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[LysesKids]

I would term today.Sounds like they could just send her to Grandmothers house.No way would I keep her.I required a report saying a child was allergic before stopping dairy.Not a Dr. note but a report.The lying ,nap and movie issue are theother reasons.

Here in my area, pediatric allergists are good about giving parents the exact printout of allergens and at what level they fall at (mild to severe by #); I get a copy of that from parents before I will do any special diet. When I stated Drs paperwork, this is what I meant, not just a note from a regular practitioner

[Blackcat31]

I don't work well with parents that micromanage this type of stuff.

These are all common childhood things... and the MORE your child is exposed to a group setting the more they will exhibit these types of behaviors. The more controlling a parent is, the more the child will latch onto these types of behaviors....more for shock value than anything.

I would have told DCM that this is all stuff you deal with daily and you have your day under control but anything DCG says or does at home is DCM's issue to deal with. She needs to be taking the time to educate her child about what she (her family etc) allows and doesn't allow.

My kids used to spend a good deal of time with their grandmother. Grandma used to let them do/say all sorts of things that my DH and I did not. Since I was unable to control what grandma did/didn't do, I chose instead to make sure my kids understood that what is okay AT grandma's house isn't always acceptable at home.

Same with school. When my son first went to Kindy, I remember a cashier in a store asking him around the end of the first month of school how he liked it and what types of things has he learned so far.
He immediately demonstrated the most recent thing he learned. Arm pit farts. Yep. arm pit farts.

Did I find it funny or acceptable or something we did regularly in my family? No, but that's kind of what happens when you put a group of children together.
Can I control the kids or the things talked about at school?
Nope, but I could educate and manage MY child.

Sorry for the novel but basically I think you need to tell DCM you will handle stuff on your time and she can handle stuff on her time and if she isn't okay with that (communication is fine, micro-managing is NOT) then she can hire a nanny and TELL her how to do her job.

Or better yet....stay home and raise her own child without ever exposing her to society.

[Cat Herder]

Attention Seeking Parent. :hug: IABYF

For a laugh ::

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooksprin/videos/785722988303964/

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooksprin/videos/2202882886419230/

[nannyde]

Attention Seeking Parent. :hug: IABYF

For a laugh ::

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooksprin/videos/785722988303964/

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooks...2882886419230/

I'm madly in love with him 😊

[Cat Herder]

I'm madly in love with him ��

He's the best.

"Don't be bringing no carrots to the birthday party, I'm 'surrious " ::::

"Because I said so. Boom. "

The school nurse one, tears. :::::: "Just give her a peppermint and call 911."

His "respect" video, though. lovethis https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooks...1426800733583/

[Blackcat31]

Attention Seeking Parent. :hug: IABYF

For a laugh ::

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooksprin/videos/785722988303964/

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooks...2882886419230/

He totally reminds me of Donnie Baker.
I swear to God... ::
...just a bit more polished. ::

[Josiegirl]

A couple years ago I had a little girl in my care; her mom was a teacher. Well, she was nice enough but she and I had some very different beliefs when it came to children. She wanted me to work with her dd on letters; I think her dd was 3 at the time. IF a child shows interest then I'll definitely expand on it but otherwise, no. Then her dd had an occasional potty accident and she wanted me to put her in time-out for it. I refused and told her why.
Then 1 day I ran into the bathroom for a quick potty break and when I came back out, she and a younger toddler were playing hide 'n' seek on me behind a dollhouse. Thought nothing of it until I get a call from dcm telling me her dd said she was hiding on me and the other little girl was 'eating her vagina'. She was horrified and wanted me to talk to the other little girl. I told her seriously?? The other little girl was around 15 mo and would have no clue. :confused: She may have heard the word vagina here because at the time I had an extremely verbal prek dcg who said all kinds of words but other than that.....?
I couldn't wait for them to leave.

[CeriBear]

This woman is making way too many demands on you. I can understand the dairy-free if such a diet was recommended by a physician due to lactose intolerance or milk allergy or even if the family followed a dairy free diet at home as a lifestyle choice. But to have you provide a special diet for her when they don’t even do so at home is just wrong.

As for the nap issue I think you should say that you don’t require a nap but you do require that she rest and lie on her cot during nap time. You can’t control whether she sleeps or not but that you can’t entertain her so that she won’t fall asleep. If the parents want such one on one attention for their child they can hire a nanny.

Add me to the list of those who think you should term.

[Mad_Pistachio]

https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooks...2882886419230/

the mom asking about dropping kids off at the principal's home reminded me something.

we donated money to the local YMCA (which our school is built up to, they now share a hallway) for kids to be able to have swimming lessons. one of the rewards for giving a certain amount was the school/YMCA lock-in. basically, we dropped our daugher off at 6 pm on a Saturday and were asked to pick up by 10 pm. she played, ate pizza, had some pool time, and all that... and we had a date night we didn't expect because we thought the lock-in was a family thing (well, we were told we were welcome to stay, but no other parent did, and it was awkward, so we just sneaked out).
we came to pick up shortly after 9 pm, and the principal, who was one of the people in charge of the lock-in, said that our daughter was a pleasure, and we didn't have to come so early (early! 9pm! )
we kind of admitted that we haven't had a night date since she was born, so this was an interesting experience, but now we were ready to have her back, please. and the principal said, "oh, I'll babysit her any time you want a date night!"
we went on the lock-in and were offered babysitting services from our school principal.
good times.

[Ariana]

He's the best.

"Don't be bringing no carrots to the birthday party, I'm 'surrious " ::::

"Because I said so. Boom. "

The school nurse one, tears. :::::: "Just give her a peppermint and call 911."

His "respect" video, though. lovethis https://www.facebook.com/gerrybrooks...1426800733583/

OMG I am dying over here ::::::

That is the best thing ever!!

[Ariana]

As for the OP, I personally would just ignore and respond with “oh goodness that is concerning, I will definitely keep an eye on that” in my best fake concerned voice and then ignore. I would not be giving in to any requests and she is free to leave and give notice if she wants to.

If you feel this child is a liability then definiteky terminate.