This Should Be a Vent

[midaycare]

I've been opening 10 minutes early for a dcf for 2 months now. Not a huge deal, but dcb is the first here and the last to leave. He's also my toughest kid.

Dcd got a new job and said he needed the extra 10 minutes to make it to his job. Well...dcd let it slip that dcd and dcm are carpooling and they work in the same medical complex. Not the same building, but almost within spitting distance.

Dcm always was able to make it to my regular opening time...so why the extra 10 minutes? Coffee run?

[Mom2Two]

I've been opening 10 minutes early for a dcf for 2 months now. Not a huge deal, but dcb is the first here and the last to leave. He's also my toughest kid.

Dcd got a new job and said he needed the extra 10 minutes to make it to his job. Well...dcd let it slip that dcd and dcm are carpooling and they work in the same medical complex. Not the same building, but almost within spitting distance.

Dcm always was able to make it to my regular opening time...so why the extra 10 minutes? Coffee run?

Oh shoot, I hate that moment when you find out that a family is just playing you for a fool. I know that it happens, but it can be so hard to call them on it and put up a good boundary that you can live with.

If only the parents realized that we actually can figure out when they're lying to us. And that it really does affect the relationship.

[JackandJill]

If it were me, I would just give them a notice saying you can no longer accommodate the early drop off. No need to explain why. I would start ASAP so you don't grow resentful, I know I quickly get agitated when I feel taken advantage of.

[Cat Herder]

Are you charging the extra $50 a week?

[midaycare]

Are you charging the extra $50 a week?

No, this was a kindness

[midaycare]

If it were me, I would just give them a notice saying you can no longer accommodate the early drop off. No need to explain why. I would start ASAP so you don't grow resentful, I know I quickly get agitated when I feel taken advantage of.

Next week Monday

[daycare]

no way jose.... I would be putting out that email faster than my fingers could type....


congtas DCD heard that you landed a job witDCM... Hours of operation are back to normal of 7am to 5pm, or whatever they are...


If they said they needed it still, just tell them it's an hour a week you need to be paid for...

[Boymom]

I've been opening 10 minutes early for a dcf for 2 months now. Not a huge deal, but dcb is the first here and the last to leave. He's also my toughest kid.

Dcd got a new job and said he needed the extra 10 minutes to make it to his job. Well...dcd let it slip that dcd and dcm are carpooling and they work in the same medical complex. Not the same building, but almost within spitting distance.

Dcm always was able to make it to my regular opening time...so why the extra 10 minutes? Coffee run?

Or maybe they are making out in the car! ::
I'm not sure why my brain went there, but it did haha!

But I definitely wouldn't be a happy either if I found that out.
Some parents think it's ALL about them!

[Boymom]

no way jose.... I would be putting out that email faster than my fingers could type....


congtas DCD heard that you landed a job witDCM... Hours of operation are back to normal of 7am to 5pm, or whatever they are...


If they said they needed it still, just tell them it's an hour a week you need to be paid for...

I love this! ::

[midaycare]

Or maybe they are making out in the car! ::
I'm not sure why my brain went there, but it did haha!

But I definitely wouldn't be a happy either if I found that out.
Some parents think it's ALL about them!

Oh haha! I actually do think it's a coffee run. Both dcm and dcd are kind of yuppyish and strike me as the type to need a Starbucks every morning.

I'm not judging re: Starbucks. I mean, the Chai Hot Tea is my $3.47 downfall.

[lovemydaycare0912]

I agree with PP. It would tick me off. I'd either charge for the extra time if I wanted to open earlier. If not, I'd tell them I can't any longer.

[Alwaysgreener]

There was a time when dh and I worked in the same building and I clocked in 15 minutes after dh (but also clocked out 15 minutes later)

[midaycare]

There was a time when dh and I worked in the same building and I clocked in 15 minutes after dh (but also clocked out 15 minutes later)

They both work 8-5, but yes, good to always make sure of those things!

[e.j.]

There was a time when dh and I worked in the same building and I clocked in 15 minutes after dh (but also clocked out 15 minutes later)

I can see where it might take an extra 10 minutes for him to drop her off and then drive over to his building, find a parking spot and walk to his office, especially if traffic is busy in and around the medical complex. (I'm thinking about the medical complex we have in our area and even at 7:00/7:30, traffic is very busy, with many pedestrians crossing the roads and slowing down traffic. It can take extra time to get from one building to another.) He might also be one of those people who likes to arrive at work a bit early; she might not mind walking in right at 8:00 on the dot. Just thinking that these factors might account for why he asked for an earlier drop off.

I get why you might be annoyed, though - if you are. I've had families ask me to open early so the parent dropping off could get in to work on time only to have the parent stand around talking to me the whole time. If they came at regular opening time and dropped off quickly, they'd have plenty of time to get to work! I know I'm not that interesting to talk to so I don't get why they ask - and pay for - the additional time but they do! :confused:

[midaycare]

I can see where it might take an extra 10 minutes for him to drop her off and then drive over to his building, find a parking spot and walk to his office, especially if traffic is busy in and around the medical complex. (I'm thinking about the medical complex we have in our area and even at 7:00/7:30, traffic is very busy, with many pedestrians crossing the roads and slowing down traffic. It can take extra time to get from one building to another.) He might also be one of those people who likes to arrive at work a bit early; she might not mind walking in right at 8:00 on the dot. Just thinking that these factors might account for why he asked for an earlier drop off.

I get why you might be annoyed, though - if you are. I've had families ask me to open early so the parent dropping off could get in to work on time only to have the parent stand around talking to me the whole time. If they came at regular opening time and dropped off quickly, they'd have plenty of time to get to work! I know I'm not that interesting to talk to so I don't get why they ask - and pay for - the additional time but they do! :confused:

I know I probably wasn't very clear on the whole setup. Where they work the buildings are right next to each other and they park in a shared parking lot, so yes, I'm annoyed.

If he likes to be 10 minutes early, well, that's on him. I like to be rich and fabulous, and yet here I am

The reason I'm overly annoyed is because this is my tough kiddo. Grrr!

My fault though, I agreed to it! Just a bummer tonfind out that extra 10 minutes is for nothing.