Neighbor's Daycare-Nice Wording Appreciated

[Tdhmom]

Little back story-used to watch 3yr old dcg, mom lost her job then shortly after they moved in next door. I haven't watched her since November.
Little girl and brother (used to be in my sons class then he moved in with his dad and only is at moms house on weekends) come over to my house multiple times a day EVERY Saturday and Sunday. They get sent home a lot because quite frankly I don't want extra kids here on my days off.

I THOUGHT daycare hours were off limits because i haven't seen her trying to come over...until yesterday. Got a text from her mom about 2:30 asking if she could come over to play. I let her do it yesterday because I have a hard time telling people no

Well now she's wanting to babysit kids...which is fine. Whatever, I'm full so I don't really care. However, I do not want my yard to be the park for them. She has no outside toys (from what I can see). How do you ladies keep that separated? I don't want to let it even happen one day because then she'll keep doing it. So I kind of want to send her a text now explaining myself so the B-itch in me doesn't have to come out.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Ask what her plans are as far as outdoor play goes.

[Tdhmom]

Ask what her plans are as far as outdoor play goes.

Good idea!!!

[lovemykidstoo]

I would tell her that for liability reasons, you can't have all of the extra kids playing on your toys. you are licensed for X amount of kids and that's all you're insured for.

[Tdhmom]

I would tell her that for liability reasons, you can't have all of the extra kids playing on your toys. you are licensed for X amount of kids and that's all you're insured for.

Thank you! That's perfect! I am horrible at wording my thoughts and I always come off mean when that's not my intentions.

[Blackcat31]

Hey neighbor...

While I really do enjoy your kids, I have to let you know that my insurance does NOT allow for anyone NOT enrolled in my child care to be on my property during business hours and on the weekends, it is my family time so I am unable to entertain your children during that time, I am sure you understand. Thank you for helping me follow all the laws.

That's how I would personally approach it.

[NeedaVaca]

I would let her know that for insurance/liability they can't be on your property. I don't know that it needs to be said now, instead ask her how she is planning to get her yard ready for her new venture? Take it from there, she might ask to use your yard and then you can tell her that it's too much of a risk for you, tell her to watch craigslist or garage sales for outside stuff instead.

[lovemykidstoo]

Thank you! That's perfect! I am horrible at wording my thoughts and I always come off mean when that's not my intentions.

I know me too. Hard too with a next door neighbor. If she tries to come over with her daycare kids, I would just word it like, Jane, I would love to have you come over with the kids, but if something happened, my insurance wouldn't cover it. Talk over the fence or something maybe you'll get lucky and she won't even ask.

[melskids]

Get a fence. A very tall one, with a locking gate. LOL

[cheerfuldom]

Fence it.

[Tdhmom]

I was just talking to my husband about ways to put a privacy fence around our play area!

[Tdhmom]

Hey neighbor...

While I really do enjoy your kids, I have to let you know that my insurance does NOT allow for anyone NOT enrolled in my child care to be on my property during business hours and on the weekends, it is my family time so I am unable to entertain your children during that time, I am sure you understand. Thank you for helping me follow all the laws.

That's how I would personally approach it.

[Crazy8]

I would just tell her no to sending her kids over during daycare hours - texting was the perfect opportunity to do that!! but I honestly wouldn't mention her daycare intentions until it actually happens, especially since she isn't even watching any kids yet. And then the first time a child comes onto your property I would let her know about the licensing/insurance liability issues.

And if you can fence in your property I totally would!

[lovemykidstoo]

I doubt the fence would keep her away if that truly is her intentions, which you really don't know if it will happen. I don't think I would go to that expense and have it not work. Wait to see if that's her intention and then just explain that it won't work because of insurance.

[Tdhmom]

We live in a small town and in the summer all the kids think it's game on while we're outside anyway. I've always lived in the country so it's quite a shock that kids just show up at my house uninvited and start playing just because we're outside, with no phone calls from mom at least wondering where they are!!

So for that reason alone, we've been wanting a privacy fence.

And I'm only assuming it will happen just with how she has been with her own kids and letting them come over multiple times after being told we're busy or need family time. So I think you're right about not saying anything until it happens because I don't know for sure.