Yes....I have found that I overpraise. I noticed it after the praise thread here. I have a girl addicted to praise and attention. It's overwhelming and I am going to make changes!
This girl!
OH, I forgot....she wants every kid every day to tell her they are her best friend and will invite her to their birthday parties. Most of the time the kids make excuses as to why they can't invite her. She will also make lists of who can and can't go to hers. Of course I don't allow this kind of talk and I put a stop to it right away.
She is just an attention grabber.....she will grab it whenever and however she can. Her mom thinks this is called high self esteem.
So.....help me kick the overpraising addiction! So far I am trying to stop saying "good job" right and left. I'm trying to say....."you did it" or "you worked hard on that" or "tell me about your picture".....but what do I do when this one asks...."is my picture pretty?" Do I say yes....do I say "what do you think about it?" What? I know it sounds silly...but girl demands and manipulates all attention on her and it's very wearing!
This girl!
- will do whatever she can to get me to say "good job."
- Will butt herself in front of whoever I gave a compliment to and will do anything to make sure she gets the same compliment
- Sings loudly all day and demand people pay attention and not interrupt (OK....I put an end to this one, but she still tries)
- She wants a compliment for every move she makes. For getting 1 paper towel instead of 5, for writing her name, for putting her shoes on the right feet, for going potty.....etc.
- You get the point...and I'm sure you have the same kid either now, in your past OR in your FUTURE!!!!
OH, I forgot....she wants every kid every day to tell her they are her best friend and will invite her to their birthday parties. Most of the time the kids make excuses as to why they can't invite her. She will also make lists of who can and can't go to hers. Of course I don't allow this kind of talk and I put a stop to it right away.
She is just an attention grabber.....she will grab it whenever and however she can. Her mom thinks this is called high self esteem.
So.....help me kick the overpraising addiction! So far I am trying to stop saying "good job" right and left. I'm trying to say....."you did it" or "you worked hard on that" or "tell me about your picture".....but what do I do when this one asks...."is my picture pretty?" Do I say yes....do I say "what do you think about it?" What? I know it sounds silly...but girl demands and manipulates all attention on her and it's very wearing!
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