Neighbor's Daycare-Nice Wording Appreciated

[Wubby]

To be honest, I don't think I would do daycare without a fenced yard. It has always been my policy to never allow anyone not registered to be in my yard. Sometimes it is hard to see the neighbor's kids peeking through the fence, but it is to much of a liability.

[lovemykidstoo]

We live in a small town and in the summer all the kids think it's game on while we're outside anyway. I've always lived in the country so it's quite a shock that kids just show up at my house uninvited and start playing just because we're outside, with no phone calls from mom at least wondering where they are!!

So for that reason alone, we've been wanting a privacy fence.

And I'm only assuming it will happen just with how she has been with her own kids and letting them come over multiple times after being told we're busy or need family time. So I think you're right about not saying anything until it happens because I don't know for sure.

If you've already been thinking about getting a fence, then this definitely is the time. perfect write off too!

[Starburst]

I personally wouldn't even say anything until it comes up because I wouldn't want to even give her the idea.

As for the separating yards, if you don't have an actually fence (instillation can be expensive), I would suggest (if you are the home owner, if not check with the landlord) finding where the property line is and using some other type of physical or visible boarder line; such as bushes, flowerbeds, mini gardening fences, bricks/ cinderblocks, or even that powder they use on baseball fields to show a visible boarder. That way there are no excuses because she was "confused" about the boarder and she can teach the children that she plans to babysit where the boundary is.

[Tdhmom]

Our play area is on the side of our house, opposite of hers, she's on the other side of our driveway. So where we can put the fence would be perfect, and no one would be able to see in! And we own our home, so no issue there. It's just so expensive is why we've been putting it off for so long. I didn't want to waste our money on a chain link fence knowing that when we can afford a privacy fence I would just take it out.

And on a side note, I got a backbone today and then apologized my butt off later to explain myself better. Potential dcm (also a friend) wanted me to watch her kids that I'm her sub for when her daycare closes in August. I said I would under 2 conditions...she needs to be potty trained (I don't prefer diapers and will not potty train after the last dcb I had, and she's known this for a long time! Dcg will be 3 1/2), and pick up needs to be as close to 4:30 as she can. Not 5, not 5:15ish. 4:30. She's a teacher and gets out of school at 3:15. There is no reason she can't make it to my house by 4:30 for pick up. Her regular daycare lady told me today that she is perfectly able to be there by that time she chooses to go home and have 'me' time first. I'm thinking ::what's that?!
After I told her those conditions and never heard back from her (email) I decided to call and apologize and explain that it's not personal but 5 pick ups and after 5 are very hard for me. I've already been working since 7, my kids haven't had me since they woke up, it's family time at that point and I know my limits on hours and ages of kids. And if I came across the wrong way that I'm sorry. She told me she understood and then had been calling the only other daycare in our town ::
I think I dodged a bullet on this one!

[daycarediva]

I would tell her that for liability reasons, you can't have all of the extra kids playing on your toys. you are licensed for X amount of kids and that's all you're insured for.

Fence it.

They make the best neighbors.

Fences are SUPER easy to DIY and are soooo worth the investment.