I've had this 3.5 year old girl since she was barely walking. Real sweet girl, very shy, still sucks her thumb at nap time, but very well behaved. Her mom had a baby 6 weeks ago and he was going to start coming W and F to my daycare until the government funding kicked in and he would be full time. He came Wednesday this week and was just fine. He ate slowly like most infants do, napped, pooped, cried some, etc. Everything seemed fine. He did have a little bit of a wheeze sometimes but nothing to worry about. Then Thursday afternoon I get a call from grandma (who we see more than mom, they all live together, mom is only like 22). I could barely understand her because she was crying and our phone sucks, but she said the baby died. I asked what happened and got bits and pieces, but later found out that the baby was home with mom's boyfriend (who isn't the baby's dad, he left when he found out she was pregnant) and was laying face down on the corner of their bed. So I don't know if he suffocated or what, but it doesn't sound good. Plus this guy is like a big kid himself, so who knows how much he was really paying attention. Anyway, grandma was in total shock and said they would be by to pick up the 3yr old later. I told her no rush, she could stay after hours or all night no charge, we are here to do anything to help. She told me not to say anything to anyone, especially the 3yr old. The mom and grandma came and picked her up a few hours later, and you could tell they had been crying all day. The 3yr old didn't really pick up on the fact that anything was wrong, and I honestly don't know if she's really going to understand. She might be a little slow mentally, not autistic or handicapped in any way, but may need help in school when she's older. I'm not sure if when they tell her what happened if she will understand. Of course she didn't come yesterday. The funeral is Sunday and we're going to show our support. I just feel absolutely terrible for these people. CPS came out and talked to the girl a few minutes after I found out, but I'm not sure if anything is going to happen or not, it may be routine. I want to be there for them and help in any way I can, but I honestly don't know what to do or say.
Has anyone ever had a similar situation? Do you talk to the child about it or act like everything is fine? I'm 29 years old and have only had 1 family member die and that was back in 1995. I don't know how to handle this situation and have no clue what this poor family is going through. I want to be prepared for Monday, but don't know what to do.
Has anyone ever had a similar situation? Do you talk to the child about it or act like everything is fine? I'm 29 years old and have only had 1 family member die and that was back in 1995. I don't know how to handle this situation and have no clue what this poor family is going through. I want to be prepared for Monday, but don't know what to do.
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