I wish I had found this board sooner! Today I finally gave in and decided to close my daycare. My fiancé has been begging me almost since I opened 11 months ago. Simply it is not working out! My two daughters are 5 and 7 and devastated I miss all their school functions and im tired all the time. They feel like I care for the daycare kids more then them. I have 22 month old son who has special health needs right now, tons of appointments trying to figure out a stomach problem and up coming oral surgery. The biggest problem is he is so misbehaved during daycare. He throws toys, hits and pushes. He is miserable he happy when the other kids aren't there. Recently he hurt a kid I care and I'm scared all the time he will again. I spoke to he doctor and he says he needs TLc from me right now. I also don't like sharing my house, I'm planning my wedding, my plate is so over full. I don't have to work, we will survive without it. I'm terrified to close. I am close with the parents and know they are relying on me. One of my daycare kids has a deposit down to go to a new daycare in august because when the dad found out I needed two weeks off for my wedding he freaked out because couldn't cover the time. Now I feel like what will they do? And a girl I have is suppose to start a preschool in the fall and I'm like what will they do now? I have to close however I am so scared of confrontation and disappointing people. I'm just looking for support so I can move on and care for my family.
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Originally posted by Daycare86 View PostI wish I had found this board sooner! Today I finally gave in and decided to close my daycare. My fiancé has been begging me almost since I opened 11 months ago. Simply it is not working out! My two daughters are 5 and 7 and devastated I miss all their school functions and im tired all the time. They feel like I care for the daycare kids more then them. I have 22 month old son who has special health needs right now, tons of appointments trying to figure out a stomach problem and up coming oral surgery. The biggest problem is he is so misbehaved during daycare. He throws toys, hits and pushes. He is miserable he happy when the other kids aren't there. Recently he hurt a kid I care and I'm scared all the time he will again. I spoke to he doctor and he says he needs TLc from me right now. I also don't like sharing my house, I'm planning my wedding, my plate is so over full. I don't have to work, we will survive without it. I'm terrified to close. I am close with the parents and know they are relying on me. One of my daycare kids has a deposit down to go to a new daycare in august because when the dad found out I needed two weeks off for my wedding he freaked out because couldn't cover the time. Now I feel like what will they do? And a girl I have is suppose to start a preschool in the fall and I'm like what will they do now? I have to close however I am so scared of confrontation and disappointing people. I'm just looking for support so I can move on and care for my family.
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Originally posted by blandino View PostThis is going to sound harsh, but it always helps me. If push came to shove, your DCF would look out for themselves before they would look out for you. If sending their children to you was creating as much stress for them, as this situation is for your family, they wouldn't hesitate to find alternate childcare. So you need to look out for your family first and foremost, as your DCF would do for themselves.
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Another option for you to consider would be to open a before/after school only daycare. That would require you to be open for way less hours. You would also have the days free for your son's appointments and the kids would be too big for your son to accidentally hurt. It's just an idea.
Sometimes it's best to just take a break though. Leaving in good status always allows you to come back later and reopen. I did. A few years ago, I got pregnant with twins, was put on bedrest, had just gotten married, and was preparing to move. I had to close. It broke my heart but I knew I needed to be on bedrest and put my family first. I closed, waited until my life settled down and my twins turned 2, and then my hubby and I re-opened as a team. We've been open for just over 6 months now.
The daycare parents took the news very well for me. Most of them said they figured I was going to close with so many changes in my life. I'm sure your daycare parents will understand too. They wouldn't have chosen you if you weren't a good mom and good mom's put their kids first. Hang in there!
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Thanks everyone. It's really helping. I need to work up the nerve by Friday! I went to give notice I am closing April 12th... I had taken off the next week for school vacation week so that technically makes it 5 weeks notice but only 4 weeks tops left.
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Originally posted by JLH View PostAnother option for you to consider would be to open a before/after school only daycare. That would require you to be open for way less hours. You would also have the days free for your son's appointments and the kids would be too big for your son to accidentally hurt. It's just an idea.
Sometimes it's best to just take a break though. Leaving in good status always allows you to come back later and reopen. I did. A few years ago, I got pregnant with twins, was put on bedrest, had just gotten married, and was preparing to move. I had to close. It broke my heart but I knew I needed to be on bedrest and put my family first. I closed, waited until my life settled down and my twins turned 2, and then my hubby and I re-opened as a team. We've been open for just over 6 months now.
The daycare parents took the news very well for me. Most of them said they figured I was going to close with so many changes in my life. I'm sure your daycare parents will understand too. They wouldn't have chosen you if you weren't a good mom and good mom's put their kids first. Hang in there!
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Here I go being the odd (wo)man out again. It's understandable your children do not like the attention other children are getting from their mom. I'm having a hard time your fiance' is not supporting you in your business & is just adding to the stress you are already under. Do you verbalize any negativity toward his livelihood? Why would he?
Any new business is going to take it's toll & time away from family. Maybe I'm from a different generation, but kids will adjust if you don't give into the whining just to whine thing. Ask yourself: Will it be better for your children to go to a 9 to 5'r & not see you at all? Will you have to take time off for appointments & will your new employer be sympathies to my family? Can't you just hire a PT person to come over while you do what you need to do, when you need to do it?
In the end, it's up to you. If it's not for you .., it's not for you. Worry about you & not what someone expects of you. Good luck!
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Originally posted by coolconfidentme View PostHere I go being the odd (wo)man out again. It's understandable your children do not like the attention other children are getting from their mom. I'm having a hard time your fiance' is not supporting you in your business & is just adding to the stress you are already under. Do you verbalize any negativity toward his livelihood? Why would he?
Any new business is going to take it's toll & time away from family. Maybe I'm from a different generation, but kids will adjust if you don't give into the whining just to whine thing. Ask yourself: Will it be better for your children to go to a 9 to 5'r & not see you at all? Will you have to take time off for appointments & will your new employer be sympathies to my family? Can't you just hire a PT person to come over while you do what you need to do, when you need to do it?
In the end, it's up to you. If it's not for you .., it's not for you. Worry about you & not what someone expects of you. Good luck!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI will become a stay at home mom so no worries about what an employer will say and if anything ill go back to waitressing one night a week. My fiancé does support me and has but it's going a toll on everyone in the house and I am not happy as well.
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It really sounds like you have made your mind up so I would stop worrying about the DC families. You do what you have to do, just like the daycare families would do what they have to do. Once you make the announcement you will feel the relief you need You are giving them plenty of notice to make other arrangements!
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You could give them the names of some other daycares in the area, so they have a starting point to looking for new care. If I could close and just be a stay-at-home mom, I would do it!
I also see you are from MA. I know that we have had a terribly long, snowy winter. Come March, I am literally dragging myself to the daycare to work. It has been a rough stretch of weather, and it is definitely depressing. I totally understand why you feel it is time to be done! Good Luck to you!
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Running a daycare is not for everyone, and kudos to you for realizing that it's just not a good fit for your family .
Tell them in a professional and caring way and be done with it. They will understand I'm sure. Change is always hard, but in this case it's for the better.
Take care.
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