Thank You Daycare.com

[Michael]

Banned for life!!

I never knew there were so many CFers on here. The funny thing is that over there, they talked about how mean some of the members were here at Daycare.com. LOL!!! I actually came here just to see how 'bad' it was. I stayed!

Mean?!? Maybe, Determined

[Blackcat31]

:: Good thing you never said as much when you were on that site! Years ago, when I was a member there, providers who mentioned the clique-y-ness mysteriously disappeared from that forum. I always assumed they got tired of the drama and went away on their own until I got "banned for life". (A thread got heated. A friend replied in a professional, reasonable manner but "the clique" didn't like her reply and drama ensued. In a private message, I said I always tried to be careful when I replied to any thread because of that very possibility. The next time I tried to log in, I got a message saying I was "banned for life". My husband and kids thought it was the funniest thing ever! I found Daycare.com and love the low-drama feel and support everyone offers. Best thing Jenny ever could have done for me! ::

I did get banned. The first time around.
Apparently it was frowned upon on that site to be blunt, honest and straight forward when replying/posting.

I used my second account to read only...

I think I participated in a Secret Sister game once and that was fun but other than that...it was nothing more than a clique of providers that thought their way was the ONLY way.....

Thankfully, like others I too stumbled across this site and have felt at home ever since. I've been called a few names now and then but I don't take it personal. The only time it really gets under my skin is when some calls me a bully. Them thar are fightin' words... ::

Hip Hip Horray for Daycare.com!! happyface happyface

[Michael]

I did get banned. The first time around.
Apparently it was frowned upon on that site to be blunt, honest and straight forward when replying/posting.

I used my second account to read only...

I think I participated in a Secret Sister game once and that was fun but other than that...it was nothing more than a clique of providers that thought their way was the ONLY way.....

Thankfully, like others I too stumbled across this site and have felt at home ever since. I've been called a few names now and then but I don't take it personal. The only time it really gets under my skin is when some calls me a bully. Them thar are fightin' words... ::

Hip Hip Horray for Daycare.com!! happyface happyface

There WAS a time around 2011 that there was a group of ladies here that took over the forum. I don't know if anyone here remembers. I know Nannyde was here at the time. I use to check in once a week back then and this group (led by a member named Judy) was making this forum their fortress. I figured what was going on and explained that there were going to be rules to follow. All hell broke loose. One of the girls actually started smearing my reputation and slandering me in some of the threads. ::

I thought to myself, what nerve? In my own house! That is when I started to perm ban the offenders and clean house. I started coming here every day since and also put in charge those that I felt had good intentions. It has been clean sailing since. But boy, you really have to spend the time every day taking care and watching over it. I guess you get what you put into it.

[e.j.]

I did get banned. The first time around.

I guess I'm in good company, then! Getting banned from CF - it's like a badge of honor. ::

Apparently it was frowned upon on that site to be blunt, honest and straight forward when replying/posting.

Unless you were part of the clique.

Funny thing is, I never involved myself in any of the controversial threads or drama on CF. I was never any more blunt on that forum than I am here. I tried to be honest but diplomatic and respectful in any reply I made - including my comments in that "private" message to my friend. I did use the word "clique" and if I remember correctly, said something about the immaturity of some members but wasn't trying to be nasty - just sharing an honest perception while trying to support a friend. I wasn't out to cause drama. When I received the "banned for life" message, I had to laugh. I told my husband, "I think Jenny just proved my point!"

[e.j.]

I figured what was going on and explained that there were going to be rules to follow. All hell broke loose. One of the girls actually started smearing my reputation and slandering me in some of the threads. ::

I thought to myself, what nerve? In my own house! That is when I started to perm ban the offenders and clean house. I started coming here every day since and also put in charge those that I felt had good intentions. It has been clean sailing since. But boy, you really have to spend the time every day taking care and watching over it. I guess you get what you put into it.

That does take nerve! It's sad when you feel like you have to babysit grown adults. I'm grateful, though, that you did put the effort into cleaning up the problem. I've been a provider for 21 years and still learn something new every day from this forum. Thank you!

[Josiegirl]

I guess I'm in good company, then! Getting banned from CF - it's like a badge of honor. ::



Unless you were part of the clique.

Funny thing is, I never involved myself in any of the controversial threads or drama on CF. I was never any more blunt on that forum than I am here. I tried to be honest but diplomatic and respectful in any reply I made - including my comments in that "private" message to my friend. I did use the word "clique" and if I remember correctly, said something about the immaturity of some members but wasn't trying to be nasty - just sharing an honest perception while trying to support a friend. I wasn't out to cause drama. When I received the "banned for life" message, I had to laugh. I told my husband, "I think Jenny just proved my point!"

