How Can Parents Be So Stupid

[Leigh]

I have a 4 yr old here now that has had the same outfit on all week.

When I questioned mom, I got the same "They wouldn't let me..." line that most no-cry parents give.

I also have a DCM that allows ALL 3 of her kids to enter the daycare, close the door behind them and then allows the next kid to open the door, enter and close the door behind them, then the next one... Because they ALL want to open the door so she just each of them have one turn daily verses saying no.

I finally told her NO children touch my door. Adults only.

Now they take turns letting mom open and close the door completely so each one can enter separately and not feel jipped that a sibling was first.

Painful. I'd probably meet them at the door and hold it open for all of them, blocking mom's and kids' access to the door itself altogether. I don't play that game here...it is NOT a big deal, but some things just get.on.my.nerves.

[lovemykidstoo]

Painful. I'd probably meet them at the door and hold it open for all of them, blocking mom's and kids' access to the door itself altogether. I don't play that game here...it is NOT a big deal, but some things just get.on.my.nerves.

It's not a big deal, but that kind of thing irritates me beyond belief too. !

I have the deal now with 2 of the kids that I'll answer the door and the parent will be standing there and the child is hiding behind them or behind the door and the parent says "oh johnny didn't come today" and then the kid jumps out. Two different families do this. Real cute the first time, not so cute the 500th time. Again, not a big deal, but just come in, I've got things to do. Another one is if you see any of them coming and you open the door before they knock. Fit time. Seriously? ahhhh! I think I need a vacation. After today I'm off for a week!! yes!!


Oh and dcm did it again yesterday with the seatbelt grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[NightOwl]

Seriously, suggest to her that the straps ate not tight enough before she gets a ticket or in an accident. This should NOT be your responsibility, but unfortunately, it is (because you're a mandatory reporter and she is doing it on your property). I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I feel your pain. I have the arm twitch thing happen where I just want to slap somebody when a parent says "they wouldn't..." or "they refused to....". They are CHILDREN. This reminds me of the ruler of the roost thread.

[lovemykidstoo]

Seriously, suggest to her that the straps ate not tight enough before she gets a ticket or in an accident. This should NOT be your responsibility, but unfortunately, it is (because you're a mandatory reporter and she is doing it on your property). I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I feel your pain. I have the arm twitch thing happen where I just want to slap somebody when a parent says "they wouldn't..." or "they refused to....". They are CHILDREN. This reminds me of the ruler of the roost thread.

Drives me nuts. The scary thing is, they just drove to Florida on vacation. We're in Michigan. Wonder if they drove all that way like that.

[Kabob]

It's not a big deal, but that kind of thing irritates me beyond belief too. !

I have the deal now with 2 of the kids that I'll answer the door and the parent will be standing there and the child is hiding behind them or behind the door and the parent says "oh johnny didn't come today" and then the kid jumps out. Two different families do this. Real cute the first time, not so cute the 500th time. Again, not a big deal, but just come in, I've got things to do. Another one is if you see any of them coming and you open the door before they knock. Fit time. Seriously? ahhhh! I think I need a vacation. After today I'm off for a week!! yes!!


Oh and dcm did it again yesterday with the seatbelt grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I've told parents that I'm a mandated reporter and I've been trained in car seat safety so I can't, in good conscience, not say or report anything if I see them knowingly put their child at risk by not securing them properly in the car. Never had the issue you are having but still...I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. I've seen parents let their kids get away with a lot to avoid tears but if they are letting them do something unsafe on my property on my watch is not okay...

On another note, I had a family where the parents would let their kids run by themselves in and out of my house and also ring my doorbell repeatedly. Drove me insane. I was gonna disconnect the doorbell when I realized a better solution would be to set boundaries. I told the parents to not allow their kids to run alone even a short distance to my door or to their car...especially since dcm would leave her car running...they didn't like it since then they had to listen to their kids whine and cry but I didn't care...last thing I needed was dcm's car crashing into my garage because she didn't want little Johnny to cry about not getting to run out to the car first...

[My3cents]

This is not as serious as the car seat but it bugs me .

DCG stuck her tongue out at me , I told her that is not nice and we do not do that here . She looked right at me smiled and slowly stuck her tongue out again then smiled at me . So i told her that she could not have a sticker when she was getting picked up . She started whining and demanded a sticker , I held fast and said no , you did not listen and did something not nice even after you were told not to .
Dcm says that's o.k. I will give you some at home .

What happened to wanting your child to come here because we teach manners and how to behave and be nice to others .

If a parent belittled me in front of the child I would have some serious issues with the parent. I would say something.

If your going to go against me in front of the child your just setting your child up to not have to listen to me and I won't tolerate that.

I might even say something in front of both the child and the parent if your going to give her stickers at home for bad behavior then I am not going to give her any stickers here at all- The point of the stickers is to encourage good behaviors not reinforce bad ones

I would say something about not working together for the good of the child- I would ask the parent if they felt that was a good idea to say that to the child? Sometimes parents react before they think-

Don't undermine me- play that game with your spouse but not your provider. Don't set me up to be the bad guy when I am with your child more waking hours then you are. UGH!

[My3cents]

I have a 4 yr old here now that has had the same outfit on all week.

When I questioned mom, I got the same "They wouldn't let me..." line that most no-cry parents give.

I also have a DCM that allows ALL 3 of her kids to enter the daycare, close the door behind them and then allows the next kid to open the door, enter and close the door behind them, then the next one... Because they ALL want to open the door so she just each of them have one turn daily verses saying no.

I finally told her NO children touch my door. Adults only.

Now they take turns letting mom open and close the door completely so each one can enter separately and not feel jipped that a sibling was first.

no way unless they want to pay my heating bill and electrical bill in the summer~ Mom would be told no to this and I am sure you will eventually.
numb skulls~ LOL

I often want to say and I see this when I am out and about doing errands....but I want to say WHO is the parent here?

[mountainside13]

I reported a parent 3 months ago for car seat safety. She had her 5 year old in the front passenger seat (no car seat) when she dropped off. I talked to her but when she picked up in the evening he was in the front seat again. :confused:

[lovemykidstoo]

I reported a parent 3 months ago for car seat safety. She had her 5 year old in the front passenger seat (no car seat) when she dropped off. I talked to her but when she picked up in the evening he was in the front seat again. :confused:

How did you do this exactly and did the mom ever say anything to you about it? What happened?

[mountainside13]

How did you do this exactly and did the mom ever say anything to you about it? What happened?

I called the hotline (1-800-362-2178) and gave them the details. I had to give a written report within 24 hours to DHS. The mom knew it was me and pulled she was very upset putting it mildly. Before leaving she was saying she doesn't need this right now and doesn't want to deal with another investigation. So they are already in the "system". I'm not sure what came of it. I never did hear back from anyone so I'm guessing nothing. Unless they just didn't need anything else from me. It was the first time I have had to report anyone.

[lovemykidstoo]

I called the hotline (1-800-362-2178) and gave them the details. I had to give a written report within 24 hours to DHS. The mom knew it was me and pulled she was very upset putting it mildly. Before leaving she was saying she doesn't need this right now and doesn't want to deal with another investigation. So they are already in the "system". I'm not sure what came of it. I never did hear back from anyone so I'm guessing nothing. Unless they just didn't need anything else from me. It was the first time I have had to report anyone.

I think that the mom just thinks because they live within a mile of each other that it's okay. Although she says he does it all the time, so maybe not. The thing is, accidents can happen anywhere and they have to go through a 4 way stop right outside my sub and there have been a lot of people that have run the stop sign there. Really surprises me because she is no dummy but this is dumb