Ok, sorry this is probably going to get long because I'm super frustrated about it, and that's when I tend to ramble, like I'm already doing ...
DCG (2.5) has been coming here for about 2 months. Switching from a previous provider who shut down, and apparently this previous provider was a perfect saint according to DCM. Just this last week, DCG has started having a hard time at drop offs - being very clingy to her mom, and crying for anywhere from 1 -20 minutes. Normal for her age. Nothing extreme. This little girl is spoiled though ... and knows she can totally control DCM (HAD to come in with lip gloss in her hand one morning because mom wouldn't take it away from her because DCG gave her a look ...). So we've been dealing with it. She has also had a cold all week, which doesn't help, and DCM is actually home all week because they are getting their floors redone, or something like that. DCM is one to say, "I'm going to miss you so much" over and over and over again while walking out the door. Or tells her "I'll be right back. I just have to go do something real quick. I'll be back in a minute" ... I have just started taking her out of DCM's arms, I say "say bye momma" and we walk away.
This morning, DCG is dropped off, cries for about 5 minutes, I have her sitting at the table for breakfast when DCM knocks on the door. I go over and she says "I forgot to give you the check" ... I tell her she can bring it back with her later, that DCG is doing fine now ... she says she doesn't know who is picking DCG up today so she comes in and then DCG sees her and throws a MAJOR fit. So DCM walks over to her at the table, picks her up and starts telling her how much she's going to miss her. THen she leaves. So DCG is throwing herself on the floor, pushing me away when I try to pick her up, crying and screaming so hard she is nearly puking.
I texted DCM and told her what was happening, and she said "I tried to just come in but the door was locked" (It was not) "Previous DCP always had to have her door unlocked because of state regulations so that parents could drop things off if they forgot things", and "I hope you can be compassionate and understanding about DCG being upset. It breaks my heart when she's crying like that" and "I don't know what has happened to make her not want to come to your house anymore" ...
I just feel lost, like I'm not going to get through to her that separation anxiety is normal, we need to keep drops off short and sweet, etc, like I have told her EVERY DAY. Am I doing something wrong? I feel like she doesn't see me as being "compassionate" because I don't stand there and hug and cry with her daughter as she's having a tantrum ...
DCG (2.5) has been coming here for about 2 months. Switching from a previous provider who shut down, and apparently this previous provider was a perfect saint according to DCM. Just this last week, DCG has started having a hard time at drop offs - being very clingy to her mom, and crying for anywhere from 1 -20 minutes. Normal for her age. Nothing extreme. This little girl is spoiled though ... and knows she can totally control DCM (HAD to come in with lip gloss in her hand one morning because mom wouldn't take it away from her because DCG gave her a look ...). So we've been dealing with it. She has also had a cold all week, which doesn't help, and DCM is actually home all week because they are getting their floors redone, or something like that. DCM is one to say, "I'm going to miss you so much" over and over and over again while walking out the door. Or tells her "I'll be right back. I just have to go do something real quick. I'll be back in a minute" ... I have just started taking her out of DCM's arms, I say "say bye momma" and we walk away.
This morning, DCG is dropped off, cries for about 5 minutes, I have her sitting at the table for breakfast when DCM knocks on the door. I go over and she says "I forgot to give you the check" ... I tell her she can bring it back with her later, that DCG is doing fine now ... she says she doesn't know who is picking DCG up today so she comes in and then DCG sees her and throws a MAJOR fit. So DCM walks over to her at the table, picks her up and starts telling her how much she's going to miss her. THen she leaves. So DCG is throwing herself on the floor, pushing me away when I try to pick her up, crying and screaming so hard she is nearly puking.
I texted DCM and told her what was happening, and she said "I tried to just come in but the door was locked" (It was not) "Previous DCP always had to have her door unlocked because of state regulations so that parents could drop things off if they forgot things", and "I hope you can be compassionate and understanding about DCG being upset. It breaks my heart when she's crying like that" and "I don't know what has happened to make her not want to come to your house anymore" ...
I just feel lost, like I'm not going to get through to her that separation anxiety is normal, we need to keep drops off short and sweet, etc, like I have told her EVERY DAY. Am I doing something wrong? I feel like she doesn't see me as being "compassionate" because I don't stand there and hug and cry with her daughter as she's having a tantrum ...
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