When to Terminate a Child in Your Daycare

[NightOwl]

I agree citygarden, that our environments can have an equally positive or negative effect on children's behavior just as their home environments do. We do have a certain responsibility in helping to alter negative behaviors, but it is ultimately on the parents.

If nothing works to improve it, then the parents likely aren't backing you up at home. When I terminate for behavior (which is rare) , it's more because the parents aren't on board to fix it, and less about the behavior itself.

[CityGarden]

Look at this quote I found on an old thread....

Any help would be appreciated! One family is not making much effort to work on their child behavior with us, so I am printing and passing it to each parents...in hope it helps

It is too harsh?

"If your child is misbehaving on a regular basis, you will be notified and it is our expectation that the parent will be working alongside the daycare providers to adjust the child’s behavior. If the behaviors continues and gets worse then we have the right to terminate the contract if we feel that other children are being badly affected by the behavior.

You will receive a written notice for each behavior we must work on. For example if your child has been aggressive toward other children, it is expected that you speak to your child about her/his behavior and encourage her/his to be kind to others.

Please always feel free to speak to me regarding your child behavior, and do not hesitate to ask me if you need any advices or recommendations on what to do."

Don't hesitate to let me know if you don't believe is properly formulated!

[daycarediva]

I agree citygarden, that our environments can have an equally positive or negative effect on children's behavior just as their home environments do. We do have a certain responsibility in helping to alter negative behaviors, but it is ultimately on the parents.

If nothing works to improve it, then the parents likely aren't backing you up at home. When I terminate for behavior (which is rare) , it's more because the parents aren't on board to fix it, and less about the behavior itself.

I agree with this- and again, your environment may not be the best fit for him. Does he need a lot more supervision? (eg. more than one adult in the room) activity level? (I have had kids not able to keep up with our physical, fast paced day) looser rules (or rules closer to home)?

again, termination is NOT a failure, it's saying "This isn't what's best for child/provider/other children"

[Unregistered]

I would keep him, because I'm assuming in September he will be in some type of school. That's four months away. It just seems a bit cruel to term him with so little to go.

[Ariana]

99.9% of all behaviors are nipped in the bud when kids are in my care. The only behavior I cannot deal with is attachment issues where the child cries all day. Other than that, I don't have kids who are crazy and out of control. They know I mean business. When I get angry I pretty much turn into Samual L. Jackson and his crazy mean stare ::

I never work with parents when it comes to this stuff because parents will not help you. They don't care which is why this behavior even exists to begin with. Are you telling me that a kid from a family who cares is going to be acting like this? No way! I would be mortified (as would we all on this forum I am sure) if my daycare provider told me these things. I would be seeking out her advice on how to fix the issue...is that what these parents do? Nope!

[Essentialrose1]

I agree that you shouldn't feel guilty or that you're responsible for his behavior. Children with challenging behaviors NEED the caregivers AND parents to be on the same page with promoting positive behaviors & reinforcements. Doesn't sound like you're getting that. Sorry. You've done what you can. I'm struggling with this also & it seriously makes the teacher:ratio so difficult.

[Play Care]

I would keep him, because I'm assuming in September he will be in some type of school. That's four months away. It just seems a bit cruel to term him with so little to go.

To keep a child who is not thriving in the environment is cruel. It says "I value money over the well being of the child."
Sometimes being the "Boss" means making the tough decisions.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

To keep a child who is not thriving in the environment is cruel. It says "I value money over the well being of the child."
Sometimes being the "Boss" means making the tough decisions.

That's a great viewpoint.

[Unregistered]

That's a great viewpoint.

he just barely turned 4 in march. he can't start kinder until he is 5. so I would have him for a whole year longer.
I'm leaning towards termini him now. just based on another week and constantly doing what I tell him not to do. and misbehaving all the time. I go over the rules at the beginning of each day. right after I go over the rules I ask him what they are and he just mumbles random things. which is more of a sign he just isn't listening.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

he just barely turned 4 in march. he can't start kinder until he is 5. so I would have him for a whole year longer.
I'm leaning towards termini him now. just based on another week and constantly doing what I tell him not to do. and misbehaving all the time. I go over the rules at the beginning of each day. right after I go over the rules I ask him what they are and he just mumbles random things. which is more of a sign he just isn't listening.

Sometimes, I have a problem with trying to work on things far past the point that I should have. Other times, I seem to value my sanity more and actually terminate quickly.

Don't be like me. Value your sanity more and terminate quickly if you feel like you aren't getting anywhere and if the parents aren't greatly helping to eliminate the negative behaviors. BlackCat has said that she won't keep a child if the parents are working as hard as or harder than she is to eliminate negative behaviors and that has stuck in my mind since.