I have one dcb who is now 3 who started here at 14 mos. His parents let him rule the roost and I mean literally. I dont think I have ever heard them tell him "no" for anything. At pickup time, he runs from his mom.... sometimes 2 or 3 houses away and she just runs after him and then offers him choices as to how to get back to the vehicle- give me a break. I pick my son up and carry him under my arm kicking and screaming to wherever it is we are going (my son is 2). I do NOT offer him choices in these matters. Anyway, this dcb does not pick his nose at daycare, I do not allow it. His mom comes in last week and says if you dont pick your nose today, you can have such and such toy and I was thinking to myself, well that shouldnt be too hard he doesnt pick his nose here. When she walked in at the end of the day, his finger immediately went so far up his nose I thought it was going to come out the top of his head. Then he proceeded to eat his booger. I was completely horrified and told her he does NOT pick his nose here. In the meantime as she was leaving it went in the nose and never came out. And, he showed up with his "toy" the other day, . Last evening Dad comes to get him and we are outside. As soon as dad picks him up to hold him the finger shoots into his nose and drills around......YUCK!!! I told the dad that he does not ever do that here. I honestly think they think it's cute. He is the same child who knows he is not allowed in my living room which is right by the front door. I wrote a letter to all parents last year asking them to please respect my rules and not allow their children in this room, but his parents think he is entitled to go wherever whenever he wants. When his mom arrives he "throws" himself onto this carpet every chance he gets and she doesnt say a word even though she knows I dont want him over there. He follows my rules when they are not around, but knows that as soon as they show up, they do not enforce rules and he "thinks" he is allowed to do as he wishes. Now that the weather is nicer, I have been taking the kids out front to wait for their parents so I dont have to deal with this. This mom walks in the other day and says "he just got up, so he needs to go potty and he didnt get his teeth brushed"...... um, so get up earlier and potty him and brush his teeth, this is not my job. Last month she brought him in his pj sleeper and said he didnt want to get dressed. I had a lady coming to evaluate my sons hearing that a.m., and wanted to have all of the kids fed and toileted before she came and then this crazy woman brings her kid in his pajamas???? If my kid didnt want to get dressed, I would not give them the option of not getting dressed. I would let them scream, kick, cry.... whatever, but they would end up dressed in the end. She also has been telling me for the past year that she doesnt like when he naps because he stays up too late. I put him on a nap mat and he is usually out within 5 minutes. I would say that he needs a nap. She has made the remark to me that she wishes he would go to bed at 7:30 and I want to say "then when would you ever get to spend any time with him?" She picks up at 5:30 and wants him in bed within 2 hours. Why have kids? I am closing in on 40 and dont believe in offering "choices". My parents raised me with rules and they were non-negotiable!!
Sorry for the rant, I am just amazed sometimes!
Sorry for the rant, I am just amazed sometimes!
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