All of a sudden My best DCK is falling apart at daycare whenever its time to cleanup. Then all I get is tears and "I want my so and so". I'm now limiting her toys as she will take out every toy in the room but refuses to cleanup. She is only allowed one set of toys and must cleanup those before using any others. Problem is she ends up whining all day for whoever and never putting away that first set of toys.
I asked mom she says it's because she doesn't want her to leave the house or go to work and she doesn't want to go to daycare. The not wanting to go to daycare apparently only happens with mom. It seems mom is projecting on the child...many times she has said to me that she doesn't want to work and wants to stay at home. Apparently that's not possible since she's in daycare. From day one I've had problems with this mom being snarky and rude in texts and emails. She's threatened to find alternate care when I took a sick day due to a gallbladder attack (not like I only had the sniffles). DCD kind of apologizes for her a lot and says she's just stressed but now it's causing behavior problems with the DCK.
DCK using crying for mommy as a way to get out of doing things she doesn't want to do, dad confirmed this is the case at home. Unfortunately, mom seems to be feeding into and says she has anxiety and it's because she doesn't want to go to daycare. From experience this isn't the only time she does it. She does it to get her way and is manipulating the mom. Mom has even taken her to the doctor for her anxiety.
How do I politely help mom understand that this is manipulation to get out of doing things she doesn't feel like doing? This is not anxiety or not liking daycare (DCK is all smiles with me until she has to clean up). This is "I don't want to do what I'm told". Mom is making it into this huge thing and DCK is very smart and knows exactly what she is doing and mom is feeding right into the manipulation making it much much worse!
I asked mom she says it's because she doesn't want her to leave the house or go to work and she doesn't want to go to daycare. The not wanting to go to daycare apparently only happens with mom. It seems mom is projecting on the child...many times she has said to me that she doesn't want to work and wants to stay at home. Apparently that's not possible since she's in daycare. From day one I've had problems with this mom being snarky and rude in texts and emails. She's threatened to find alternate care when I took a sick day due to a gallbladder attack (not like I only had the sniffles). DCD kind of apologizes for her a lot and says she's just stressed but now it's causing behavior problems with the DCK.
DCK using crying for mommy as a way to get out of doing things she doesn't want to do, dad confirmed this is the case at home. Unfortunately, mom seems to be feeding into and says she has anxiety and it's because she doesn't want to go to daycare. From experience this isn't the only time she does it. She does it to get her way and is manipulating the mom. Mom has even taken her to the doctor for her anxiety.
How do I politely help mom understand that this is manipulation to get out of doing things she doesn't feel like doing? This is not anxiety or not liking daycare (DCK is all smiles with me until she has to clean up). This is "I don't want to do what I'm told". Mom is making it into this huge thing and DCK is very smart and knows exactly what she is doing and mom is feeding right into the manipulation making it much much worse!
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