How do you get one of those? I keep reading threads from providers about kids who can't/won't put on their own coats, shoes, etc. and I just dealt with a huge tantrum because I dared touch my kid's shirt that she "want to do myself!" I have to tack an extra half hour onto leaving the house in the am because I know she's going to want to put on her own shoes and coat, and that's not including the battle earlier in the morning about getting herself dressed. Somedays I wish she would just lay on the floor and let me do it all!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostHow do you get one of those? I keep reading threads from providers about kids who can't/won't put on their own coats, shoes, etc. and I just dealt with a huge tantrum because I dared touch my kid's shirt that she "want to do myself!" I have to tack an extra half hour onto leaving the house in the am because I know she's going to want to put on her own shoes and coat, and that's not including the battle earlier in the morning about getting herself dressed. Somedays I wish she would just lay on the floor and let me do it all!
Maybe in allowing her to do it she'll get better and it will eventually take less time.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostHow do you get one of those? I keep reading threads from providers about kids who can't/won't put on their own coats, shoes, etc. and I just dealt with a huge tantrum because I dared touch my kid's shirt that she "want to do myself!" I have to tack an extra half hour onto leaving the house in the am because I know she's going to want to put on her own shoes and coat, and that's not including the battle earlier in the morning about getting herself dressed. Somedays I wish she would just lay on the floor and let me do it all!
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Originally posted by blandino View PostHonestly, and I mean this kindly. That is the main reasons providers are frustrated with kids who can't do things themselves. It absolutely takes longer, and is much harder to allow kids to do for themselves. But you just need to allow for the extra time. Most people are in so much of a rush that they don't want to give up the time to let children do things for themselves, and just do it for them because its easier. It won't take long for her to get faster, and soon it won't be an issue. Also, you can let her practice at night and that should improve her abilities, and make it a faster process.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostHow do you get one of those? I keep reading threads from providers about kids who can't/won't put on their own coats, shoes, etc. and I just dealt with a huge tantrum because I dared touch my kid's shirt that she "want to do myself!" I have to tack an extra half hour onto leaving the house in the am because I know she's going to want to put on her own shoes and coat, and that's not including the battle earlier in the morning about getting herself dressed. Somedays I wish she would just lay on the floor and let me do it all!
Doing things herself it hard work and it causes frustration not only for you having to wait but for your little that is learning and doesn't have it down like an adult does. I first try patience and then I do consequences- Practicing these important skills when not rushed is a great idea too. The child wants to show you their independence and that they are capable. Run with it....
Now when you have given ample time to complete the task and the child is not there yet, its ok to say we must go. your teaching limits and that life goes on, but good try let me help you and lets skedaddle on out. You don't want the child to think the control is completely in their hands all the time. I have seen parents that let the child control everything and that just sets the kids up for big disappointment in real life because they become unruly children that won't listen to adults, teachers etc.... and they end up having disorders because they were set up to fail and the parent really thought they were helping the child to be independent. Have to find a balance that works for you. Kids are well adjusted when they have good guidance, boundaries and discipline and of course love-
I wish you luck with this phase.
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Originally posted by blandino View PostHonestly, and I mean this kindly. That is the main reasons providers are frustrated with kids who can't do things themselves. It absolutely takes longer, and is much harder to allow kids to do for themselves. But you just need to allow for the extra time. Most people are in so much of a rush that they don't want to give up the time to let children do things for themselves, and just do it for them because its easier. It won't take long for her to get faster, and soon it won't be an issue. Also, you can let her practice at night and that should improve her abilities, and make it a faster process.
and its hard as a parent, because you get in the routine of how much time it takes to get the child ready and out the door. Practice when your not in a rush. I often do this with my littles, before the parents arrive. They gather belongings, and I show them how...... letting them do as much as they can and only helping them when they ask for help. As a parent we want for out children, we want to help them, but we forget that part of the child's growth is them helping themselves- its hard~
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostHow do you get one of those? I keep reading threads from providers about kids who can't/won't put on their own coats, shoes, etc. and I just dealt with a huge tantrum because I dared touch my kid's shirt that she "want to do myself!" I have to tack an extra half hour onto leaving the house in the am because I know she's going to want to put on her own shoes and coat, and that's not including the battle earlier in the morning about getting herself dressed. Somedays I wish she would just lay on the floor and let me do it all!
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It is hard when you have somewhere to go, and the kid wants to do it themselves, but as they get older (til teen years) they get faster than YOU are!
I would definitely consider this a blessing in disguise. It does take time at first,but oh so worth it down the line!
Pretty soon, your kid will be making mom pancakes before work!
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