I completely disagree with your plan and have some ideas about why kids are not potty training "as it used to be".
First, diapers have evolved a ton in the last 10-20 years. They hold more pee and the kids feel less than they ever have. This trains kids to not notice their own bodily habits. That is no fault of the childs or the parents.
Second, I could teach every child, mine and my dck to tie their shoes at 2 years old weather they were ready physcially and mentally or not. I would have to work for weeks with each child, repetitvely teaching them the skills to hold the laces, then remember the steps etc. OR I could wait until they had mastered their muscle control and had a congnitve concept able to understand the skill. Then I could teach them in a short amount of time.
Same is true for potty training. Check out elimation communication. Some people "train" their kids as an infant. Appropriate, no. Still people try it. I am a frim believer that if you force something as intimate as potty training on kids they will resist you for a long time (years even). So putting a time limit on when kids need to be trained is IMO not appropriate.
If I interviewed in your home and that was your policy I would not for one second consider you as my childs care giver. Simply because I do not know how my child will develop physically and mentally over his entire lifespan. I can not guarentee that my kids will be 100% trained by a certain date on a calendar. And I think as a provider it is ridiculous that you would (by terming) set aside an emotional bond with a child- and for that child with the other kids in care- simply because he wasn't potty trained.
Btw, my own son became interested in training at 18 months on his own, we followed his lead. He was not physically capable of controlling it despite his congnitive interest. We let him be. He became interested again around 2 years 4 months. Again, he was ready cognitivley but his body was not. He was fully trained on his own (without my giving him prompts every 20 min) at 2.5 years. Did I do anything special- no. Should I be considered a good mom b/c of this- no. Would I be totally ok with it if he was still in diapers at 3 because his body wasn't ready-yes. I think the risks of pushing early training on kids out weigh the rewards.
First, diapers have evolved a ton in the last 10-20 years. They hold more pee and the kids feel less than they ever have. This trains kids to not notice their own bodily habits. That is no fault of the childs or the parents.
Second, I could teach every child, mine and my dck to tie their shoes at 2 years old weather they were ready physcially and mentally or not. I would have to work for weeks with each child, repetitvely teaching them the skills to hold the laces, then remember the steps etc. OR I could wait until they had mastered their muscle control and had a congnitve concept able to understand the skill. Then I could teach them in a short amount of time.
Same is true for potty training. Check out elimation communication. Some people "train" their kids as an infant. Appropriate, no. Still people try it. I am a frim believer that if you force something as intimate as potty training on kids they will resist you for a long time (years even). So putting a time limit on when kids need to be trained is IMO not appropriate.
If I interviewed in your home and that was your policy I would not for one second consider you as my childs care giver. Simply because I do not know how my child will develop physically and mentally over his entire lifespan. I can not guarentee that my kids will be 100% trained by a certain date on a calendar. And I think as a provider it is ridiculous that you would (by terming) set aside an emotional bond with a child- and for that child with the other kids in care- simply because he wasn't potty trained.
Btw, my own son became interested in training at 18 months on his own, we followed his lead. He was not physically capable of controlling it despite his congnitive interest. We let him be. He became interested again around 2 years 4 months. Again, he was ready cognitivley but his body was not. He was fully trained on his own (without my giving him prompts every 20 min) at 2.5 years. Did I do anything special- no. Should I be considered a good mom b/c of this- no. Would I be totally ok with it if he was still in diapers at 3 because his body wasn't ready-yes. I think the risks of pushing early training on kids out weigh the rewards.
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