strong outgoing personality (to the point of diva) and SA dcg was the same. Dcm decided that they wanted to be vegan and provide own lunch. Lunch provided was never vegan and was mostly sweet stuff. Dcg had eating issues and couldn't stop eating. Dcg used to lie to the littles and take their food from them if my back was turned. Dcm wouldn't hear me out about the eating issues. Dcm liked to bring dcg in high fashion, brought her in boots with tons of lacing. I was losing my patience at this point and bluntly told her that she couldn't come in those boots anymore. Dcm left in a huff.
* Changed my policies to say self-sufficient dressing for SA kids.
Family #3
Held a spot for a teacher during the Summer. Teach was DS least favorite teacher ever. The kids used to alter her name and call her something like Mrs. Screwover (name changed for privacy :
. But, I thought, he was in 7th grade. Maybe he just didn't like her because she gave too much homework. Nope.
Day before care, I called to remind to bring formula but that I would provide cereal. Mom shows up with no formula but brought cereal, and she asked me to only feed infant water. No can do, dcm. Mom brings infant in white romper and comments if she finds any spots of food on it. Mom says that she doesn't want commando crawling infant outside because he might get dirty. The insanity went on for about a week, at which point she said that I had never mentioned to her that DS subbed once a week while I took DD to a class. There would have been a very short overlap on the subbing due to teacher schedule. Dcm says that she needs to quit over DS subbing.
* Changed policies to never hold spots without payment.
Family #4
20 mth old had maybe a 1/2 second attention span, and was completely incapable of playing by himself for even 10 minutes. Constantly bugged older sister, but I still worked with him. But parents wouldn't have convos with me at drop off/pick up. Ignored my requests for sweaters as the weather got cooler. I donated some of DD's nice, too small, sweaters to the family. I sent an email to all parents about bringing sweaters, but I accidentally left dcd's email address off the BCC list. (They never gave me mom's--I think that dad called all the shots in this family.) I told dad at pick up that I would need to start charging fees to loan sweaters. He grabbed his kids and charged out the door without a word and termed.
I suspect that there was a little ADHD with dcb and also with dcd.
Family #5
I've already written about that one extensively. Bottom line is that dcd creeped me out when he began saying that he thought that dcg was getting hit at my house. After consult with OCCL and getting advised to watch for signs of abuse, I actually told them that I'd been given that advise. They were just too much overall in a number of ways, but that final stuff was bizarre and creepy. I ended up at the doctor's office at that time with chest pains and was diagnosed with stress (nothing wrong with my heart). I told the doc all about this family, and she agreed that the incident probably triggered the chest pains.
* Going to put more effort into vetting in the future. I've just been too willing to give people a try.
IMO there is just no drama like daycare drama.
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Originally posted by Mom2Two View Post
Family #3
Held a spot for a teacher during the Summer. Teach was DS least favorite teacher ever. The kids used to alter her name and call her something like Mrs. Screwover (name changed for privacy :. But, I thought, he was in 7th grade. Maybe he just didn't like her because she gave too much homework. Nope.
Day before care, I called to remind to bring formula but that I would provide cereal. Mom shows up with no formula but brought cereal, and she asked me to only feed infant water. No can do, dcm. Mom brings infant in white romper and comments if she finds any spots of food on it. Mom says that she doesn't want commando crawling infant outside because he might get dirty. The insanity went on for about a week, at which point she said that I had never mentioned to her that DS subbed once a week while I took DD to a class. There would have been a very short overlap on the subbing due to teacher schedule. Dcm says that she needs to quit over DS subbing.
* Changed policies to never hold spots without payment.
Correction; DH subbed once a week.Last edited by Blackcat31; 05-14-2019, 02:06 PM.Comment
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I've done this for 6.5 years now. I've termed 3 families (actually, 2.5..).
1 for repeated non payment (that was when I was new and before I required payment in advance).
1 because DCB was just out of control. He was aggressive with the other kids and had impulse control issues. When I put him in timeout, he would scream bloody murder to the point it hurt everyone's ears! I tried just moving him to another room for timeouts, but I was honestly afraid someone was going to call the police on me for the shrieks coming from my house...it was time for him to move on.... I held on way too long though because he was my first daycare kid ever. The parents tried to work with me on their end, but I think he needed more help than just a little discipline.
The 3rd family is actually the DCM of the out of control kid. I have her 2 boys from her new marriage and they've gone off the deep end with their dietary "needs". I just don't mesh well with their lifestyle any more. The ages I had in care were already tough and this just put things over the top. I'm not happy doing my job anymore. Today is day 3 of their 2 week notice. I'm so ready for peace...even if it means losing the income from one of the spots. I've filled the other with a new baby from another previous DCF. I liked working with them before and catching up at the interview was nice 😊Comment
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My very first one was a 2 yr old child who wouldn't nap and she tried her hardest to sneak away when she thought I wasn't looking. I just couldn't handle the added stress to my day with her.
Another was the mom who needed to "compromise" because she thought the $3/week increase for added time was unfair.
Another was the dad who brought dcb with the worst cast of impetigo I've ever seen and when I said no, he yelled at me saying I was costing him thousands, slammed my door on the way out and screeched his car out of my driveway. All while his poor son was crying so loud (probably out of actual impetigo pain and fear of his crazy dad).
Latest one was non payment.
Others, I have coaxed out with suggestions of preschool or not having the right atmosphere for their child.Comment
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