Don't Bring Your Toys From Home!!

[thetoddlerwhisper]

i dont allow toys or food from home. the only exception is asd who brings lunch and snack on days needed. but if your gonna bring in something for child you bring enough for everyone. otherwise i take it and its mine.

[Blackcat31]

I'm probably the only one here who does allow dcks to bring toys from home.
My rule is, if it becomes a problem, up it goes until the end of the day. My little 3 yo dcg brought in a really cute toy this a.m., just got it for Christmas. One of my toddlers of course runs up, and tries to take it away. A moderately noisy battle ensues and dcm says to dd, I'll just take it with me then. I piped up and said Yeh, maybe you better. Dcg starts crying and promises to share. So I offer her this: to play with it first, set a timer(she chose 3 minutes), and then she will give it to the next child. She was fine with that and it worked perfectly the whole morning. In fact, they only played with it for half an hour.

I do state in my handbook, I will do my best to take care of their personal items, BUT I am not responsible for any items brought in so if it's special, keep it home.

You're not the only one, and I also reserve the right to put a stop to it if it becomes a problem. One little guy brings a stuffed animal just about every day, and my favorite former dcb always had to bring a toy car. It was never a problem. I do not allow "blankies" though, dragged back and forth. I have yet to see one not be an issue. Dragged around, and as soon as someone sits on hit...YANK! Blankie kids (usually older when they start) learn right away that they go into the cubby until nap time.

I love BC"s Hotel California rule, though. If it every becomes an issue, I'm going with that!

I don't think allowing toys from home is a bad thing. As a matter of fact, I think it is an EXCELLENT way to teach kids sharing and pro-social behaviors.

I only have the rule because it DID get out of hand, not by the kids so much but on the parent's end.

I mean its fine if Billy brings a toy to share here but when Tommy brings 16 because the parent couldn't limit or restrict, (or sent their kid with a $250 electronic and made it sound like I MUST take better care of it than the child) then I HAVE to make a rule.

....and in my personal experience, it just took one or two super permissive parents to ruin it for everyone from that point forward.

[MyAngels]

I'm probably the only one here who does allow dcks to bring toys from home.
My rule is, if it becomes a problem, up it goes until the end of the day. My little 3 yo dcg brought in a really cute toy this a.m., just got it for Christmas. One of my toddlers of course runs up, and tries to take it away. A moderately noisy battle ensues and dcm says to dd, I'll just take it with me then. I piped up and said Yeh, maybe you better. Dcg starts crying and promises to share. So I offer her this: to play with it first, set a timer(she chose 3 minutes), and then she will give it to the next child. She was fine with that and it worked perfectly the whole morning. In fact, they only played with it for half an hour.

I do state in my handbook, I will do my best to take care of their personal items, BUT I am not responsible for any items brought in so if it's special, keep it home.

I don't have a problem with the kids bringing toys either. They know they can either share or it goes away until they go home. I do reserve the right to stop allowing toys at any time, but I've never had to do that.

I do like the idea of the Hotel California rule though .

[Cradle2crayons]

I implement the "Hotel California" rule with anything brought from home.

They can check in, but they can NEVER leave.



Once a toy is brought from home into my daycare home, it becomes my personal property.

If the family/child isn't giving it to me, leave it at home or in the car.

I've used this rule for years and it has worked for years.

Occasionally, I have been "given" some awesome new toys but NEVER from the same family twice.


My handbook DOES address this in detail so ALL parents know this rule ahead of time.

same here! Except once a month they can bring something from home and they do a small show and tell and they share the rest of the day. Of course, parents have to agree to this and sign that I'm not responsible for lost or broken toys. Although I've never had one lost or broken yet, it can happen.

[Punkin.Butts]

glad you made it here . Girl you have GOT to learn to say no make a sign and practice......Well three things

NO

I am sorry that won't work for me

Let me get back to you on that.


So speak up and tell them. Post a sign on the door and point to the rule as you say No and hand it back to mom.

Meg

eventually I am sure I will get to that.. you've known me for a few months now..you know I am terrible with this stuff!!

[providerandmomof4]

I do not allow food, drinks, or toys from home. Straight into their bags to take home if its a toy. If food or drink, it gets tossed. The other morn, I was in the bathroom when dcm dropped off and my grown dd let in dcks. Both dck had choc milk and donuts! It went right in the trash. I know dcg (4) probabley told her mom how mean I was but I thought it incredibly rude of dcm. The other kids were like, "I want choc milk and donuts."

