How Long Are You Willing To Wipe A Child?

[crazydaycarelady]

Would you do it for a child turning 5 this summer?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

No, I would not. I would only do so if they had special needs. I don't wipe anyone who is fully potty trained. I ASSIST with wiping those that are newly potty trained for a month or two afterwards (at least, I have had to for one of the children here).

[Blackcat31]

Nope.

Being FULLY trained also means wiping themselves.

Unless there are some unusual circumstances, then I would definitely help them out.

[Play Care]

No, I would not. I would only do so if they had special needs. I don't wipe anyone who is fully potty trained. I ASSIST with wiping those that are newly potty trained for a month or two afterwards (at least, I have had to for one of the children here).

After we have mastered training I tell them I will check their work if needed but they need to wipe themselves. I always tell the parents that the Kindergarten teacher will not go in the bathroom with the kids at all, so they need to matter the skill lest they get a call to come pick up their child due to an "accident"

[SilverSabre25]

uugghh, I hate this topic. I never needed to wipe my DD after she trained (though I provided flushable wet wipes for a few months) but I have two boys right now, 5 (and heading to kindy in the fall) and 4.25 and both moms insist I have to help them. Well, I happen to not be comfortable with it any more. they're both too old. Sadly, the 5 yo needed talked through the entire process of wiping when I put my foot down a few weeks ago. SERIOUSLY?!

[crazydaycarelady]

He told me he was done. I told him to finish up and that I would not be wiping him. He walked out of the bathroom dropping poops chunks all over and crying for me to do it.

*sigh*

I just went ahead and did it. This is the boy I have been having so much trouble with. 3 more weeks.

I hate this topic too. I have 2yos who take care of their own business!

[daycarediva]

Only if it's messy enough to warrant a pickup! nope, nope nope!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

uugghh, I hate this topic. I never needed to wipe my DD after she trained (though I provided flushable wet wipes for a few months) but I have two boys right now, 5 (and heading to kindy in the fall) and 4.25 and both moms insist I have to help them. Well, I happen to not be comfortable with it any more. they're both too old. Sadly, the 5 yo needed talked through the entire process of wiping when I put my foot down a few weeks ago. SERIOUSLY?!

I would absolutely not wipe a child over the age of 3.5-4 because that is way beyond my comfort level!
I honestly wouldn't be able to. The farther away from 2 (when I still consider them to be "babies") they get, the less I want to see (not that I want to see/assist with potty duties anyways!) and come into contact with. I don't even come into the bathroom with children who have accidents ages 3.5 and older. I gently assist them through words or holding a bag open for them to place items in OUTSIDE of the bathroom door. I'm big on "privacy" here and private parts remaining behind closed doors.

[daycarediva]

I would absolutely not wipe a child over the age of 3.5-4 because that is way beyond my comfort level!
I honestly wouldn't be able to. The farther away from 2 (when I still consider them to be "babies") they get, the less I want to see (not that I want to see/assist with potty duties anyways!) and come into contact with. I don't even come into the bathroom with children who have accidents ages 3.5 and older. I gently assist them through words or holding a bag open for them to place items in OUTSIDE of the bathroom door. I'm big on "privacy" here and private parts remaining behind closed doors.

When did teaching wiping skills come AFTER potty training? With my own kids (and now daycare kids) teaching them to wipe goes hand in hand with using the toilet.

I have a dcb in care right now, he is 3.5 who doesn't wipe AT ALL and has messy BM's. Mom and I have gone round and round on it, but he was never taught to wipe and I don't feel comfortable seeing/having to touch PRIVATE areas on a child that age with no developmental disability. Now I have to stand outside the door, remind him to wipe and talk him through it. He usually ends up in tears over it.

On the other hand, 2yo dcg wipes just fine because as soon as she pooped on the potty, her Mom insisted she wipe herself. The first few weeks, we did a 'check wipe' ( :: ) after she was done wiping.

[MamaBearCanada]

Just stopped wiping a child who will be 5 this summer. Thought - what am I doing? Child was capable. Now I think 3.5 at the latest will be my general cut off. Having said that, how firm their BMs are does seem to make a difference in their willingness/success in wiping themselves. Sorry if TMI!

Added - was only doing a 'check' wipe

[Play Care]

I would absolutely not wipe a child over the age of 3.5-4 because that is way beyond my comfort level!
I honestly wouldn't be able to. The farther away from 2 (when I still consider them to be "babies") they get, the less I want to see (not that I want to see/assist with potty duties anyways!) and come into contact with. I don't even come into the bathroom with children who have accidents ages 3.5 and older. I gently assist them through words or holding a bag open for them to place items in OUTSIDE of the bathroom door. I'm big on "privacy" here and private parts remaining behind closed doors.

Me either! I worked in a preschool and we were NOT allowed in the bathrooms at all with the children. We had some children who were as young as 2 1/2 because they made the cutoff. There is a good reason why unrelated adults should not be in the bathroom with children once they are old enough to take care of their own business! It's for *everyone's* safety.

If I were the OP I would be having a frank discussion with mom about what needs to happen ASAP.

[williams2008]

No way! I'm sorry but I won't, as a matter of fact I don't even wipe my 2 year olds that are fully trained.

[Greenplasticwateringcans]

No way! I'm sorry but I won't, as a matter of fact I don't even wipe my 2 year olds that are fully trained.

My 6 year son won't poop at school because he can't wipe himself very well. I've shown him over and over and over for years but all he ends up doing is smearing up his back every time :s

[melilley]

My 6 year son won't poop at school because he can't wipe himself very well. I've shown him over and over and over for years but all he ends up doing is smearing up his back every time :s

My daughter was the same way. I don't know if she couldn't reach all the way or what, but finally around the age of 6 or 7 she started doing it right. Although, she still won't do it at school and she's 10! I think she gets embarrassed.

[luv2teach]

No, I would not. Unless the child had special needs. I have three year olds right now and I do not wipe them. I do have wet wipes if they need them, as some feel more comfortable using a wet wipe.