Wondering if I get all the bad luck, or just being picky? I know I have to do what works for my home and family so in the end I know I do the right thing, but I do start to wonder if I get too picky. Or maybe I just don't know when to say no and take on more than I should (I think this one is it!!??).
In the 3 years that I have been doing daycare I have let 4 families go..the first one the girl was BiPolar and the brother was always angry...it was a nightmare and they have bounced from daycare to daycare.....second one was a preschool boy with anger issues, he was let go from the previous daycare for hurting other kids and same thing happened here.....3rd family the boy wasn't the issue, it was the mom...always arriving late after my close time, leaving without saying thank you are goodbye, letting her son in her RUNNING car in the driver seat in my driveway unsupervised, and the list went on. Last one the boy kept hitting/throwing things at all the kids and it was getting stressful on all the kids here, including my own.
So after letting the last boy go, I had a mom call me that got my name by word of mouth (from my neighbor that has been watching them, she homeschools her kids and wanted someone else to take the moms kids 2-3 days out of the week so she had more time)...the mom has 2 girls ages 2 and 4 and a school age boy age 5. First the girls are very needy, they have said my name over and over and over all day long, asking for this and that or just saying the same thing over and over...they want something CONSTANTLY. My 2 younger girls ages 5 and 7 and the other 4 year old daycare girl don't get along with the new girls because the 4 year old tattles constantly and they get annoyed because the girls are constatnly wanting my attention and calling my name CONSTANTLY.
It certainly beats hitting and bad behaviour, but it makes my day difficult, especially when they don't click with the others here, and the CONSTANT needs seem excessive to me..I honestly think that is why my neighbor can't watch them every day, they are too demanding, even though I set rules and I know my neighbor has too, they continue to ask and need things all day long. Second, the mom's communication has been terrible and if this is how it starts, I should RUN now...
Just this week alone: she had her girls stay with a friend because she had to take her son to after care hours for an illness and FORGOT to leave her friend car seats to bring the girls to me, next day I wake at 6:20 waiting for the kids to arrive and when they didn't show, I called at 8a.m. wondering where they were and she FORGOT to tell me she had court that morning and would bring them a little later, THEN the same day she called in the afternoon to ask if her son got off the bus at my house ok because she FORGOT to call the school to let them know he needs to be dropped off here and not my neighbors house (which is several houses down the road)...THEN she called me last night asking if I could watch her GIRLS today (I was only scheduled to have the kids Mon., Tues., and Wed. this week) and that my neighbor would drop them off in the morning....so when my neighbor came this morning with all 3 kids, I was surprised as the mom told me it would just be the girls...THEN my neighbor said she would drop them off around the same time tomorrow too....What???? The mom NEVER said anything about tomorrow, it was only supposed to be Mon. Tues. and Wed. this week and while she did call to ask if I could watch the girls today I said that would be fine, she NEVER said I would have all 3 today and NEVER said anything about tomorrow. So ya, the communication has been aweful!!
I know I need to run from this one, but I just feel so awkward terminating after I just took them in. I have read some of you rarely terminate and I am starting to feel like the terminating queen...yet all these cases just didn't work out for me. I have 2 families that I have had for 2 1/2 years that fit in perfectly....am I running into all the bad luck or just being too picky??
In the 3 years that I have been doing daycare I have let 4 families go..the first one the girl was BiPolar and the brother was always angry...it was a nightmare and they have bounced from daycare to daycare.....second one was a preschool boy with anger issues, he was let go from the previous daycare for hurting other kids and same thing happened here.....3rd family the boy wasn't the issue, it was the mom...always arriving late after my close time, leaving without saying thank you are goodbye, letting her son in her RUNNING car in the driver seat in my driveway unsupervised, and the list went on. Last one the boy kept hitting/throwing things at all the kids and it was getting stressful on all the kids here, including my own.
So after letting the last boy go, I had a mom call me that got my name by word of mouth (from my neighbor that has been watching them, she homeschools her kids and wanted someone else to take the moms kids 2-3 days out of the week so she had more time)...the mom has 2 girls ages 2 and 4 and a school age boy age 5. First the girls are very needy, they have said my name over and over and over all day long, asking for this and that or just saying the same thing over and over...they want something CONSTANTLY. My 2 younger girls ages 5 and 7 and the other 4 year old daycare girl don't get along with the new girls because the 4 year old tattles constantly and they get annoyed because the girls are constatnly wanting my attention and calling my name CONSTANTLY.
It certainly beats hitting and bad behaviour, but it makes my day difficult, especially when they don't click with the others here, and the CONSTANT needs seem excessive to me..I honestly think that is why my neighbor can't watch them every day, they are too demanding, even though I set rules and I know my neighbor has too, they continue to ask and need things all day long. Second, the mom's communication has been terrible and if this is how it starts, I should RUN now...
Just this week alone: she had her girls stay with a friend because she had to take her son to after care hours for an illness and FORGOT to leave her friend car seats to bring the girls to me, next day I wake at 6:20 waiting for the kids to arrive and when they didn't show, I called at 8a.m. wondering where they were and she FORGOT to tell me she had court that morning and would bring them a little later, THEN the same day she called in the afternoon to ask if her son got off the bus at my house ok because she FORGOT to call the school to let them know he needs to be dropped off here and not my neighbors house (which is several houses down the road)...THEN she called me last night asking if I could watch her GIRLS today (I was only scheduled to have the kids Mon., Tues., and Wed. this week) and that my neighbor would drop them off in the morning....so when my neighbor came this morning with all 3 kids, I was surprised as the mom told me it would just be the girls...THEN my neighbor said she would drop them off around the same time tomorrow too....What???? The mom NEVER said anything about tomorrow, it was only supposed to be Mon. Tues. and Wed. this week and while she did call to ask if I could watch the girls today I said that would be fine, she NEVER said I would have all 3 today and NEVER said anything about tomorrow. So ya, the communication has been aweful!!
I know I need to run from this one, but I just feel so awkward terminating after I just took them in. I have read some of you rarely terminate and I am starting to feel like the terminating queen...yet all these cases just didn't work out for me. I have 2 families that I have had for 2 1/2 years that fit in perfectly....am I running into all the bad luck or just being too picky??
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