I swear some days I think I should quit trying so hard and go to a free play all day only program. The other day we had our cooking lesson for the week. We made banana muffins. We had some that day of course, some for breakfast yesterday morning, and I gave them each half of one this morning to finish them off. I have all SAers except the pre K who is 5 that starts kindy this fall. My oldest (8 yr old), starts giving me 20 questions about why she only gets half a muffin, she wants a whole one. So when I say "there isn't enough to give everyone a whole one, so you each get half" she starts pouting. At that point, I said something I shouldn't have. I said "well if you can't be happy with your half a muffin, I can eat it for you.". I know I shouldn't have said that, so no throwing tomatoes please. I am just so tired of doing so much with/for them and it never seeming to be good enough. Does anyone else have this issue? If so how do you get past it?
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Originally posted by Thriftylady View PostI swear some days I think I should quit trying so hard and go to a free play all day only program. The other day we had our cooking lesson for the week. We made banana muffins. We had some that day of course, some for breakfast yesterday morning, and I gave them each half of one this morning to finish them off. I have all SAers except the pre K who is 5 that starts kindy this fall. My oldest (8 yr old), starts giving me 20 questions about why she only gets half a muffin, she wants a whole one. So when I say "there isn't enough to give everyone a whole one, so you each get half" she starts pouting. At that point, I said something I shouldn't have. I said "well if you can't be happy with your half a muffin, I can eat it for you.". I know I shouldn't have said that, so no throwing tomatoes please. I am just so tired of doing so much with/for them and it never seeming to be good enough. Does anyone else have this issue? If so how do you get past it?happyface
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:: I like your response!
I usually say "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit." I say it so much that the kids finish saying it for me.
OR I simply start singing the intro to the song "you can't always get what you want, no you can't always get what you want, but you can try sometimes, and you'll find you get what you need."
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I also would have said something similar to what you said
Free play all day- love it with the little ones but when I did SA summer I always had a plan. If they made their own plan- fine great I left them alone. But, if they were making trouble we then switched into my plan. It was a lot of science and art... games and history. Made the days go by quicker!
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Originally posted by MrsSteinel'sHouse View PostI also would have said something similar to what you said
Free play all day- love it with the little ones but when I did SA summer I always had a plan. If they made their own plan- fine great I left them alone. But, if they were making trouble we then switched into my plan. It was a lot of science and art... games and history. Made the days go by quicker!
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If you think that wasn't appropriate to say, I probably shouldn't tell you what I did awhile back. Similar problem, whiny dck, can't remember the age but all I kept hearing was 'I don't like that. I don't want that. wah wah wah' So much so that I finally lost it. And I had already used a couple of answers mentioned here. But they kept on, ground my patience right down. I took it off his plate, and went into the dogs' bedroom and gave it to them.
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Originally posted by Josiegirl View PostIf you think that wasn't appropriate to say, I probably shouldn't tell you what I did awhile back. Similar problem, whiny dck, can't remember the age but all I kept hearing was 'I don't like that. I don't want that. wah wah wah' So much so that I finally lost it. And I had already used a couple of answers mentioned here. But they kept on, ground my patience right down. I took it off his plate, and went into the dogs' bedroom and gave it to them.
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Originally posted by Thriftylady View PostI don't know, I guess I feel like I always have to watch every little thing I say and do. I am legally unlicensed, was licensed in KS, and got written up for putting a child in time out, because "it was demeaning and embarrassing to the child to send them away from the group for time out". They said time outs had to happen with the group, the child couldn't be sent away from the activity. I mean if I had thought it was so wrong, I wouldn't have done it when my licensing agent was sitting there going over my paperwork! Every since them I am so careful about what I do and say.
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Originally posted by Josiegirl View PostNowadays I use a modified version of time-out, separating a dck on their own blanket with their own activities. TO just never worked all that well for the ones who really needed the discipline. But to say it demeans and embarrasses them is stretching it. Just maybe if a child is doing something that warrants a TO then he ought to be a bit embarrassed about his behavior. KWIM? So the authority figure's hands get tied and the kids rule. Where does that get us? Exactly where so many of us providers see parents and childrens' relationships these days.
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That is nothing!:: I was pouring milk once for kids in a centre and one kid (the complainer) said "you gave me the least amount of milk" and I said "yeah and if I had given you more you would've been p!ssed about that too" LOL! Oh boy! Not good. "Ms Ariana said a bad word".
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Anyway we have all done it!! I think what you said was a good thing and I would have said it or worse!
I agree with the others, some behavioral "specialists" take it too far. Everything is demeaning and embarassing for kids these days. Some shame has been shown to help regulate behavior so it is good in my opinion.
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Originally posted by spud912 View Post:: I like your response!
I usually say "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit." I say it so much that the kids finish saying it for me.
OR I simply start singing the intro to the song "you can't always get what you want, no you can't always get what you want, but you can try sometimes, and you'll find you get what you need."that's what I say, too! I completely ignore, as in DO NOT ANSWER my whiner. When she repeats it continuously I act oblivious, unless another child says " E says ___
and I say "Oh I can't HEAR E. Is she whining? My ears don't hear whining!" I once had a child reply "WELL MY EARS DO AND IT'S ANNOYING!" :: Touche!
Originally posted by Ariana View PostThat is nothing!:: I was pouring milk once for kids in a centre and one kid (the complainer) said "you gave me the least amount of milk" and I said "yeah and if I had given you more you would've been p!ssed about that too" LOL! Oh boy! Not good. "Ms Ariana said a bad word".
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Anyway we have all done it!! I think what you said was a good thing and I would have said it or worse!
I agree with the others, some behavioral "specialists" take it too far. Everything is demeaning and embarassing for kids these days. Some shame has been shown to help regulate behavior so it is good in my opinion.:
I said flat out to a dck "I don't care what you like or do not like. This is what we are having. Eat or be excused, your choice."
She ate.
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This same girl struck again this afternoon. We were painting the wood crafts from WM, the little $1 cars, planes and such. I didn't have enough of everything for them to all get what they wanted, so I had them draw numbers for who picked first. After everyone picked she says "well I think we should get to paint two". GRR I spend so much time and money making sure these kids have things to do, and for this one nothing is ever good enough.
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