I need help with my ds. I badly need help... I am beyond frustrated that I'm near tears. I'm so sorry if this is long.
He's 6 and in the first grade. We (mainly me) have had problems with his behavior since he was about 3. He tells me "no" for every single thing I ask of him. It feels like it's a habitual thing, but he sticks to it and doesn't waiver. He simply downright refuses to do anything I ask without a fight. It's a rare day that he says "ok, mom" and just does it.
He screams... a lot. Not only during arguments, but also just randomly. He will yell out or screech at random times while he's playing. When he does it out of nowhere it's like a high pitched "meh" or "aaah". I'm cringing just thinking about the sounds he makes
He seems to find a target and just bug them until they can't take it anymore... both children and adults! Kind of like "I'm not touching you. I'm not touching you". I'm fairly positive he drives my family insane.
He has no problems at school and is pretty much a model student. He is kind to his friends when they are here and seems to save his problem behavior for family.
Discipline wise I try so hard to be consistent, but I'm exhausted. Ive grounded him for several weeks and it doesn't phase him. At one point I bagged up ALL of his toys and threw them in the garage! He didn't care one bit. DH and I both spank him and for DH he will cry and say sorry, but for me he literally sits there calmly and TRIES NOT TO LAUGH!
Just today I spanked him and told him to go to his room and he grabbed the closest thing to him and threw it. It was his Lego creation that he'd been working on and was so proud of. He didn't care. He will grab and destroy whatever is in his way while in a fit of rage. He kicks and hits the walls.
I have not mentioned any of this to his doctor... I have been certain (and DH certainly still believes) that this is all my fault. I discipline consistently. I AM tough on him when I feel he needs it.. which lately is so often. But he sees me baby him (while he's good, of course) and feels that is the cause of all of this. He IS my baby and will always be my ONLY baby, but I'm well aware of when to give him lovin's and when not to.
I desperately need help and you all have been so great with all of your knowledge. I'm so tired of feeling like a bad mother and that I've let my child down.
He's 6 and in the first grade. We (mainly me) have had problems with his behavior since he was about 3. He tells me "no" for every single thing I ask of him. It feels like it's a habitual thing, but he sticks to it and doesn't waiver. He simply downright refuses to do anything I ask without a fight. It's a rare day that he says "ok, mom" and just does it.
He screams... a lot. Not only during arguments, but also just randomly. He will yell out or screech at random times while he's playing. When he does it out of nowhere it's like a high pitched "meh" or "aaah". I'm cringing just thinking about the sounds he makes
He seems to find a target and just bug them until they can't take it anymore... both children and adults! Kind of like "I'm not touching you. I'm not touching you". I'm fairly positive he drives my family insane.
He has no problems at school and is pretty much a model student. He is kind to his friends when they are here and seems to save his problem behavior for family.
Discipline wise I try so hard to be consistent, but I'm exhausted. Ive grounded him for several weeks and it doesn't phase him. At one point I bagged up ALL of his toys and threw them in the garage! He didn't care one bit. DH and I both spank him and for DH he will cry and say sorry, but for me he literally sits there calmly and TRIES NOT TO LAUGH!
Just today I spanked him and told him to go to his room and he grabbed the closest thing to him and threw it. It was his Lego creation that he'd been working on and was so proud of. He didn't care. He will grab and destroy whatever is in his way while in a fit of rage. He kicks and hits the walls.
I have not mentioned any of this to his doctor... I have been certain (and DH certainly still believes) that this is all my fault. I discipline consistently. I AM tough on him when I feel he needs it.. which lately is so often. But he sees me baby him (while he's good, of course) and feels that is the cause of all of this. He IS my baby and will always be my ONLY baby, but I'm well aware of when to give him lovin's and when not to.
I desperately need help and you all have been so great with all of your knowledge. I'm so tired of feeling like a bad mother and that I've let my child down.
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