I am coming to the realization that my loving precious 4 year old might the the terror
scenario: single mom working 40 hours
so active 4 year old has been in daycare and is used to it. She is active and playful but as her mom have not had much trouble. There are consequence and punishments for un acceptable behaviors, not many tantrums, etc....so when she got kicked out of her last daycare, needless to say it was a shock
and of course, since my daughters behavior that was being described there was NOTHING like sat home, naturally i assumed it was the provider not handling my daughter correctly, maybe just desiring "easy" children
after a paniced doctors visit i was assured my the pediatrician, nurse and receptionist that the daycare was bolonie and that she is a normal active 4 year old and the provider should be able to deal with her ( i am in the process of registering her in her school district for an observation to be on the safe side)
so now 3 weeks into her new school, there have been "general" statements when i have been coming to pick her up about "jenny doesn't listen, she does want she wants to do" i feel like im seeing a pattern and am very very stressed out about this. I do not have a big support group and can not do "half days" at pre school
Behavior: after 4 months in at her last dc, basically with out warning out of no where her last provider began complaining about defiant behavior, not listening, trashing some parts of the room, throwing things ( at teachers only, never kids) yelling etc. NONE of that behavior happens at home, next thing i know, after a 1 day trial of their Beauvoir mod program ( some reward thing they really didnt give a chance) she was out
so new provider is not dramatizing jennys behavior to the point where all of a sudden she can be mistaken for chucky, but i am seeing a pattern of challenging outside authority.
right before she was expelled from her last provider a punishment from me was in place, tv out of room, toys out too and we did not go anywhere for that weekend. her behavior improved at the new place so she got privileges back
I am afraid yo open up to the new provider for fear of judgment and type casting of my daughter ( last place i made myself more than available and that was, i feel, an excuse to "let me handle it" instead of them, ie constant calls to my job asking me to come and get her everyday around 2
iv noticed a lot of "bad behavior" happens around nap time. she wont take naps for her schools and then gets fresh (awont stay quite if not nap, gets up runs around wants to go on the playground, ect). i am in the process of enforcing her to nap at school.
So is challenging authority to this degree normal?
scenario: single mom working 40 hours
so active 4 year old has been in daycare and is used to it. She is active and playful but as her mom have not had much trouble. There are consequence and punishments for un acceptable behaviors, not many tantrums, etc....so when she got kicked out of her last daycare, needless to say it was a shock
and of course, since my daughters behavior that was being described there was NOTHING like sat home, naturally i assumed it was the provider not handling my daughter correctly, maybe just desiring "easy" children
after a paniced doctors visit i was assured my the pediatrician, nurse and receptionist that the daycare was bolonie and that she is a normal active 4 year old and the provider should be able to deal with her ( i am in the process of registering her in her school district for an observation to be on the safe side)
so now 3 weeks into her new school, there have been "general" statements when i have been coming to pick her up about "jenny doesn't listen, she does want she wants to do" i feel like im seeing a pattern and am very very stressed out about this. I do not have a big support group and can not do "half days" at pre school
Behavior: after 4 months in at her last dc, basically with out warning out of no where her last provider began complaining about defiant behavior, not listening, trashing some parts of the room, throwing things ( at teachers only, never kids) yelling etc. NONE of that behavior happens at home, next thing i know, after a 1 day trial of their Beauvoir mod program ( some reward thing they really didnt give a chance) she was out
so new provider is not dramatizing jennys behavior to the point where all of a sudden she can be mistaken for chucky, but i am seeing a pattern of challenging outside authority.
right before she was expelled from her last provider a punishment from me was in place, tv out of room, toys out too and we did not go anywhere for that weekend. her behavior improved at the new place so she got privileges back
I am afraid yo open up to the new provider for fear of judgment and type casting of my daughter ( last place i made myself more than available and that was, i feel, an excuse to "let me handle it" instead of them, ie constant calls to my job asking me to come and get her everyday around 2
iv noticed a lot of "bad behavior" happens around nap time. she wont take naps for her schools and then gets fresh (awont stay quite if not nap, gets up runs around wants to go on the playground, ect). i am in the process of enforcing her to nap at school.
So is challenging authority to this degree normal?
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