I posted last week about my 5 yo almost out of the blue showing violent actions towards my dog. The last two weeks with him have been a nightmare. Last week there was only ONE day out of 5 that he didn't hit or kick my dog, or chase my cat around with a toy that scared the cat to death. I have watched him intently during this time, and noticed that these instances occur when he is angry; or when he is super excited about beginning an activity. This boy has energy that will last forever, and he's using my animals as his energy outlet.
I gave my daycare family a warning of probation of Friday. He has 30 days to improve his behavior, but in that period of time if he has another week like this past week; he will be gone immediately. Mom has accepted there is a major problem, but just keeps telling me they sit down and have talks at home. I have mentioned on more than one occasion that I believe he needs to be seen first by his pediatrician, and that I believed his Dr. would refer him to a therapist. She admitted he'd already been referred to a therapist months ago for OCD behaviors and that they had not gone yet. I urged her to let his Dr. know about the recent events. Still no mention of doing this, she just keeps saying they will have a talk. I told them on Friday that she has two options: take him to his Dr to discuss his recent violence towards animals or find a daycare that did not have animals. The reply is "We're going to sit down and have a talk with him."
I know most are wondering why I have done the probation and not just terminate care. Well, I only keep 3 children beside my own. DCB and his two siblings are my entire income. I want to try to work this out; and really I am so concerned about dcb that I want him to be seen by a therapist so we can all work on this together.
I have two questions:
1. Can I require him to be seen by a therapist to continue my care?
I really do think I have enough evidence to suggest his behavior is NOT normal for a boy his age. I have documented every single behavior of his since the first of this year, the actions I took to correct it, and parents reaction if any. He's always been absolutely defiant; but the violence and aggression has been very recent in the last 3 weeks.
2. Have any of you advertised for a potential opening when you have someone on probation?
In my case, I'd be advertising for up to 3 potential openings b/c I would assume if dcb goes to another daycare; that the other two would as well. How do I go about telling people that this is just a potential opening? Or do you just NOT tell them it's potential?
I gave my daycare family a warning of probation of Friday. He has 30 days to improve his behavior, but in that period of time if he has another week like this past week; he will be gone immediately. Mom has accepted there is a major problem, but just keeps telling me they sit down and have talks at home. I have mentioned on more than one occasion that I believe he needs to be seen first by his pediatrician, and that I believed his Dr. would refer him to a therapist. She admitted he'd already been referred to a therapist months ago for OCD behaviors and that they had not gone yet. I urged her to let his Dr. know about the recent events. Still no mention of doing this, she just keeps saying they will have a talk. I told them on Friday that she has two options: take him to his Dr to discuss his recent violence towards animals or find a daycare that did not have animals. The reply is "We're going to sit down and have a talk with him."
I know most are wondering why I have done the probation and not just terminate care. Well, I only keep 3 children beside my own. DCB and his two siblings are my entire income. I want to try to work this out; and really I am so concerned about dcb that I want him to be seen by a therapist so we can all work on this together.
I have two questions:
1. Can I require him to be seen by a therapist to continue my care?
I really do think I have enough evidence to suggest his behavior is NOT normal for a boy his age. I have documented every single behavior of his since the first of this year, the actions I took to correct it, and parents reaction if any. He's always been absolutely defiant; but the violence and aggression has been very recent in the last 3 weeks.
2. Have any of you advertised for a potential opening when you have someone on probation?
In my case, I'd be advertising for up to 3 potential openings b/c I would assume if dcb goes to another daycare; that the other two would as well. How do I go about telling people that this is just a potential opening? Or do you just NOT tell them it's potential?
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