Hello Everyone!
I have to say how happy I was to find this site! It seems like a wealth of information and a great support system. I'm looking forward to hearing your feedback & offering mine
Now for my dilemma...
I have been providing care for a 4 year old child for the past 2+ years on a full-time basis. The parents are wonderfully sweet people who are thoughtful & quick to accept suggestions. Basically, they are a pleasure to work with. The mother approached me about a year ago to ask what I would charge for a sibling. I quoted her a price that she was happy with, after asking if I would be willing to hold a spot for her not-yet-conceived baby she got pregnant.
Believe me, I have been kicking myself ever since! That is a long time to hold a spot. It equates to over a $7000 loss in wages this past year as I didn't feel comfortable taking in a new child for such a short-term commitment.
So this past weekend I went to hospital with arm numbness that radiated down to my hands. I was admitted because the docs thought I had suffered a heart attack. Turns out it is degenerative spinal stenosis of C5 & C6. I am taking an anti-inflammatory to relieve the nerve compression. I see my family doc next week to discuss a treatment plan.
I am concerned about lifting & carrying a newborn. Lifting weight causes the burning and numbness to come right back. How can I best approach the parents with my concerns? In my experience, things are great until they're not. I can imagine & understand that they will feel angry, let-down, & disappointed, how do I break the news to them? They have said repeatedly that they only got pregnant because they knew they could count on me.
Just to be clear, I am not tendering my resignation. I just want them to be aware that I can no longer make a long-term commitment. I may be fine with the baby for 6 months or so, there is no way to know now. She is due around Christmas, I feel like expressing my concern now allows her ample time to decide what is best for her family & proceed.
Thanks so much for reading this through & for your honest feedback!
I have to say how happy I was to find this site! It seems like a wealth of information and a great support system. I'm looking forward to hearing your feedback & offering mine
Now for my dilemma...
I have been providing care for a 4 year old child for the past 2+ years on a full-time basis. The parents are wonderfully sweet people who are thoughtful & quick to accept suggestions. Basically, they are a pleasure to work with. The mother approached me about a year ago to ask what I would charge for a sibling. I quoted her a price that she was happy with, after asking if I would be willing to hold a spot for her not-yet-conceived baby she got pregnant.
Believe me, I have been kicking myself ever since! That is a long time to hold a spot. It equates to over a $7000 loss in wages this past year as I didn't feel comfortable taking in a new child for such a short-term commitment.
So this past weekend I went to hospital with arm numbness that radiated down to my hands. I was admitted because the docs thought I had suffered a heart attack. Turns out it is degenerative spinal stenosis of C5 & C6. I am taking an anti-inflammatory to relieve the nerve compression. I see my family doc next week to discuss a treatment plan.
I am concerned about lifting & carrying a newborn. Lifting weight causes the burning and numbness to come right back. How can I best approach the parents with my concerns? In my experience, things are great until they're not. I can imagine & understand that they will feel angry, let-down, & disappointed, how do I break the news to them? They have said repeatedly that they only got pregnant because they knew they could count on me.
Just to be clear, I am not tendering my resignation. I just want them to be aware that I can no longer make a long-term commitment. I may be fine with the baby for 6 months or so, there is no way to know now. She is due around Christmas, I feel like expressing my concern now allows her ample time to decide what is best for her family & proceed.
Thanks so much for reading this through & for your honest feedback!
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