Consider me a former banned CF member too. I was lucky to find this group soon after. I remember a lot of dog-piling there and yes, cliques. I also joined the secret sister once or maybe even twice, can't remember now, was so long ago. There were some nice people there, but also some very nutty ones.

[Rockgirl]

I definitely wasn't part of the "inner circle" there!

[nannyde]

There WAS a time around 2011 that there was a group of ladies here that took over the forum. I don't know if anyone here remembers. I know Nannyde was here at the time. I use to check in once a week back then and this group (led by a member named Judy) was making this forum their fortress. I figured what was going on and explained that there were going to be rules to follow. All hell broke loose. One of the girls actually started smearing my reputation and slandering me in some of the threads. ::

I thought to myself, what nerve? In my own house! That is when I started to perm ban the offenders and clean house. I started coming here every day since and also put in charge those that I felt had good intentions. It has been clean sailing since. But boy, you really have to spend the time every day taking care and watching over it. I guess you get what you put into it.

Oh yes I remember it well.

The accusations against you were absolutely false. I know that for a FACT without equivocation.

I didn't realize CF was out of biz. I quit going there when they became filled with ads. They had, at the time I was reading there, the biggest daycare archives I could find. I read their entire archives before I started posting. I think it took me a couple of years.

I don't read usernames on forums or names on Facebook. I never caught onto the cliques because I only noticed posters if they were brilliant or the posts they wrote were really dumb. Anything in between, I never read the names.

I posted there some but found daycare.com archives and started reading them. I read all the forums backwards and I think this forum had posts back to 2007 or 6 when I started reading them. I didn't post here or any other forum until I read the archives. I think I joined in 10 here but had been reading for a couple of years before I posted.

Ivillage used to have a great forum. When I realized they were going all ads and tossing their archives I went thru and copied every post I wrote. That took months. I think I permanently damaged my retinas trying to get to the posts through their blinkity ads. My eyes were fried but I saved them.

Before ivillage there were other companies who bought out the daycare boards until ivillage was the last reincarnation. I started reading forums that ended up to ivillage in 1998. They were kind of like craigslist but you could post under the thread.

I think every new or prospective provider needs to read the archives. Not Facebook archives because they are too labor intensive. Read from as far back as they go until present day. It truly IS the bible to daycare. Also watch the first couple of seasons of the Dog Whisperer before the show got popular when they let him do his thing.

He will teach you pack leadership and hierarchy. He will teach you how to be calm and assertive with minimal discipline. He will teach you how to recognize stable behavior from the micro signs and how to reward. He will show progression of escalation which is so critical in keeping children safe, parents well behaved, and maintaining a calm environment.

So the archive bibles and Cesar for all newbies.

You can get Cesar on YouTube and the archives here. We owe Michael so much for keeping this piece of daycare history on the net. We owe him a lot.

And as far as banning... whoever it was that got banned from CF... well shame shame shame... I've NEVAH been banned from a site for even a day ... because I'm so gifted in writing politically correct and the most sensitive of responses.

happyface:::hug:

[Michael]

Oh yes I remember it well.
I think this forum had posts back to 2007 or 6 when I started reading them.

happyface:::hug:

I just looked and I missed our 10 year anniversary! 08-22-2007
That is such a guy thing.....
Happy belated 10 year Anniversary Daycare.com Forum!

[Mike]

I just looked and I missed our 10 year anniversary! 08-22-2007
That is such a guy thing.....
Happy belated 10 year Anniversary Daycare.com Forum!

Happy Birthday to a great forum.

[nannyde]

I just looked and I missed our 10 year anniversary! 08-22-2007
That is such a guy thing.....
Happy belated 10 year Anniversary Daycare.com Forum!

Hey I was pretty close then.

happyface

[momofsix]

I tend to go in spurts, depending on how busy my days are, but I've always appreciated this forum. I too read through all of the old threads before I joined I don't always post, but I try to quick check in at least a couple of times a week.
Congratulations on 20 yearshappyfacehappyfacehappyface
And thanks for a great place to visit. Even better than "Cheers"!

[MyAngels]

This is a great forum - old style and all! I don't post much these days, but I like to check in once or twice a week, and it's always nice to see what's going on with everyone. I never even looked for other daycare groups or message boards, this one is plenty enough for me .

[e.j.]

And as far as banning... whoever it was that got banned from CF... well shame shame shame... I've NEVAH been banned from a site for even a day ... because I'm so gifted in writing politically correct and the most sensitive of responses.

happyface:::hug:

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