Don't Bring Your Toys From Home!!

[Punkin.Butts]

two DCK's constantly bring toys from home and then won't share them with my kids or any other dck's. I always take them away as soon as mom walks out the door but they NEVER TAKE THEM HOME! the mom just says, oh keep it here for them to play with!
I have enough toys I don't need other peoples that I need to care for and maintain the value of on top of my own!

Not to mention, this mom knows that we eat lunch at 1230 sharp. she'll walk in at 1210 with the kids eatting mcdonalds fries or cookies and then expect them to eat a good solid lunch? NOT going to happen! however, they WILL sit at the table and follow all the rules just as every other child does/will. I take the items mom brought with them AWAY and put them on the counter and tell them they can have them bck AFTER lunch.

[melonieb]

I have a kid that brings in toys at drop off. I collect them at the door and hand them to mom. I told all parents, that they pleased do not bring toys to daycare. Happened two times and never again.

[Leigh]

If Mom wants you to keep them there, then I would say they are "daycare toys" to be shared by all. If that doesn't work for her and her kids, simply insist that they go back home and stay there.

[Blackcat31]

I implement the "Hotel California" rule with anything brought from home.

They can check in, but they can NEVER leave.



Once a toy is brought from home into my daycare home, it becomes my personal property.

If the family/child isn't giving it to me, leave it at home or in the car.

I've used this rule for years and it has worked for years.

Occasionally, I have been "given" some awesome new toys but NEVER from the same family twice.


My handbook DOES address this in detail so ALL parents know this rule ahead of time.

[Cat Herder]

1. two DCK's constantly bring toys from home; I always take them away as soon as mom walks out the door

2. they NEVER TAKE THEM HOME! the mom just says, oh keep it here for them to play with!

3. this mom knows that we eat lunch at 1230 sharp. she'll walk in at 1210 with the kids eating McDonald's fries or cookies; I take the items mom brought with them AWAY and put them on the counter and tell them they can have them bck AFTER lunch


I am going to be brutally honest because I don't have enough time to sugar coat a response right now.... YOU are the issue with this, not the Mom.

Parents will only treat you and your program with the respect you DEMAND of them.

Passive aggressively taking the items AFTER the Mom leaves, does nothing but allow this issue to fester.

When she brings toys in, hand them back to Mom. When she brings food in, hand it back to Mom. Problem solved.

Others can tell you I say this from the heart... I promise I do. I learned this the hard way, too.

I am off to vacuum debris from a massive glitter tornado... wish me luck.

[Unregistered]

I have in my contract not to bring toys from home. Your child is allowed to bring a blanket or special stuffed animal from home for nap time. The items will be put into their cubby until nap time. I am changing this in my 2014 contract. This one family (1 day a week) does follow the rules but my contract has holes for them to pass by. The stuffed animal is a fur real pet, some kind of cool noise making stuffed animal, the new stuffie pets, a animal with a zipper that is also a coin purse exc. It is usually a different animal every time. So they aren't technically breaking any rules. That's going to be changing to something like only stuffed animals that don't make noise or move! Lol!

[daycare]

UGH>>>

I had this happen this morning with a DCM that has been with me for 3 years. Her DCB walks in with a toy and says can the toy stay it's new, he just got it for christmas and does not want to leave it at home.

I don't care how much it cost, how new it is or where it came from, all toys that come in my home go straight to the trash can. DCM knows my rule.

The toy did not make it past the foyer of my home

[Mac's Mom]

What drives me nuts is when I do take it and put it away the mom or dad say "Sorry Bobby wouldn't let me take it away!" Um who is the parent? :confused:

[Naptime yet?]

Yes! I had toddler bring a balloon & at pickup dad said, "I had to give him a bath with that last night because I didn't want to hear him scream." Exactly. And btw, he didn't scream when I took it away from him as soon as mom left that am.

[itlw8]

two DCK's constantly bring toys from home and then won't share them with my kids or any other dck's. I always take them away as soon as mom walks out the door but they NEVER TAKE THEM HOME! the mom just says, oh keep it here for them to play with!
I have enough toys I don't need other peoples that I need to care for and maintain the value of on top of my own!

Not to mention, this mom knows that we eat lunch at 1230 sharp. she'll walk in at 1210 with the kids eatting mcdonalds fries or cookies and then expect them to eat a good solid lunch? NOT going to happen! however, they WILL sit at the table and follow all the rules just as every other child does/will. I take the items mom brought with them AWAY and put them on the counter and tell them they can have them bck AFTER lunch.

glad you made it here . Girl you have GOT to learn to say no make a sign and practice......Well three things

NO

I am sorry that won't work for me

Let me get back to you on that.


So speak up and tell them. Post a sign on the door and point to the rule as you say No and hand it back to mom.

Meg

[Josiegirl]

I'm probably the only one here who does allow dcks to bring toys from home.
My rule is, if it becomes a problem, up it goes until the end of the day. My little 3 yo dcg brought in a really cute toy this a.m., just got it for Christmas. One of my toddlers of course runs up, and tries to take it away. A moderately noisy battle ensues and dcm says to dd, I'll just take it with me then. I piped up and said Yeh, maybe you better. Dcg starts crying and promises to share. So I offer her this: to play with it first, set a timer(she chose 3 minutes), and then she will give it to the next child. She was fine with that and it worked perfectly the whole morning. In fact, they only played with it for half an hour.

I do state in my handbook, I will do my best to take care of their personal items, BUT I am not responsible for any items brought in so if it's special, keep it home.

[coolconfidentme]

I don't take the toy away..., I make the parent do it. If they try to throw me under the bus saying I won't let them have it here I chime in, "Mommy has to follow the rules, just like we do!" (I then smile brightly.)

[Heidi]

I'm probably the only one here who does allow dcks to bring toys from home.
My rule is, if it becomes a problem, up it goes until the end of the day. My little 3 yo dcg brought in a really cute toy this a.m., just got it for Christmas. One of my toddlers of course runs up, and tries to take it away. A moderately noisy battle ensues and dcm says to dd, I'll just take it with me then. I piped up and said Yeh, maybe you better. Dcg starts crying and promises to share. So I offer her this: to play with it first, set a timer(she chose 3 minutes), and then she will give it to the next child. She was fine with that and it worked perfectly the whole morning. In fact, they only played with it for half an hour.

I do state in my handbook, I will do my best to take care of their personal items, BUT I am not responsible for any items brought in so if it's special, keep it home.

You're not the only one, and I also reserve the right to put a stop to it if it becomes a problem. One little guy brings a stuffed animal just about every day, and my favorite former dcb always had to bring a toy car. It was never a problem. I do not allow "blankies" though, dragged back and forth. I have yet to see one not be an issue. Dragged around, and as soon as someone sits on hit...YANK! Blankie kids (usually older when they start) learn right away that they go into the cubby until nap time.

I love BC"s Hotel California rule, though. If it every becomes an issue, I'm going with that!

[Maria2013]

I implement the "Hotel California" rule with anything brought from home.

They can check in, but they can NEVER leave.

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[Bookworm]

I designate one day a week for toys. Children who bring toys on the other days get the choice to give it back to Mom or give it to me to keep for the center. It only takes one time and they understand. It also helps that the parents back me totally on this.