Originally posted by Angelsj
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I know this about myself. I know I am not superwoman. I'm flesh and blood.
When you realize you could do one thing one day that could ruin a family's life and your own life... then you can put in the escape hatch that keeps you from ever doing it.
The escape hatch has CUMULATIVE STRESS written on the hatch cover.
I've been obsessed with intentional child injury and death in daycare for years. I don't have a single statistics to back this up but I see a strong pattern of who the most at risk for injuring and or killing a kid. I think it is the mid 40 to mid fifty provider who allows herself to do the smaller non catchable acts that escalate over time and she doesn't get caught.
Every time she is successful being rough or mean it gives her licence to go even further. She releases her stress by committing these acts instead of dealing with the root
The root is always a crying kid and or anger at the parents.
Those two things are at the root of nearly every act of violence.
What do we see here nearly every day? Kid crying posts and pissed at the parents posts.
We talk about it. We lash out with words and try to deescalate ourselves by bringing in our friends and those who we respect.
We have a ton of lurkers who don't come forward. They are important to reach by our words.
I am often called harsh because I tackle issues that in my mind CAN and DO end up with a hurt or dead kid. The issue may be six steps before the act but they ARE on the staircase that leads to committing an act that in a flick of a moment will change your life, take away your freedom, ruin your ability to parent your own kid, and ruin another families whole world.
It's not worth it. Post away and say the truth. If you need help ASK for it and don't let what someone else thinks or does keep you from reaching out.
Know that even the most experienced and able person can go too far. Nobody is immune. I don't care who they are.
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