I told dcg...sorry honey but thats not fair to the others. We all will eat the same thing, and its fine if mom gets you special that is for home... thats not for daycare.

She hasnt brought anything since...but I figure she'll try again soon.

[Blackcat31]

I do not allow food, drinks, or toys from home. Straight into their bags to take home if its a toy. If food or drink, it gets tossed. The other morn, I was in the bathroom when dcm dropped off and my grown dd let in dcks. Both dck had choc milk and donuts! It went right in the trash. I know dcg (4) probabley told her mom how mean I was but I thought it incredibly rude of dcm. The other kids were like, "I want choc milk and donuts."

I told dcg...sorry honey but thats not fair to the others. We all will eat the same thing, and its fine if mom gets you special that is for home... thats not for daycare.

She hasnt brought anything since...but I figure she'll try again soon.

Careful with that one.... I used to have one that did that too and ALWAYS stupid stuff for breakfast, like giant donuts, Skittles or Chocolate covered peanuts.

I just kept throwing it out telling the child (and eventually the parent too) that it isn't fair to the other kids so DCM started bringing enough for everyone.

I finally just had to say "Stop bringing stuff! Period!"

[TwinKristi]

I don't allow toys on a regular basis and it doesn't seem anyone brings toys of the two I have now, but the other 2 I had before did the all the time and it was 100% the parents not taking it away and saying no. As soon as it starts a problem, which for this specific under 2yr old who was waaaay over-possessive and hates sharing happened in like 30 seconds, I put it up high for mom to get at pickup or if they're old enough to understand, in their cubby. One boy brought a huge Woody doll that wouldn't fit so it got out up and forgotten. I happened to be going on the same street they live on the next day and offered to drop it off to them and then I couldn't find the hat?! I knew I'd just had it!! Ugh! So we found the hat and crammed him in the cubby! LOL I think for future kids I will just say no toys, any toys brought here will have the Hotel California rule as well! I like that!!!

[GKJNIGMN]

I do what Black Cat does but always felt like I was the only one who did it and was probably being a little hard. Not that I was going to change it

If they bring it, I keep it. If they show up with candy, I toss it. I have a couple of kids that always show up with an entire bag of goldfish crackers for each of the 2 siblings. I use them for snacks for everyone at snack time even though DCM only sent them because she isn't able to stand up to her kids and take them away and they weren't intended for all.

I love the idea of making the parent take the item away. I know some of the parents couldn't do it though.

[itlw8]

eventually I am sure I will get to that.. you've known me for a few months now..you know I am terrible with this stuff!!

I know but we are all going to help you grow a backbone... and I mean it practice those three phrases. They will make your life easier. if not for childcare but to deal with something to do with your kids.... stop think about it and then give them your answer.

If this is important to you you need to speak up nicely but speak up.

[Childminder]

I have in my handbook that if a cup, bottle or toy is brought into day care will be considered a donation to my program.

[Unregistered]

I'm probably the only one here who does allow dcks to bring toys from home.
My rule is, if it becomes a problem, up it goes until the end of the day. My little 3 yo dcg brought in a really cute toy this a.m., just got it for Christmas. One of my toddlers of course runs up, and tries to take it away. A moderately noisy battle ensues and dcm says to dd, I'll just take it with me then. I piped up and said Yeh, maybe you better. Dcg starts crying and promises to share. So I offer her this: to play with it first, set a timer(she chose 3 minutes), and then she will give it to the next child. She was fine with that and it worked perfectly the whole morning. In fact, they only played with it for half an hour.

I do state in my handbook, I will do my best to take care of their personal items, BUT I am not responsible for any items brought in so if it's special, keep it home.

No, you are not the only one!

I intentionally allow toys from home-

My policy states:

one toy from home at a time

For me This is an important way to bridge home and child care

They DO NOT have to share...that's right! My policy states they have to share everything else at child care, and an item from home is their special item. My policy also states a child is not allowed to share with only one or two children...if they decide to share everyone can see/use it. If it is a problem it goes in their cubby.

I reserve the right to limit or cancel this privilege if problems arise.

The only time I have had problems is when I had lots of two yr olds! Yea, big surprise.

I find it's comforting for kids to bring an item from home and just plain fun for them.

For me it just feels right to allow this....I do understand why many providers do not want to deal with the toys from home issue and respect that too.