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[Unregistered]

I usually post as seashell but for some reason I can't login. I'm too upset right now to keep trying. I have a dc baby who just started crawling. her parents freaked out because they say she's gone home the last 2 days and her clothes have been dirty and smell bad from crawling through something on the floor. this is the second child for this family, and they have been with me for 4 years, ft. we've never had any big issues. I told him I was very sorry I didn't know what she has crawled through. my floors get vaccumed everyday. Last.night I got down on my hands and knees to make sure there were no wet spots. dad came in early today with a bag and said his wife told him that he needed to inspect the house but dirt. I have no problem with it, because I have nothing to hide. he crawled around on his hands and knees and was sniffing my rug. then he gave toys and furniture a inspection. I don't know what was in the bag, he went into the play room by himself, as I was upstairs with the other children waiting for pickups. he said something about having wipes to clean up any grunge. I have nothing to hide. everything here is clean. am I wrong to be extremely insulted? I told Dad that he couldn't trust me to care for his children properly, we should consider ending our relationship. he looked surprized and ended his inspection. I would love to throw them out, but I'm having serious money issues right now. they recently brought in another family of two, and I'm afraid if I toss them I will lose that family as well. should I just suck this up and look for replacements or toss them now?

[Soccermom]

This is a tough one because on one hand I too as a parent would want to make sure the area my child is spending their day in is clean but on the other hand, as a DP I would be insulted to have someone sniffing my floors!

I do think it is funny that DCM had DCD go to your place to sniff your floors on his hands and knees...even funnier that he agreed!! My DH would be like..you want me to what? No way! LOL

Could someone have spilled milk or spit up on the rug? My DS spit up a lot as a baby and I would always wipe with baby wipes or a facecloth. My house never smelled bad and I cleaned all the time but one day I was lying on the floor playing with him and I got the nastiest wiff of something horrible! It was just all the spit up that you could not see but you could smell!! I washed the carpets and it was fine afterwards.

[Cat Herder]

This is a tough one because on one hand I too as a parent would want to make sure the area my child is spending their day in is clean but on the other hand, as a DP I would be insulted to have someone sniffing my floors!

I do think it is funny that DCM had DCD go to your place to sniff your floors on his hands and knees...even funnier that he agreed!! My DH would be like..you want me to what? No way! LOL

Could someone have spilled milk or spit up on the rug? My DS spit up a lot as a baby and I would always wipe with baby wipes or a facecloth. My house never smelled bad and I cleaned all the time but one day I was lying on the floor playing with him and I got the nastiest wiff of something horrible! It was just all the spit up that you could not see but you could smell!! I washed the carpets and it was fine afterwards.

This, but I also would have wanted to ask if my DH could sniff her carseat. ::::

The whole thing is just so odd. :confused:

[nanglgrl]

First of all I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Man there seems to be some crazy parents out there! I'm torn on what I would do in this situation.

One side tells me that I would show him where his child plays/crawls and let him get down there and smell it if necessary. Afterwards I would ask if he saw any problems with the cleanliness of my daycare. Since I'm sure the answer would be no I would then say "great, then this is the last time I expect to hear about this matter. If you can't respect the care I provide after 4 years of being a client we need to end our relationship."

The other side (and the one I usually follow) tells me that I would be so completely offended at his accusation that he would never step a foot in my house again much less get down on his hands and knees to smell my carpet. They have after all been with you for 4 years, why this now? It sounds like the new baby is making them act a little crazy.

One thing I do want to mention/ask though is if you have dogs or cats? I in no way mean to offend anyone who has pets it's just that I have a friend who is OCD about how clean her house is (and it is very clean) but it smells because of her pets and I don't think she notices because she smells it every day.

[crazydaycarelady]

I too can't believe the dcd agreeed to sniff around. My hubby wouldn't do that for all the money in the world. This whole thing seems weird to me, but IF I wanted to keep them and keep them happy I would probably change the baby into something else after arrival in the morning and close to pick up change her back into her other outfit so she is clean as can be!

