Down Syndrome Baby

[akpayne]

I'm sorry I find her excuse of too long topic title a cop-out. This op has posted many times before and I worry about her competence to care for this child and deal with the parents appropriately. I don't think it hurts to re-iterate the inappriateness of what she wrote as I didn't sense she is taking this very seriously

[Blackcat31]

I'm sorry I find her excuse of too long topic title a cop-out. This op has posted many times before and I worry about her competence to care for this child and deal with the parents appropriately. I don't think it hurts to re-iterate the inappriateness of what she wrote as I didn't sense she is taking this very seriously

You are most definitely entitled to your own opinion but I do think that if you were/are seriously concerned about someone, reaching out privately might be more helpful than simply admonishing them publically.

It's also hard to gauge someone's ability or inability to care for children solely based on what they post on-line.

[melilley]

The provider already addressed the wording aspect of this situation.

She wasn't trying to be disrespectful. She is trying to educate herself about this situation....which I give her TONS OF KUDOS for since not being familiar with something is tough sometimes and if we have no prior experience, we can easily offend.

The OP was not purposely being offensive in my opinion.

[Christina72684]

The fact that you needed to be told not to refer to this child as "down syndrome baby" really concerns me. I hope you will be more tactful when dealing with this child's family. I currently care for a little girl with ds who will be turning 7. She is extremely high functioning, attends school every day and is smart as a whip. However, she does have some aggression issues which I deal with inc occurrence with her parents and teachers. Every child is different and needs to be treated as such.

I was told this by the teacher in the first conversation we had about the child coming here. She said it in the first couple of sentences. It wasn't because I called her that and then was told not to.

[Christina72684]

You are most definitely entitled to your own opinion but I do think that if you were/are seriously concerned about someone, reaching out privately might be more helpful than simply admonishing them publically.

It's also hard to gauge someone's ability or inability to care for children solely based on what they post on-line.

Thank you Blackcat!

[Christina72684]

I don't see why it's a big deal what I titled the thread on here. There are many different thread titles and I would never judge someone based on what they called one, considering there needs to be a title or people won't read the thread. (Not sure if that made sense but I know what I was trying to say)


As far as being able to take care of someone that has the Down's Syndrome condition (not sure how I need to word that without offending anyone), no one knows if they can until they do! I'm sure her parents were worried about raising her once they found out she had it. But I'm also pretty sure that they did what I'm doing: researched it. But you can only get so much info from books and research. I wanted to get personal opinions from daycare providers that have taken care of kids that weren't their own that had DS.

Sorry again if I used the wrong terms, words, phrases, etc. And as far as my other posts and threads, they have nothing to do with this. My 2 daycares have been going through a lot of changes over the past couple of months and will continue to go through more than next two months (more than daycares do normally). We will have been open 3 years in June (the 2nd daycare has been open only a year and a half). We went from just me and my mom to us and 3 workers. We went from 5 kids to a total of 24. We have grown so fast over such a short period of time which is why I reach out to this forum hoping to learn from experienced providers and not be judged for my ignorance.

[melilley]

I don't see why it's a big deal what I titled the thread on here. There are many different thread titles and I would never judge someone based on what they called one, considering there needs to be a title or people won't read the thread. (Not sure if that made sense but I know what I was trying to say)


As far as being able to take care of someone that has the Down's Syndrome condition (not sure how I need to word that without offending anyone), no one knows if they can until they do! I'm sure her parents were worried about raising her once they found out she had it. But I'm also pretty sure that they did what I'm doing: researched it. But you can only get so much info from books and research. I wanted to get personal opinions from daycare providers that have taken care of kids that weren't their own that had DS.

Sorry again if I used the wrong terms, words, phrases, etc. And as far as my other posts and threads, they have nothing to do with this. My 2 daycares have been going through a lot of changes over the past couple of months and will continue to go through more than next two months (more than daycares do normally). We will have been open 3 years in June (the 2nd daycare has been open only a year and a half). We went from just me and my mom to us and 3 workers. We went from 5 kids to a total of 24. We have grown so fast over such a short period of time which is why I reach out to this forum hoping to learn from experienced providers and not be judged for my ignorance.

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Don't let one person get you down. You were asking for opinions so that you can provide the best care possible. If there's harm in that then I don't know what to say. There will always be one person who doesn't like how you word something and will take offense. I don't think you meant anything by it!

[mom2many]

:hug:

Don't let one person get you down. You were asking for opinions so that you can provide the best care possible. If there's harm in that then I don't know what to say. There will always be one person who doesn't like how you word something and will take offense. I don't think you meant anything by it!

Absolutely! I know I had no experience before I began caring for the little guy I have & it's only through knowledge that you gain insight and can become more intuned to the special needs of a child.

[Blackcat31]

:hug:

Don't let one person get you down. You were asking for opinions so that you can provide the best care possible. If there's harm in that then I don't know what to say. There will always be one person who doesn't like how you word something and will take offense. I don't think you meant anything by it!

Absolutely! I know I had no experience before I began caring for the little guy I have & it's only through knowledge that you gain insight and can become more intuned to the special needs of a child.

GREAT POINTS!!

[dalman]

In my foster care experience dealing with children and adults with DS, one of the primary issues I have seen is overeating. It wasn't until my anatomy and physiology class in nursing that I learned why this is a common issue with DS. To sum it up quickly, in DS a part of the brain that controls appetite suppression, the satiation center, is missing. They do not get the signal that they are full, ever. To help persons with DS control their weight, we are required to fix their plate with a "normal" helping of everything. If allowed to manage their diet, our experience has been that they would eat until they get sick. Literally. It's really hard with a child because who wants to hear a child say that they are still hungry and tell them that they are done until snack time, or whenever. But we were told by the doctor that to continue to allow them to overeat is abuse.

On a positive note, we have found that children and adults with DS are some of the most loving, accepting individuals around. I applaud you for trying to find out everything you can before embarking on this wonderful journey.

[Kelly]

As a mom of 2 sons with DS I would say that they were pretty much like any other babies. They each have their own unique personalities and while they may reach milestones at a slower pace they basically do the same things all babies do.

I never had a problem with them overeating as mentioned in a previous post, especially as babies. If anything at that age it was more trouble getting them to eat as it sometimes takes them longer to get used to textures. One of my sons is overweight but this is mainly due to health issues. My other son is actually thin (he still wears boys' clothing at age 24.)