Immediate Termination Stories

[dreamer]

For what reasons have you immediately terminated a child/family?

[amberrose3dg]

For what reasons have you immediately terminated a child/family?

We had a teachers strike last year. It went on for 9 days and caused a lot of issues with parents finding childcare etc.. Our schools operate before and after programs. These were not able to be utilized since no one could cross the picket lines.
I had a few families of siblings that were paying upwards 100 a day per kid for childcare during the strike.
Anyways I had teachers kids that still insisted on sending their children. I had one day I would be over with my assistant's children and told all the teacher families to stay home and I would credit them the day. I had one show up day after screaming at me how she pays for a spot and expects it no matter what. Most of the teachers weren't actually standing out in the cold with picket signs. This mom literally could not stand being with her two small kids.(Off on her son's bday was here until pick up time on the dot, kids went to bed at 5pm picked up at 3pm,3 year old didnt eat right and talk seemed behind or autistic parents couldnt care less etc..) The way she talked to me was it. I termed that day. The funny thing is she struggled to find care for her kids cause they were a handful and she ended up moving back to another state after that school year. Her temper tantrum to stand up for teachers rights was bs.
I look at all teachers differently now because of her. Now im cautious as they all seem entitled now.

[Josiegirl]

The one case that I remember was a dcf with 3 brothers, ages 5, 7 and 9. I got along great with the 7 yo. The 9 yo was terribly disrespectful and the 5 yo refused to do anything, would poop his pants, and called me an effin bit@h. The effin bit@h was the absolute last straw and I called grandma immediately for pick-up. But there had been a whole lot of issues before that, especially with dcm. Paperwork never got handed in, terrible lack of communication, these boys were on Saturdays and all I got were complaints from the 2 difficult brothers. I used to bring them all kinds of places and ended up wondering why I was working so damn hard at it all and ruining my weekends to boot. One day I sent dcm and the boys all home due to dcm not bringing paperwork, AGAIN, for the umpteenth time. Boy, was she mad. Like it was all my fault.

[Annalee]

1. Family of Breast Fed baby not allowing me to feed them.
2. Refusing to keep immunizations current.
3. Non-payment

[Indoorvoice]

I was watching my friends kids and she is a total spaz and I knew it and watched them anyway. She never knew what days or times they were coming, never knew whether she or her ex was picking up or at what time (which was often way past closing) and never paid on time and then would dispute that I overcharged her after going weeks without paying me. One day I was expecting them to come and told another family they could not come that day because I would not have room for them. She then called me an hour after they were supposed to be here saying grandma was watching them instead. I told her right there not bother coming back then. One of the only times I have ever had a backbone.

[Cat Herder]

• "Psycho" DCM spun circles in my front lawn with her vehicle when told no on a special request for extended hours and refusing to pay her co-pays.
  
• "My child" DCM threw a physical tantrum, hitting walls/slamming doors (19 over the top emails, too) when told her 7yo child could not hit kids when they got on his nerves even though she told him he could. That the simple fact was her child was the one getting on everyone's else's nerves.
  
• SA boy 11 spray painted on my neighbors shed then threatened to "blow your head off with my dad's shotgun" when caught. "Disney" DCD went with "he was framed by bullies from the bus stop" even when handed the can from his kids bookbag.

There are a few less dramatic ones, mostly payment or "dope and drop" issues, but these stand out to me off the top of my head. These are also why I no longer take school agers or subsidy clients.

[DaveA]

Once for child's behavior- DCB3 threw a wooden block at a toddler's head for not moving out of his way. Then threw the whole basket of blocks at me when I stopped him from throwing another one.

Couple times for adult's (using that term loosely) behavior. One that pops into mind was child who made it one day. I reminded DCM that payment was due when she came on first day with all the paperwork including the contract explaining payment schedule. She said that her mom would handle it. :confused: Grandma came in at pickup and went off. Among other things I got a "you work for me" (DCM was only one on paperwork) and "who do you think you are?". Needless to say that was the last time in my house for any of them. I know they burned through at least half a dozen daycares in less than a year. ::

[Blackcat31]

There are very few reasons a child/family is terminated immediately but I can definitely think of only a couple instances in which I've had to do it.

Personal safety as well as the safety of the other children/families in care trumps all else.

[Unregistered]

I termed a long standing family (3 years) because they took advantage of me. No matter how many times issues were discussed they would always break the rules. Constantly brought in sick kids. Would "forget" to pay me. The icing on the cake was when they assumed I would just switch my hours and days for them without even asking me. I to this day cannot get over parents. All my current parents are annoying af.

[boy_mom]

I've only termed immediately twice - once because a child was throwing toys (he threw a Thomas the Tank engine toy through my window) and the second time because a DCD yelled at me in front of all the kids when he had to pick up early for illness. Both were let go at pick up that day!

[littlefriends]

I termed a long standing family (3 years) because they took advantage of me. No matter how many times issues were discussed they would always break the rules. Constantly brought in sick kids. Would "forget" to pay me. The icing on the cake was when they assumed I would just switch my hours and days for them without even asking me. I to this day cannot get over parents. All my current parents are annoying af.

Mine are too! They’re bringing kids with food/drinks, no shoes, wearing pajamas, arguing over me taking them outside to play (it’s not too cold, ugh), their definition of fever is different from mine, etc etc etc. I feel like every day I have to tell a parent they can’t do something and it’s all stuff they know already! I get on the freakin parents waaaaay more than the kids these days. Fortunately I haven’t had any crazy termination scenarios yet!

[sharlan]

My most memorable - my dd (11) accidently got a couple drops of water on dcb's (12) jacket. He slapped her really hard across the face. She still had a handprint when the parents got there.

Bye, never saw him again.

[Ac114]

I have only had to term immediately one time and that’s due to a family lying to me about a child’s disability. He was either on the spectrum or had severe developemental delays was very aggressive towards the other children in my care. Body slammed his 2 year old brother, kicked my walls because I told him no, kicked and threw punches at me because he got mad over sharing toys, intentionally get in my infants face and scare her on purpose. They lasted 3 days which was 2 days and several hrs too long. I still have the youngest brother and to this day mom says that he will grow out of it. School is constantly calling for pickup because he’s hurting the other children but he can not be reprimanded due to his IEP.

[Jupadia]

Over only got one, but from my center days way before I had my own daycare or own kids.

We were already down to about 1/2 the kids cause it was Christmas break, a lot of our parents were university students. We had one baby that day and a couple 12-18 months. The rest were our toddlers (18-3years) and preschools (3-5). So we had mixed up rooms so the owner could pay less staff.
The boy in question was 4 he started throwing toys we asked him to stop, and he would not. Aimed a big wood block at baby and threw it before we could stop him. Thankfully it missed. The child only got worse as we tried to stop him, eventually he was separated from the other kids, put in own room. (Our breaks were held off so we could have staff to do this. Parents were called for pickup. Meanwhile he took apart the room he was in I mean he took every toy off shelves, even tore books. I switched rooms with the staff member that was in there and was able to get him to sit and stop destroying things. But then grams gets there and offers to take him to McDonalds to play and eat cause you know he was hungry. That day we made it very clear to the owner that we would no longer take care of him. We also made sure to point out the damage he did and what could have happened. I dont know how bad his fits were cause I only subbed in his room sometimes, but he had problems before just nothing like this.

[hwichlaz]

1st grader, angery with the state of affairs, pissed all over my bathroom on purpose.

5 year old laughed at me and called me a bitch when I put him in time out for aggressive behavior.

8 year old with autism bruised me horribly trying to get to a crying baby.