So as I'm sure some of you have seen my posts venting about a dcf that keeps sending their child sick. It's not improving. Today, however, I had to use every ounce of self restraint not to loose it on them. Here's what happened:
Dcm sends me a text about a minute before dcd is due to drop off (they are married, I'm on dcd's way to work) saying dcb has allergies. Saying a "cough, runny nose and allergy eyes." dcd drops off, doesn't even look me in the eyes and hardly says anything but gives dcb extra snuggles. Not normal for him. Dcb announces when dcd has left he's had "medicine because he doesn't feel good." And the cough...we're not talking about a dry annyoing cough. We're talking wet, gross, producing mucuos cough and nose just dripping. Every kid I know has been battling an upper respitory thing and it's been awful. Dcb's grandpa just got out of the hospital for it who he spent all weekend with. Anyways, dcm says "oh he had that yesterday, but was fine in a few hours. Keep me posted." NO. NO. NO. The last time I kept him against better judgement he gave us all pink eye (those "allergies" again, as was the excuse then too). I tell dcm in a very firm, but professional way, get your kid NOW. So his Grammy picks up and I go about my day. Then I get a text saying they have decided to send him to his back up daycare all week so the kids will stop "sharing germs back and forth." (So it's germs now not allergies ) but I know her back up and I know that she hates to use her after the last time (that's a whole different story, you guys know the type, cheap care, doesn't claim on taxes, over ratios, no rules etc). So I can say with pretty strong confidence she's doing this to "punish" me because they don't pay when they aren't here. I know, stupid, but I have had them from the start. In the past 3 years they have never taken advantage of pay by the day and for that reason I have allowed it to continue. But now they are using against me, and basically as blackmail. It's like saying "send my kid home sick and I won't send him for the week and you won't get our income." This is the 3rd...maybe 4th time I've had to send him home sick. They have not kept him home willingly at all this winter (just this winter, last winter they were awesome about following sick policy, as with the one before it)
I'm not sure where to go from here. Terming would be tough, we would loose some spending money but I could do it. Going forward? I don't even know where to begin...
Dcm sends me a text about a minute before dcd is due to drop off (they are married, I'm on dcd's way to work) saying dcb has allergies. Saying a "cough, runny nose and allergy eyes." dcd drops off, doesn't even look me in the eyes and hardly says anything but gives dcb extra snuggles. Not normal for him. Dcb announces when dcd has left he's had "medicine because he doesn't feel good." And the cough...we're not talking about a dry annyoing cough. We're talking wet, gross, producing mucuos cough and nose just dripping. Every kid I know has been battling an upper respitory thing and it's been awful. Dcb's grandpa just got out of the hospital for it who he spent all weekend with. Anyways, dcm says "oh he had that yesterday, but was fine in a few hours. Keep me posted." NO. NO. NO. The last time I kept him against better judgement he gave us all pink eye (those "allergies" again, as was the excuse then too). I tell dcm in a very firm, but professional way, get your kid NOW. So his Grammy picks up and I go about my day. Then I get a text saying they have decided to send him to his back up daycare all week so the kids will stop "sharing germs back and forth." (So it's germs now not allergies ) but I know her back up and I know that she hates to use her after the last time (that's a whole different story, you guys know the type, cheap care, doesn't claim on taxes, over ratios, no rules etc). So I can say with pretty strong confidence she's doing this to "punish" me because they don't pay when they aren't here. I know, stupid, but I have had them from the start. In the past 3 years they have never taken advantage of pay by the day and for that reason I have allowed it to continue. But now they are using against me, and basically as blackmail. It's like saying "send my kid home sick and I won't send him for the week and you won't get our income." This is the 3rd...maybe 4th time I've had to send him home sick. They have not kept him home willingly at all this winter (just this winter, last winter they were awesome about following sick policy, as with the one before it)
I'm not sure where to go from here. Terming would be tough, we would loose some spending money but I could do it. Going forward? I don't even know where to begin...
Comment