Parental Double Standards

[Cradle2crayons]

I rarely deal with dads, but I don't give them any more of a break. Men are just as capable, some just choose to have more experience than others.

For instance, my husband has no clue what sizes of clothes, what meds my kids take, or how to pay a bill.

The fact he doesn't know is his fault. He has every opportunity.and he is just as capable.

So nope, no break for dads.

[SunnyDay]

Yes, I realized pretty early on that I felt judgemental toward moms if they brought their children to daycare when they had the day off, but not so much toward dads. It surprised me when I realized that I was discriminating. A year later, I think it is pretty ridiculous either way ::

[Unregistered]

If mom was the one who normally does it 90% of the time, then yes I might cut Dad some slack if he only did the drop offs & pick ups every now and then. I would likely do the same if the roles were reversed too. When it is something you do daily, then you get into a routine. When it is something you seldom do, sometimes pulling it all together goes less than smooth.

[Lyss]

I like my DCDs more than my DCMs (I don't dislike them BTW) but mainly that's because my DCDs are in and out, drop off and pick up in under 3 minutes! While DCMs linger... ::


I've never had an issue with DCDs, but I see them much less than I see DCMs

[Familycare71]

I like my DCDs more than my DCMs (I don't dislike them BTW) but mainly that's because my DCDs are in and out, drop off and pick up in under 3 minutes! While DCMs linger... ::


I've never had an issue with DCDs, but I see them much less than I see DCMs

I love quick dad pu/do!!! I have dads at least 50% doing it for my current dck. It's great!! Sometimes I'm holding them up!! :: I have to tell my self to shut my trap!!

[Meyou]

I give breaks to the frazzled that aren't gender based. There are days where everyone is just trying to survive their toddler and I can be sympathetic towards that from time to time. I go more by the frenzied fearful look in their eye than anything else. ::

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Nope! I don't care what gender you are. I am equally "mean" across the board.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I haven't ever charged a late/early fee but I do find that I give the DCD's a break a lot more. I actually appreciate that they don't talk so much at d/o p/u so it takes less of my time and I use that as a mental excuse for giving them a break on appropriate clothing, cleanliness of children, feeding them before they come etc ::

I also appreciate the Dads who are in and out! I only have one Dad here who wants to sit and chat about anything and everything.

[cheerfuldom]

No I dont have a double standard between genders. I will and have called out Dads, with no apology. But I also have a very hands on husband and expect that fathers, especially these days, step up and be a partner in parenting. They are not babysitting, watching the kids, helping out.....they are doing their JOB in being a parent to the kids they helped bring into this world.

I will say that I may be a little more accommodating with a single parent of either gender though.

Also, the last couple of years it is the Dads that handle the coming and going and I actually have a few moms that are out of touch. Moms working LONG hours that cannot answer a basic question about their child and I dont see them for weeks at a time. so maybe my situation is more unique.

[jessrlee]

I prefer my daycare dads!! If I ask for supplies or for behavior help the dads are right on it! It seems like my moms tend to blow me off

[daycaremum]

No favouritism here!! I seldom have a family break a rule anymore and give a get out of jail free card for first offense as long as it's no more than five minutes for late pick up. No free ride for anyone on late payments.

[jenn]

the parents I see trying hard or follow my rules I do give break's for. If it became more than occasional I would stop giving a break though.

I do this.

If the situation involves great kids, great parent(s), that don't cause any issues, I will overlook at few minutes late, on occasion.

I don't do early (even a few minutes). I open at 7:15 and the door does not open until then.

I will admit that I usually find dad drop offs and pick ups easier. They drop and go, pick up and go. No chit chat, small talk,...I like it. Years ago I had a dad that wanted to hang around, like as in sit down, watch TV, chat about anything and everything...so there's always an exception to everything!

[Josiegirl]

I'm easy. I give everybody a break. I don't remember the last time I had a problem with early drop-offs but have been too lax with pick-ups. And now I'm finding myself in the position where it's a common occurrence rather than the occasional thing(so how the heck do I start enforcing it now?). However, most of the dcps are wonderful. For example, one of my new families brought in a big box of kleenex and baby wipes the other day.

[MarinaVanessa]

I guess I'm mean. I don't give anyone a break ::

Ha ha me too!! Call me Meanie Marina ::

[Mister Sir Husband]

Well, I'm not cutting any guys breaks for anything... If I can watch/ entertain 5-7 kids all day, and your having a rough time with the 1 or 2 your leaving with me?