[Michael]

I sent you a password reminder to you via email seashell.

[MizzCheryl]

I would remove my child from a daycare before I would get down on my dang hands and knees and sniff someones carpet. That is rude and condesending. I would be insulted that they chose to treat me like I was an utter and complete moron. I can see that things happen and maybe a child could crawl thru some spit up on something but to act in the way n utterly rediculous. Could you please record this dad on his hands and knees smeeling you house? I would love to send that in to a few places. I bet you could win some money.
My vote... NUTJOBS!!!!!!!!

[e.j.]

Wow! Just when I think I've heard it all someone posts about a situation like this that makes me shake my head and feel truly blessed for the day care families I have! I would have been so tempted to kick his a$$ while he was crawling around on the floor. Unbelievable!

[cheerfuldom]

Wow! Just when I think I've heard it all someone posts about a situation like this that makes me shake my head and feel truly blessed for the day care families I have! I would have been so tempted to kick his a$$ while he was crawling around on the floor. Unbelievable!

I know right?! LOL

sheeesh! just when you thought you had heard it all! If I desperately needed the money, I would buy her a few outfits to change into at daycare and then change her back into her own clothing before pickup. if they still keep complaining, i would tell them what I was doing and how I knew for sure it was not my house

It might be their car seat......

This reminds me of a mom that was SOOOO upset her daughter was taking her diaper off during nap. It happened twice before I insisted they send her in a onesie. Mom busts into the house and rushes to the nap room saying she wanted to see where her daughter was sleeping and what was "making" her take her diaper off.....what?!?! I was so shocked and just let her have at it. Mom had seen the nap room.....its an empty room with beds and PNPs. She barged into the room and then stood in the middle confused because there was no bogey man in the corner, I guess. The whole thing was ridiculous

[e.j.]

This reminds me of a mom that was SOOOO upset her daughter was taking her diaper off during nap. It happened twice before I insisted they send her in a onesie. Mom busts into the house and rushes to the nap room saying she wanted to see where her daughter was sleeping and what was "making" her take her diaper off.....what?!?! I was so shocked and just let her have at it. Mom had seen the nap room.....its an empty room with beds and PNPs. She barged into the room and then stood in the middle confused because there was no bogey man in the corner, I guess. The whole thing was ridiculous

Like I said - just when I think I've heard it all........!::

[Bugsworthy]

Similar things have happened here, but not to that extreme. After the child gets dropped off, I put dcb into our socks, and shirt because mom is neurotic. Before pickup, I change him back. I would let dcd "sniff" around, but I would've tried to stand there and watch. If someone is inspecting my facility, I am watching them like a hawk!

[lovemykidstoo]

There is no way I would have allowed that to happen. As soon as he got down on his knees I would have kindly escorted him out. No way. That is just ridiculous.

[canadiancare]

are you another one of those weird daycares that lets kids rub poop on the floor?

I don't think I could continue to have a working relationship with a family who degraded me so badly. I can see random drop ins to check on the kids, I can see commenting if the clothes smell bad and asking if something had been spilled on the carpet or if they had crawled in something on the grass. I can't see sending my child somewhere where I felt the need to sniff the floor. Rude.

I hope your finances straighten out soon and you can give them the boot.

[sharlan]

Do you have any pets?

Years ago, I had a cat that never peed in the house. All of a sudden, she started peeing in the baby's carseat. Of course, the parents were not very happy. They figured out that their dog would lay down next to the carseat at night. My cat peed in the carseat. I started putting a large toy in the carseat and they started putting the carseat onto the table.

I agree with what someone else posted. Change the baby's clothes when she gets there and change her back before the parents come.

I sweep daily, mop twice a week and vacuum daily. My babie's feet and legs are black at night. I wash them up before the parents come.

[seashell]

Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.