Today, 4yo dcg was repeatedly aggressive. It was happening right under my direct supervision for no apparant reason.
Incident #1 dcg choked dcb during morning circle. dcb and dcg were just sitting next to each other, dcb was singing and dcg was sulking and then BAM, she DOVE on him and was choking him with both hands wrapped around his throat. I had to forcibly remove dcg's hands from dcb (peel back each finger) before she would let go. Immediate separation from the group. dcg said "I don't know" when asked why she hurt dcb. DCB had finger marks on his neck for almost an hour, and she broke the skin with her fingernails.
Incident #2 happened not even 30 minutes later, we were lining up to go to the restroom and dcg shoved a different dcb HARD. He fell into another dcb who also fell and bit his lip and caused bleeding and a small cut.
Incident #3 happened as we were eating snack, dcg sits next to other dcg, both are munching bananas as I peel the rest for the other kids. Dcg reached over & yanked other dcg's ponytail so hard dcg fell backwards out of the chair and (of course) started to cry, she also bruised her elbow & needed an ice pack.
Then I called her mother to come get her. I separated her from the group completely (hula hoop). She was here within 45 minutes and dcb came over to tell her what dcg did to him. Dcm was upset with me, and I honestly was as well (edited to add-to have allowed it to happen more than once). Although I don't know that I could have done anything differently without separating her for the entire day. She is my roughest child, and sneaky about it, but the blatant aggression was a shock today. I was SO UPSET that I didn't even know what to say.
All of my daycare kids are ridiculously verbal and of course as I explained to each parent how their child was hurt at daycare the kids are telling who hurt them (I try not to name the offender).
This is NOT dcg's first incident, and if it weren't for daycare girl, I wouldn't have ANY aggression in my home at all. She is the oldest of my group, too! She was out sick Monday, and when I received the phone call and told the kids they all CHEERED .
I sent home three kids with visible/lasting injuries, just received one phone call from a Mom (Dad picked up) and when dh came home and I spoke to him he says he REALLY thinks I should have termed immediately. Now that I have had time to cool down, I agree. Either way, I will be giving notice. I just read through my entire parent handbook and it's pretty vague, as in I don't have a listed # of offenses or incidents.
At 4 I would expect her to be able to control her behavior and not get physical, 99% of the time. But unprovoked extreme aggression? No way.
Incident #1 dcg choked dcb during morning circle. dcb and dcg were just sitting next to each other, dcb was singing and dcg was sulking and then BAM, she DOVE on him and was choking him with both hands wrapped around his throat. I had to forcibly remove dcg's hands from dcb (peel back each finger) before she would let go. Immediate separation from the group. dcg said "I don't know" when asked why she hurt dcb. DCB had finger marks on his neck for almost an hour, and she broke the skin with her fingernails.
Incident #2 happened not even 30 minutes later, we were lining up to go to the restroom and dcg shoved a different dcb HARD. He fell into another dcb who also fell and bit his lip and caused bleeding and a small cut.
Incident #3 happened as we were eating snack, dcg sits next to other dcg, both are munching bananas as I peel the rest for the other kids. Dcg reached over & yanked other dcg's ponytail so hard dcg fell backwards out of the chair and (of course) started to cry, she also bruised her elbow & needed an ice pack.
Then I called her mother to come get her. I separated her from the group completely (hula hoop). She was here within 45 minutes and dcb came over to tell her what dcg did to him. Dcm was upset with me, and I honestly was as well (edited to add-to have allowed it to happen more than once). Although I don't know that I could have done anything differently without separating her for the entire day. She is my roughest child, and sneaky about it, but the blatant aggression was a shock today. I was SO UPSET that I didn't even know what to say.
All of my daycare kids are ridiculously verbal and of course as I explained to each parent how their child was hurt at daycare the kids are telling who hurt them (I try not to name the offender).
This is NOT dcg's first incident, and if it weren't for daycare girl, I wouldn't have ANY aggression in my home at all. She is the oldest of my group, too! She was out sick Monday, and when I received the phone call and told the kids they all CHEERED .
I sent home three kids with visible/lasting injuries, just received one phone call from a Mom (Dad picked up) and when dh came home and I spoke to him he says he REALLY thinks I should have termed immediately. Now that I have had time to cool down, I agree. Either way, I will be giving notice. I just read through my entire parent handbook and it's pretty vague, as in I don't have a listed # of offenses or incidents.
At 4 I would expect her to be able to control her behavior and not get physical, 99% of the time. But unprovoked extreme aggression? No way.
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