I have a 15 month old who I have had since he was 9 months old. He has ALWAYS been a difficult child since he started with me. He has HORRIBLE separation anxiety and always has. He will scream his head off if I even turn my back on him. It stresses my kids and my dc kids out a lot. Even when he was just crawling he was constantly hitting and hurting people. I brushed it off as he's a baby and doesn't understand, but I still tried to redirect him or tell him no multiple times. Now fast forward to him walking around, he has got to be a MAJOR bully. He hits kids every single day all day long.
I have tried redirection, time outs, (which I know, he's WAY too young to understand) firmly saying no, just everything I can think of! I have never had a kid in my care be so violent! Yesterday I finally decided that enough was enough. He threw a toy laptop at one of my DCB who is two, not once but right after he had just got talked to about doing it! I gave them term papers stating that they had two weeks to find alternative care. Today she was civil at drop off, which shocked me because she had a lot of attitude yesterday and "unfriended" me on fb. () BUT, I don't think I can take another thing from this kid. This morning since he got here at 6:45am he has hit every single kids, threw toys 3 times at others, and BIT my 8 month old.
I am just FED up. I seriously want to call the mom and say to come get him and I am done. She has broke MANY policies in my parent handbook which in my contract says you must follow. So, I don't think she could get me for breaking contract. But would I be horrible if I called and threw in the towel already? Please help ladies, I need some advice. I feel horrible, but he is not only driving me crazy, but also my dc kids, my kids, my husband, my other dc parents! I should have termed A LONG time ago but I know his mom basically puts him to bed an hour or two after she gets him home from my house so I wanted to keep trying to work with him! She was on state assistance until the end of December and he was here 55 hours plus/week but now that she has to pay he is here his 35 hours a week minimum. So to me she was using the system I'm sure! I never asked what she was doing when she dropped him off because it's no my business; she has a job where she wears her street clothes so it's not like I would be able to tell what she was doing.
I have tried redirection, time outs, (which I know, he's WAY too young to understand) firmly saying no, just everything I can think of! I have never had a kid in my care be so violent! Yesterday I finally decided that enough was enough. He threw a toy laptop at one of my DCB who is two, not once but right after he had just got talked to about doing it! I gave them term papers stating that they had two weeks to find alternative care. Today she was civil at drop off, which shocked me because she had a lot of attitude yesterday and "unfriended" me on fb. () BUT, I don't think I can take another thing from this kid. This morning since he got here at 6:45am he has hit every single kids, threw toys 3 times at others, and BIT my 8 month old.
I am just FED up. I seriously want to call the mom and say to come get him and I am done. She has broke MANY policies in my parent handbook which in my contract says you must follow. So, I don't think she could get me for breaking contract. But would I be horrible if I called and threw in the towel already? Please help ladies, I need some advice. I feel horrible, but he is not only driving me crazy, but also my dc kids, my kids, my husband, my other dc parents! I should have termed A LONG time ago but I know his mom basically puts him to bed an hour or two after she gets him home from my house so I wanted to keep trying to work with him! She was on state assistance until the end of December and he was here 55 hours plus/week but now that she has to pay he is here his 35 hours a week minimum. So to me she was using the system I'm sure! I never asked what she was doing when she dropped him off because it's no my business; she has a job where she wears her street clothes so it's not like I would be able to tell what she was doing.
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