All the time!
I have policies specific to candy, gum, toys from home etc. Yet had a kiddo whose mom would give him "potty treats" if he went potty. Even if he refused, peed first in his pants, then ended up trying with nothing on the toilet. He was 4.5 years old! And his "potty treats" were entire candy bars and such. He would proudly come in smacking his large sized blue bubble gum in the morning to tell me he went potty, or licking his fingers from his bag of cheetos and diet dr pepper.
He arrives between 6:30 and 7 am! So the moment mom leaves (since she will not simply say no and offer other choices, despite many talks directly and indirectly) I tell him he needs to spit it out. "We don't have candy in the morning before we eat a healthy breakfast. We need to keep your teeth and body strong and healthy so you can get big like your dad."
Every kid complies when they know where the bar is set! I really believe many parents don't even have a bar at all. No one likes to hear them cry.
I overheard a parent talk about a provider who was just awful for a 2 yr old to sit in a time out for 15 minutes. I wanted to chuckle in her face and ask her if she has ever witnessed a 2 year old throw a tantrum? They can last for an hour or more depending on the kid and their level of stubbornness. I am sorry, but tantrums get set aside until they are through--screaming on the floor, in a "time out" or whatever you want to call it. No matter how long they decide to drag it out for. I would rather hear the fuss now and deal with it, than let it go on for a couple years and deal with tantrums at age 6-7. Parenting isn't easy--it isn't supposed to be. But in the end, the children you raise will be all the better for it.
I have policies specific to candy, gum, toys from home etc. Yet had a kiddo whose mom would give him "potty treats" if he went potty. Even if he refused, peed first in his pants, then ended up trying with nothing on the toilet. He was 4.5 years old! And his "potty treats" were entire candy bars and such. He would proudly come in smacking his large sized blue bubble gum in the morning to tell me he went potty, or licking his fingers from his bag of cheetos and diet dr pepper.
He arrives between 6:30 and 7 am! So the moment mom leaves (since she will not simply say no and offer other choices, despite many talks directly and indirectly) I tell him he needs to spit it out. "We don't have candy in the morning before we eat a healthy breakfast. We need to keep your teeth and body strong and healthy so you can get big like your dad."
Every kid complies when they know where the bar is set! I really believe many parents don't even have a bar at all. No one likes to hear them cry.
I overheard a parent talk about a provider who was just awful for a 2 yr old to sit in a time out for 15 minutes. I wanted to chuckle in her face and ask her if she has ever witnessed a 2 year old throw a tantrum? They can last for an hour or more depending on the kid and their level of stubbornness. I am sorry, but tantrums get set aside until they are through--screaming on the floor, in a "time out" or whatever you want to call it. No matter how long they decide to drag it out for. I would rather hear the fuss now and deal with it, than let it go on for a couple years and deal with tantrums at age 6-7. Parenting isn't easy--it isn't supposed to be. But in the end, the children you raise will be all the better for it.
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