Help please!
I have a dcb who will be 4 in Jan, who is extremely hyperactive and basically out of control. I've had him since he was 2.5, so for a year and a half, and the parents and I have had countless conferences about his behaviour. For a while it got pretty good, during the summer, go figure, when we were outside for more than half of the day, but now that it's winter we don't go outside as often so there are fewer outlets for his hyperactivity. Today it was raining outside and I don't take the kids out in the rain. I let them play a little more vigorously in the playroom and it went fairly well, but once it came to lunch time dcb was back to making animal noises and playing with his food and generally being a brat (I don't like that word but it's the best I can come up with in my frustration at the moment) ....
After nap he was crashing toys into walls, running around despite countless reminders about using walking feet, screaming and yelling and bacially back to being completely out of control. And the other kids obviously feed off it, so I had 5 tornadoes swirling into each other and squealing. Literally. They were pretending to be tornadoes.
I really do try to be a good sport about these things, and I try to be understanding of the fact that it is gross outside and they need to get that energy out, but at the same time, this kid KNOWS the rules, and continuously flat out defies them.
When his parents get here he just gets worse. He'll stand, holding on to the gate at the bottom of the stairs and jump and squeal. He constantly makes animal noises when they get here and absolutely will NOT sit still. It takes both of them to hold him down, plus 10 minutes to just get his boots on at home time. Trying to have a conversation is impossible because he's basically jumping around going LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!!!!!
It is completely ridiculous. The days I don't have him are breezy. The kids play nicely together, I can sit on the floor and play with him, but he is totally exhausting. When he is here, I am ashamed to admit I don't like my job
Terming is not an option, I love the family (even if their parenting has me shaking my head more often than not), they appreciate me more than any other family I have, and they are very receptive to everything I say...
What I'm looking for are suggestions about how I can control him when he's here? Time outs are completely useless on him, any verbal cues are completely lost on him, and he's incredibly immature. The most obvious answer is being outside more often, but even that hasn't been helping as he'll build himself a little snow bank and just play with the diggers and tractors the entire time we're outside.....
BTW I am a registered member, just don't want this coming back to bite me
I have a dcb who will be 4 in Jan, who is extremely hyperactive and basically out of control. I've had him since he was 2.5, so for a year and a half, and the parents and I have had countless conferences about his behaviour. For a while it got pretty good, during the summer, go figure, when we were outside for more than half of the day, but now that it's winter we don't go outside as often so there are fewer outlets for his hyperactivity. Today it was raining outside and I don't take the kids out in the rain. I let them play a little more vigorously in the playroom and it went fairly well, but once it came to lunch time dcb was back to making animal noises and playing with his food and generally being a brat (I don't like that word but it's the best I can come up with in my frustration at the moment) ....
After nap he was crashing toys into walls, running around despite countless reminders about using walking feet, screaming and yelling and bacially back to being completely out of control. And the other kids obviously feed off it, so I had 5 tornadoes swirling into each other and squealing. Literally. They were pretending to be tornadoes.
I really do try to be a good sport about these things, and I try to be understanding of the fact that it is gross outside and they need to get that energy out, but at the same time, this kid KNOWS the rules, and continuously flat out defies them.
When his parents get here he just gets worse. He'll stand, holding on to the gate at the bottom of the stairs and jump and squeal. He constantly makes animal noises when they get here and absolutely will NOT sit still. It takes both of them to hold him down, plus 10 minutes to just get his boots on at home time. Trying to have a conversation is impossible because he's basically jumping around going LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!!!!!
It is completely ridiculous. The days I don't have him are breezy. The kids play nicely together, I can sit on the floor and play with him, but he is totally exhausting. When he is here, I am ashamed to admit I don't like my job
Terming is not an option, I love the family (even if their parenting has me shaking my head more often than not), they appreciate me more than any other family I have, and they are very receptive to everything I say...
What I'm looking for are suggestions about how I can control him when he's here? Time outs are completely useless on him, any verbal cues are completely lost on him, and he's incredibly immature. The most obvious answer is being outside more often, but even that hasn't been helping as he'll build himself a little snow bank and just play with the diggers and tractors the entire time we're outside.....
BTW I am a registered member, just don't want this coming back to bite me
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