Obscene Wording on Clothes!

[Okie_Care]

What do you all think? Friday, we had a little girl (18 months old) in the toddler class show up. A few minutes after her arrival, one of the teachers took a look at her shirt. The shirt had pictures and sayings from the movie "Mean Girls". One of the words printed all over the shirt was the word "wh_re" <-- put an "o" in the space. This family has been coming to the center since she was 6 weeks old. 1 - should we have said something to the mother and not allow her to wear these types of clothes in the future? 2 - just have the mother bring an appropriate shirt to change into. 3- not be concerned about it since the children in her class are all the same age and cannot read? However, she does come into contact with older children that can read and some that are old enough to know what the word mean.

This is a nice military family and we don't want to upset the mother. Suggestions?

[Rockgirl]

I would change the child’s shirt, then let the parents know the shirt won’t be allowed. The parents should know not to send a child to daycare in that…..even a nice military family.

Just say, “Hey, we noticed this word on dcg’s shirt….we can’t allow her to wear it here.” If that upsets the mom, she’s unreasonable.

[Alwaysgreener]

I may have turned the shirt inside out and talked to the parent. Happens again, change the shirt but not return the shirt.

[Michael]

It’s your business. If you don’t like it, tell the parents that you don’t want the child coming to your facility with offensive clothing.

[Springvalley]

Make a dress code policy for your childcare and state what's acceptable and not acceptable and consequences for not following the policy. Below is what our local school system here in Alabama has for their policy and the consequences:
1) Shoes or sandals must be worn. 2. Students shall not wear midriff shirts, tube tops, spandex, mesh, fishnet garments, backless tops, strapless
tops, tops or dresses with spaghetti straps, tank tops, halter tops, or pajamas in grades 5-12.
3. Shirts that expose a large area under the arms or expose undergarments are not allowed during school
hours.
4. Shorts shall be permitted in grades K-12; however, beginning in the 5th grade, shorts are permissible when
the length is at least one (1) inch below mid-thigh and not so tight that they would be considered disruptive.
No bicycle shorts, lace-inserted shorts, cutoffs that are not hemmed, or running shorts with slits on the sides
will be allowed.
5. Skirts or dresses must be no more than two inches above the knees. Skirts or dresses with slits in the sides,
front or back must not be more than two inches above the knee.
6. Tights, leggings, or yoga pants may be worn under dresses, skirts, tops, or shorts that cover your bottom &
front area completely at all times.
7. Students shall not wear sunglasses inside the school building.
8. The wearing of clothing advertising alcohol, tobacco, drugs, or suggestive words or pictures or symbols of
violence or death shall be prohibited.
9. Students shall not wear anything on his/her head inside the school building (toboggans, bandannas, caps,
scarves. hats, etc.).
10. Pants must be worn at the waistline, not sagging. They must not be so long as to come under the shoes
causing a trip hazard. They must not have anything written across the seat. Garments must not have any
holes above the knees.
11. Decorative contact lenses are not allowed unless prescribed by a doctor.
12. Garments, jewelry, or accessories that have chains, spikes or other potentially dangerous attachments are
not allowed.

[FlyingJewels]

Of all the nice sayings and better movies your kids could wear, they chose that one. ? That movie is trash. I’d definitely remove it or flip it inside out and tell parent don’t bring it back.