How Long Are You Willing To Wipe A Child?

[AmyKidsCo]

Once they've progressed to the point that they're going all by themselves I'm out of the picture. Even when they're learning I have them wipe themselves, but I supervise and help if needed. Just like everything else, they won't learn if they don't practice.

[Cradle2crayons]

I had a problem related to this last week. My sibling group contains a girl who will turn four next week. I've had them both for about four months. At interview, I specifically asked mom if she was independently able to potty and she said yes, she does everything all by herself. The first few weeks I did a quick check just to be sure and all has been great this whole time until last week. Mom doesn't bathe the kids often enough and the next morning she noticed that the girl had removed her panties during the night and replaced them and mom noticed a streak of bm about the size of a dime on the panties.

So she calls me up pitching a fit saying that a child her age (almost four) can't effectively wipe themselves. I explained that not only did I not agree with that, but that apparently the girl could do it because for four months all had been well.

I reminded her about the potty talk in our interview and how mom stated the girl was "completely independent" which means just that. She says " oh well I thought you were going to help her wipe" :confused:

Anyway, it turns out mom was really only mad because I charged her a late pay fee and she incorrectly assumed that complaining would excuse that.

Keep in mind this mom drops off the kids in undies and a t shirt half the time (which doesn't bother me much) with their hair not combed and I know for a fact the kids don't get bathed enough orate east as much as they should anyway.

In the end, to answer your post, heck no you shouldn't wipe a child that age. I think it's just another case of a parent wanting you to raise her child and teach them how to wipe and or do it for them so that SHE won't have to deal with it.

[Play Care]

My 6 year son won't poop at school because he can't wipe himself very well. I've shown him over and over and over for years but all he ends up doing is smearing up his back every time :s

Do you have any of those flushable wet wipes? I know it's an added expense, but my own kids use them and do well with them. Neither of my kids will go at school because the school doesn't have wet wipes (and according to my one child the school t.p.feels like sandpaper!:: ) They are still young so I assume that they don't wipe the greatest and have them take a quick shower/bath each night for a soap down.

[coolconfidentme]

I had a parent say they need help teaching son to wipe himself before he starts school in the fall. I told her we mastered that the first week he came here. (5 months ago) She was amazed cause he still begs to be wiped at home.

[canadiancare]

I teach them how to wipe as part of toilet training and then they are on their own unless it is exceptional circumstances and I don't want feces all over my bathroom.

I explain to any parents who might complain about skid marks that the teacher won't wipe them in school so they need to learn how themselves.